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Also I just wanted to add I know it’s not just about thoughts, I’ve also had things in the past I felt I needed to confess to to see if he would break up or not, deff a compulsion. It grew over time the more I “confessed”. The less I confessed over the years; the smaller the ocd was on this theme. Stay strong and sit with the distress your feeling and practice response prevention ?. You can get past this!!!!
Yes, that sounds like the confessing compulsion. I just did it the other day. Stay strong ?
I also had this guilt rOCD in the past very bad and my compulsions were also confessing to everything and telling him every detail of things. As long as we are not cheating or crossing a certain distinct line that you and your partner are both in agreement on, we don’t have to always give every detail of things. For example: a really cute guy at the store the other day complimented my shirt. I was OVER THE MOON about it. I was so happy and told him someone complimented my shirt today and it made my day! I didn’t feel I needed to cover “he was a really cute guy though, and I felt like maybe it was flirty , maybe not, but I also had thoughts of how cute he was for the rest of the day” Easier said than done, because currently I don’t have this ocd theme, but in the past this would of been extremely distressing. Remember We are all entitled to our own personal and private thoughts as long as we aren’t acting on them in a way where we are being unloyal.
Thank you for the encouragement. This has been such a hard battle. I’m very thankful I can talk to other people who understand.
Anybody else have a major problem with confessions in ROCD? How can I deal with the urge to confess every little thought to my boyfriend? It’s hurtful to him because I’m constantly telling him every minor interaction I’ve had that I can remember with another guy, telling him my doubts about our relationship, and lately I’ve even been telling him hurtful things I don’t even agree with as far as comparing him to people I’ve been with before and people I’m attracted to. It’s really wrong of me to say these things to him for the sole purpose of relieving my anxiety. Any advice?
Does anyone have any advice for sharing their obsessions with their significant other? I struggle with relationship and sexuality OCD. My boyfriend knows I have OCD, but we have never discussed it in detail. I think he is trying to respect my boundaries and I am terrified he won’t understand my obsessions and/or will take them personally. As a result I feel like I am hiding this horrible secret, and it is causing me so much anxiety. I want to talk to him about it, but I don’t know how to bring it up in a way that won’t hurt him.
Hi everyone, I’ve been struggling lately and been reading up on all the different types of OCD and reading others posts have been comforting to me that I’m not the only one. Here’s what’s been going on lately: My boyfriend and I were together for 5 years consistently. Broke up for 2 years but we’re still on and off but remained single. We are now back together and suddenly I have been obsessing over the things I have done in those 2 years that may have been disrespectful to my boyfriend. My boyfriend forgives me for everything but I can’t stop obsessing over every detail. I am trying/forcing myself to remember every bad thing I’ve done in 2019. And once I think of something I obsess over - why would I do that? What was I thinking back then? We’re those my true feelings 2 years ago? Is that how I feel now? And when I think of something I feel the need to confess to my boyfriend. These thoughts and questions make me have tremendous guilt and feel like I don’t deserve the relationship we have currently. I’m new to all this and have an appointment with a psychologist next week. Any advice until then?
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