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- crazyfeelings
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Maybe write pros and cons of hanging out with him? I’m not sure how else to help, but I hope you go for it! I like when I’m scared to do something, but actually go for it and it goes well. It feels really good
That’s usually what happens, I hang out with him and it’s fine and I love it. But I just can’t get myself to do it. It’s so hard for me, I just want to feel normal about everything :(
I have the same issue with friends, not so much with my wife anymore. I think it’s social anxiety, you’re afraid deep down that you might screw up or not have fun or something normal that’s part of any relationship but you want perfection. At least that’s what happens to me as I diagnose my reasoning. Try to convince yourself to accept imperfection and just be yourself. That’s the only way you’d want someone around anyway...
That’s exactly what it is!! I’m so scared I’m going to mess stuff up, or it will get awkward, or he will not want to date me anymore. I just want to have so much fun, but I feel like I can’t. I’m definitely going to do it because I know if I don’t I’m just fueling my social anxiety but it’s sooo hard.
Most definitely a struggle but once you normalize that struggle you won’t see it as the same struggle.
Thank you so much that made me feel way better about all of it :)
I feel the same way, its like you took the words right out of my brain! You are not alone :) I would try and think about WHY you get anxious. For me, hanging out with friends made me nervous because of social anxiety. But hanging out with my bf made me nervous because of scrupulosity ocd (i worried i was being morally wrong by spending time with a boy) and because of perfectionism (i should be spending my time studying in the library instead of having fun with my bf). So maybe try asking yourself why you yourself get anxious thinking about hanging out with your bf?
The people who wrote the moral codes are not God, they are flawed like everyone and often much more because they’re hypocritical as they act out as well. If they want to live from a book, so be it. We should never live by other’s words. Make up your mind as to what brings you joy, it’s your life and as long as you’re not hurting anyone else, live!
Anyone with HOCD/ROCD have any tips about going on a date when the thought of it makes you want to die of anxiousness? I’ve been talking to this guy on tinder who seems nice and everything but every time in the past that I’ve started talking to someone and say yes to a date, I literally cancel the next day cause I’m so deathly afraid. This isn’t even necessarily ocd’s fault I’ve always just been scared to death of this kinda thing but obviously having hocd, and what I believe is pre-rocd thoughts, make it seem literally impossible. But I WANT it. I think about having a boyfriend all the time. Ocd is so detrimental to everything you want it’s so frustrating. Ik- news flash haha. Anyways. Should I go? Is this bad timing- will I make everything worse for myself? He’s really cute and seems really nice. Jeez idk idk idk.
This is just kind of a rant but any encouragement would be so much appreciated, thank you ❤️ I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is incredible, kind, funny, smart, hardworking, so so loving-just an extremely good person. In 2021 I developed or at least recognized my OCD. I’ve been diagnosed with OCD, anxiety and depression, definitely quite the list. Each of these conditions mingle with each other and make life very difficult at times. At the beginning it centered around me being a bad person but slowly grew to be relationship OCD. I have fears that I don’t really love him, I’m not actually attracted to him, I’m going to cheat on him, he doesn’t make me happy or that he would be better without me and is a better person than me. Lately I have this fear that one day not to far away he will prepose to me and I won’t be excited. Or that he will feel more for me then I do for him, or that I will have to fake my excitement. I have this vision of myself feeling nothing when he asks me and having to fake it. It’s just such a sickening thought to imagine not feeling the intense joy I always knew I would feel if he proposed to me. It’s so strange because before I had bad OCD I used to dream of that day, I would ask if he thought he might prepose to me one day and if his answer wasn’t certain enough I would feel very sad. It’s terrible because I’ll get depressed and feel nothing positive for any aspect of the world-including my relationship, but OCD will take that and twist it into me not feeling anything positive for him. Which will in turn make me feel more depressed. You ever just want to hide and pause the world for a little while so you can catch your breath? It feels like the weeks go by so slowly but still suddenly I’m nearly grown up.
My bf and I of one month spend a lot of time together. but recently I feel relieved when he’s gone and prefer to be alone. The love I show him feels forced. I hate feeling this I don’t want to. He reassures me that it’s just OCD and I do love him and then I feel better and in love but then it happens again. I’m scared deep down I am losing feelings but am in denial. He’s such a great guy I don’t wanna feel this. But I feel like I want to push him away or do my own thing a lot of times and I HATE IT!! I’m so sad and frustrated. Can OCD cause this? Or should I break it off ):
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