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- Maybe,MaybeNot
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- 4y ago
Also I just wanted to add I know it’s not just about thoughts, I’ve also had things in the past I felt I needed to confess to to see if he would break up or not, deff a compulsion. It grew over time the more I “confessed”. The less I confessed over the years; the smaller the ocd was on this theme. Stay strong and sit with the distress your feeling and practice response prevention ?. You can get past this!!!!
Yes, that sounds like the confessing compulsion. I just did it the other day. Stay strong ?
I also had this guilt rOCD in the past very bad and my compulsions were also confessing to everything and telling him every detail of things. As long as we are not cheating or crossing a certain distinct line that you and your partner are both in agreement on, we don’t have to always give every detail of things. For example: a really cute guy at the store the other day complimented my shirt. I was OVER THE MOON about it. I was so happy and told him someone complimented my shirt today and it made my day! I didn’t feel I needed to cover “he was a really cute guy though, and I felt like maybe it was flirty , maybe not, but I also had thoughts of how cute he was for the rest of the day” Easier said than done, because currently I don’t have this ocd theme, but in the past this would of been extremely distressing. Remember We are all entitled to our own personal and private thoughts as long as we aren’t acting on them in a way where we are being unloyal.
Thank you for the encouragement. This has been such a hard battle. I’m very thankful I can talk to other people who understand.
Anybody else have a major problem with confessions in ROCD? How can I deal with the urge to confess every little thought to my boyfriend? It’s hurtful to him because I’m constantly telling him every minor interaction I’ve had that I can remember with another guy, telling him my doubts about our relationship, and lately I’ve even been telling him hurtful things I don’t even agree with as far as comparing him to people I’ve been with before and people I’m attracted to. It’s really wrong of me to say these things to him for the sole purpose of relieving my anxiety. Any advice?
Hey, I just got here! And this is crazy, but you know all my problems, so talk to me maybe? ? I’m always worried my partner loves me too much or that I love him too much. I don’t want anyone being hurt in the long run by how unequal we’ve been. When it’s him, I want to break off the relationship now before I make it worse. When it’s me, I want to break it off now because I must be so pathetic. I have such a bad fear of my partner cheating that I’ve started telling myself that I already know he is — just so I won’t compulsively watch him text, check his phone while he showers, stalk his social media, question all his friendships, etc. I’m so shocked to be finding out this is something a whole group of people experiences! It used to make feel physically ill; I was so anxious I couldn’t sleep or eat for days at a time. The *only* possible relief for me was breaking off my relationship and also all contact. Once the thought has entered my brain, there’s no backing down from it. I have to end it, or else that nasty feeling in the pit of my stomach stays forever. I guess that’s a form of compulsion? Maybe? It first happened when I was 16 and had my first boyfriend. I didn’t love him, but he was in love with me. I felt guilty, and he became annoying. One morning, I woke up to the instant and insistent thought that I must break up with him. All day, I was physically nauseated thinking about my boyfriend. That afternoon, I did it, and I honestly cried tears of relief - not from the end of the relationship but in response to not feeling that way any longer! So it began...
Does anyone have any advice for sharing their obsessions with their significant other? I struggle with relationship and sexuality OCD. My boyfriend knows I have OCD, but we have never discussed it in detail. I think he is trying to respect my boundaries and I am terrified he won’t understand my obsessions and/or will take them personally. As a result I feel like I am hiding this horrible secret, and it is causing me so much anxiety. I want to talk to him about it, but I don’t know how to bring it up in a way that won’t hurt him.
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