Rumination

Advice needed please: Has anybody ever been in a situation where something traumatic or heartbreaking was happening in their life and struggled with rumination? I know there is like a normal amount that you should process something and cry it out but I don’t know that it is conducive to anything to do that on and off for hours? Wouldn’t it at a certain point be considered unhelpful rumination? And if so how does one stop? Because I’m going through something so hurtful and confusing that I don’t know how to stop thinking about it and the usual distractions don’t work for very long. And idk how important this is but it just happened today so it’s very fresh which makes it even harder to not think about and “figure out” why x, y, z happened. Goodness, I’m sorry if I’m weird or a baby

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 4d ago

When you find out please let me know because it has been this for me every day for the past 10 years it's miserable

Username: MichelleVMichelleV

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4d ago

@Anonymous Have you been able to find help in processing this?

Username: Someone99Someone99

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4d ago

Wow, this is a difficult situation for you. Let me forward you the link to a video my therapist shared with me about mindfulness and meditation.

Username: Someone99Someone99

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4d ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phm_VPjijh8

Username: Someone99Someone99

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4d ago

Hopefully that will help you. Are you ok?

Username: psychedelic goldpsychedelic ...

Date posted: 4d ago

I’m pretty new to my ocd but have lots of experience with trauma. First, I’m sorry this is happening, it’s incredibly distressing and frustrating. Second, I find that trying to approach it with compassion for yourself vs figuring it out. Example, when I reflect on a traumatic event I immediately try to understand and figure it out, causing myself more stress and anxiety. If I begin to think about what I would say to a friend who is experiencing it, I’m able to begin to shift the perspective from understanding it to holding compassion for myself, which is easier to carry. It’s not perfect and maybe it won’t help, but I’m also noticing your apology and want to add that you deserve to receive support and compassion from ppl when asking for help, and I hope this message reflects that. Also ruminating is incredibly difficult to stop. I wish I had a solution, be gentle with yourself ❤️

Username: MichelleVMichelleV

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4d ago

You’re not weird, you’re not a baby. I left an abusive relationship of 13 years, last year. Once I finally got out, I was struggling a lot with ruminating over my experiences, how it would go getting my things out of the apartment, etc. It takes time. Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Cry as much as you need. I’m in a better place now mentally, but I still sometimes get sad and cry to sad music to release emotions over what I personally went through. When you find yourself ruminating, ask what you’re trying to figure out. And remind yourself you may never know the answer, and use your non-engagement responses and tools. And give yourself grace — navigating this kind of stress on top of OCD is hard. Get rest, do things to make yourself smile, and take your time processing. If you have a therapist, talk to them for help with a game plan. Take care ❤️

Username: Clockwork

Date posted: 2y ago

Recently

Theres been a recent situation thats been eating at my mind, it was 3 days ago i got a really nasty and worrying intrusive thought and at the time i couldnt help withdrawing and ruminating over it. But suddenly i cant stop thinking about it and its making things so hard because i dont want to. But then i start to question why i keep thinking about it and why it wont leave my head. I cant eat or focus on anything else im so scared right now. How do i let it pass, how can i let this kind of thought go or not pass judgement on it. It seems so impossible

Username: Mom2KCKA

Date posted: 2y ago

Help! Make the thoughts stop

I should probably give a bit of a back story 1st: I am a 41 y/o Momma of 4 absolutely beautiful kiddos ages 22(g), 18(b), 7(b), and 6(g) sadly that's going through a separation/divorce from their dad, and after 24 years together & 23 years married (2 separations of 2½years each in there which ended 10 years ago) I am having the worst time dealing with this. I need to find a way to make these days of watching me live out my entire life inmy head. I'm going over all the good and bad moments, mistakes & regrets replaying everything, even the life without him for years before we met & then during separations previously. So I've made a lot of bad choices and surprisingly have lived a very full life in such a short amount of time. I want all of the thoughts to stop and I need help. I have done meditation and all I can think of but now I'm in such a bad state of mind and my depression is so bad, my overthinking is so so so bad and i can't make it stop.

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

OCD when going through trauma

A friend of mine a few months ago did something very bad to me. Tldr, there was sexual assualt, and it was basically a nuclear bomb when i discussed it with a friend and everyone found out. I've had such a hard time dealing with it, since i get these obsessive thoughts, "what if i misremembered what happened" "what if he didnt mean to do it?" and ive avoided talking about it with anyone, so people made up their own conclusions and stories and I lost almost all my friends because they didnt understand what was happening. Talking about it causes such ruminations and shame spirals. How can I resolve or work through this experience when I cant think or talk about it without guilt and doubt from OCD?

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