- Username
- LirLavi
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Hey I have Pure O and am currently with the love of my life. I feel crazy too and on my worst days I just want to run away but my partner is the greatest thing in my life so I fight my OCD every day. I am trying to mood log more when stress triggers arise (work is the worst trigger) and to meditate. I am learning through the work to separate my thoughts with who I am and OCD will attack what you love the most. Sounds like you have a deep commitment for your partner if your OCD is wylin’ out
I feel you so much. I will get to a therapist, but until than i try to cope with it. Listen, for the first month of recovery - you will feel the most intense episode. After that, you start to feel better. Did you got an information about this kind of issue to focus the therapy on? Pals, one things is for sure - we struggled and fear to death because we love them the most.
I feel u.
I understand, that’s really hard. OCD is so terrible isn’t it? I would recommend writing down everything, and I mean EVERYTHING you love about her. what you love about her style, her personality, the things she does. maybe even keep a journal just about your relationship, what you did for her today, what she did for you today. I think that will open your eyes, and show that you truly do love her, and have always loved her, it’s just OCD that’s trying to come in and fuck with everything, but it WONT! :)
Yes, indeed. The thought that im out of love with her makes me to feel like im burning by the devil itself. I dont know what am i support to do, what my actually the fear and how to look on my feelings. I know that i numb because if anxeity, but i dont know what to do with it
Working with a therapist has helped with diagnosis (though my OCD loves challenging the diagnosis lol) and we focus on mood logging and recovery circles to help untangle the thoughts. I keep a feelings wheel picture on my phone in intense flare ups to be in touch with what I am feeling. Developing a strong sense of Self is a key focus. Self-nurturing your self helps build your confidence. I meditate, ride my bike, and sing in a choir to build that so I can challenge my OCD thoughts. It will look different for you, of course, but keep on finding what you love about your self and what you know to be true. OCDDoodles is a fun instagram account, the owner says to lead with your values. From what I see you value the heck out of your partner (as I love mine!) I know sometimes the OCD feels real but we take it day by day!
Hi there everyone, I’m really struggling with obsessive thoughts over my relationship with my girlfriend. Everything was going so well for the first couple months and one day I started doubting - ever since then I’ve been trying to combat thoughts that our relationship is doomed to fail. I used to love my girlfriend, now I keep getting intrusive anxious thoughts about breaking up with her and scrutinising her appearance. I spent a few years struggling before with HOCD but I’m free of that now, now I feel I’m heading into a spiral of obsession over whether on not this relationship is right. I don’t want my girlfriend to suffer and loose faith in me whilst I act all weird around her. How do I stay present to her and cope through it? Thanks
i'm scared I don't have OCD, I used to be 50/50 about it but now I just keep doubting I do. The reason i'm scared is because I can't feel anything for my girlfriend anymore, sometimes I do and want to love up on her but other times I just feel unnatracted to her and don't feel anything for her. This is taking a tole on the both of us, she cries alot because she knows what i'm going through but it's also hurting her. I also sometimes (not very often) think about breaking up with her or being with someone else and it scares me because I want to love her and only her and only be with her. I'm afraid I should break up with her but I really don't want to. Whenever she compliments me I get uncomfortable, sometimes whenever she says I love you I hesitate to say it because I feel kind of guilty and I can't really feel anything. She picks up on all of these things which makes it even harder to really hide. i know I shouldn't hide it but she's the crying type and I upset her too much already with all of this. Someone please tell me they can relate or that it's OCD, can someone please help me?
I have rocd. It’s the worst feeling being with the love of your life and having these thoughts. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and few months and I just wish this disorder wasn’t even a thing. From the start of us being together I knew and felt he was perfect and EVERYTHING I’ve always wanted. I had thoughts about everything you can name of. If I love him or not, do I like other people instead, if he’s ugly, if I like him only because of his looks, comparing other relationships, if he did one thing off or different question if I really know him, thought he was a different person then what I really knew him for, believing and having the thoughts every single one feel real. It’s a nightmare. Because I would literally die on the instead from telling him these things when he never did anything. I have gotten much better with the love, and looks and all that but there’s always new “targets” as me and him say. It’s like I can never truly run away. I think of how easy it is for others in relationships since they don’t have this and I just want that with him. It’s been a year and a few months and yes we’ve went through hell and back and a lot of things have gotten better but not fully. Hopefully soon enough they will and EVRYTHING will be much better. I just want him. I can’t do anything without him like he’s really the first person I only ever imagined a future with. A future that I wanted to be married and have kids and just live a beautiful life with. I want his pain and suffering to end with all these thoughts he’s heard throughout the year. I never mean to hurt him. I never mean to break him. I just want him. I can’t lose him. If you have ROCD, it’s good your here. Get help, get support, talk to someone about this because it will get better. I’ve had my amazing days. 4 days straight! I never had that before but I lost it and trying to get it back. I know I will, just gotta keep trying hard. My boyfriend helps me so much by supporting and telling me “Your ocd is not you, these thoughts aren’t you, ocd attacks anything you care about.” I couldn’t be more lucky to have him. I’m the luckiest girl alive. He makes me feel that way and I just want this to be over already. I love him so much. Idk if this helps anyone with ROCD, but you’re not alone. Search up videos the help understand, pay attention and watch what you can do to fix it because it is. I’m not there yet but I will not give up, so everyone out there with any type of OCD. We can do this. Confidence is key. Don’t give up. We’re all here to help one another, and ofc regular support with friends family and definitely therapy.
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