Hi guys. I’m struggling because I obsess over things I feel I’ve done wrong and I fear my boyfriend will break up with me over them. I never cheated on him but it’s things like responding to a compliment wrong, feeling like I said something flirtatious when I wasn’t trying to seem flirtatious. I’ve told my boyfriend about some of my fears and he hasn’t broken up with me but my compulsion is to tell him my fears so he can reassure me that the thing I’m obsessing about isn’t a deal breaker. However it’s really not healthy for my relationship to tell him everything I feel I did wrong and I feel like I have to tell him every little detail of every conversation that bothers me. Does anyone else have thoughts like this?

Also I just wanted to add I know it’s not just about thoughts, I’ve also had things in the past I felt I needed to confess to to see if he would break up or not, deff a compulsion. It grew over time the more I “confessed”. The less I confessed over the years; the smaller the ocd was on this theme. Stay strong and sit with the distress your feeling and practice response prevention ?. You can get past this!!!!

Yes, that sounds like the confessing compulsion. I just did it the other day. Stay strong ?

I also had this guilt rOCD in the past very bad and my compulsions were also confessing to everything and telling him every detail of things. As long as we are not cheating or crossing a certain distinct line that you and your partner are both in agreement on, we don’t have to always give every detail of things. For example: a really cute guy at the store the other day complimented my shirt. I was OVER THE MOON about it. I was so happy and told him someone complimented my shirt today and it made my day! I didn’t feel I needed to cover “he was a really cute guy though, and I felt like maybe it was flirty , maybe not, but I also had thoughts of how cute he was for the rest of the day” Easier said than done, because currently I don’t have this ocd theme, but in the past this would of been extremely distressing. Remember We are all entitled to our own personal and private thoughts as long as we aren’t acting on them in a way where we are being unloyal.

Thank you for the encouragement. This has been such a hard battle. I’m very thankful I can talk to other people who understand.