crazyfeelings
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- 5y
magical-thinking-kannamagical-thin...
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- 5y
Maybe write pros and cons of hanging out with him? I’m not sure how else to help, but I hope you go for it! I like when I’m scared to do something, but actually go for it and it goes well. It feels really good
crazyfeelings crazyfeelings
- Date posted
- 5y
That’s usually what happens, I hang out with him and it’s fine and I love it. But I just can’t get myself to do it. It’s so hard for me, I just want to feel normal about everything :(
RonaldRonald
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- 5y
I have the same issue with friends, not so much with my wife anymore. I think it’s social anxiety, you’re afraid deep down that you might screw up or not have fun or something normal that’s part of any relationship but you want perfection. At least that’s what happens to me as I diagnose my reasoning. Try to convince yourself to accept imperfection and just be yourself. That’s the only way you’d want someone around anyway...
crazyfeelings crazyfeelings
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- 5y
That’s exactly what it is!! I’m so scared I’m going to mess stuff up, or it will get awkward, or he will not want to date me anymore. I just want to have so much fun, but I feel like I can’t. I’m definitely going to do it because I know if I don’t I’m just fueling my social anxiety but it’s sooo hard.
RonaldRonald
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- 5y
Most definitely a struggle but once you normalize that struggle you won’t see it as the same struggle.
crazyfeelings crazyfeelings
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- 5y
Thank you so much that made me feel way better about all of it :)
Hope8Hope8
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- 5y
I feel the same way, its like you took the words right out of my brain! You are not alone :) I would try and think about WHY you get anxious. For me, hanging out with friends made me nervous because of social anxiety. But hanging out with my bf made me nervous because of scrupulosity ocd (i worried i was being morally wrong by spending time with a boy) and because of perfectionism (i should be spending my time studying in the library instead of having fun with my bf). So maybe try asking yourself why you yourself get anxious thinking about hanging out with your bf?
RonaldRonald
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- 5y
The people who wrote the moral codes are not God, they are flawed like everyone and often much more because they’re hypocritical as they act out as well. If they want to live from a book, so be it. We should never live by other’s words. Make up your mind as to what brings you joy, it’s your life and as long as you’re not hurting anyone else, live!
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- Date posted
- 24w
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- Date posted
- 19w
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- Date posted
- 15w
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