How to avoid mental compulsions

Hi! Ive been where both of you were at. My therapist taught me to observe the thought like its a leaf on a stream then let it ride down the river bend. It also helps to respond with: "I have OCD, of COURSE id think something like that" to acknowledge the thought but not actually give it any real power. If the rumination is too strong, id suggest looking into psychiatry for medication for help. Mine were strong too and that was the route I took, but regardless of being on medication or not, those responses are the key to not letting ocd run your life. I wish you the best of luck! Youve got this i know you do!

Mine Is texting chat gpt for reassurance😭

Rumination is often out of our control. We can respond to it appropriately, and sometimes we do choose to, but often it just happens and goes away as we deal with the fears.

Rumination is a compulsion. Maybe the initial seconds of refocusing on the problem and trying to figure it out is out of your control (because your mind is going to drift to so many things on its own)…. BUT allowing the rumination to continue and engaging with the problem/fear again is 100% in your control. You can stop your train of thought- acknowledge “I’m ruminating on this. This is OCD trying to get me to pay attention again” and then you actively focus on something else. You’re not trying to avoid the obsession- you’re avoiding “dwelling” on it which is what rumination is. Identifying that I was actually ruminating (a compulsion) instead of just “allowing my thoughts to be there” was the reason my intrusive thoughts kept growing stronger. When thoughts FIRST pop in your mind- they are intrusive…. Anything after that you may entertain or engage with is rumination. If you can identify when you’re ruminating and stop it, your anxiety will be so much less over time

Most of the time you can't even "choose" to not ruminate because that "choosing" is just further ruminating. Of course you can "choose" to not ruminating, it just looks different than what you might think. "Choosing" not to ruminate is actually choosing to do MORE and get involved with life, because the only way "not to ruminate" is to just keep on living and making choices based upon your chosen values.