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Also I just wanted to add I know it’s not just about thoughts, I’ve also had things in the past I felt I needed to confess to to see if he would break up or not, deff a compulsion. It grew over time the more I “confessed”. The less I confessed over the years; the smaller the ocd was on this theme. Stay strong and sit with the distress your feeling and practice response prevention ?. You can get past this!!!!
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Yes, that sounds like the confessing compulsion. I just did it the other day. Stay strong ?
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I also had this guilt rOCD in the past very bad and my compulsions were also confessing to everything and telling him every detail of things. As long as we are not cheating or crossing a certain distinct line that you and your partner are both in agreement on, we don’t have to always give every detail of things. For example: a really cute guy at the store the other day complimented my shirt. I was OVER THE MOON about it. I was so happy and told him someone complimented my shirt today and it made my day! I didn’t feel I needed to cover “he was a really cute guy though, and I felt like maybe it was flirty , maybe not, but I also had thoughts of how cute he was for the rest of the day” Easier said than done, because currently I don’t have this ocd theme, but in the past this would of been extremely distressing. Remember We are all entitled to our own personal and private thoughts as long as we aren’t acting on them in a way where we are being unloyal.
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Thank you for the encouragement. This has been such a hard battle. I’m very thankful I can talk to other people who understand.
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I have this deep fear I’ll accidentally cheat on my long term partner. This fear was initially triggered a couple years ago after being at a bar with my friends where I enjoyed the attention of being flirted with by a stranger. Because of my enjoyment of receiving verbal attention, I began spiraling about what if I accidentally cheat. Since then I have made multiple confessions to my partner to seek reassurance, replayed events over and over in my head, spent hours googling/looking at reddit threads, and now I dread “bar like” situations where I know my partner won’t be around. Today I was triggered and have wasted about 4-5 hours of my day ruminating. Does anyone else with relationship ocd struggle with this fear and have any tips?
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I’ve been feeling the compulsion of confession again. I hate confessing things to my boyfriend I don’t want him to carry the burden. I’d rather hurt than him hurt. But I feel I did something wrong and he needs to know. Like I need to be punished or something. I may be over reacting to it but I just feel guilty and I had a panic attack when I woke up yesterday. I would never cheat on him. Just making guys laugh I feel like I am doing him wrong or flirting. And then when I notice it I just feel awful. I just want to be liked and noticed not romantically but just as a human. I don’t know why I act like this and feel the need to tell him as if I slept with someone. I think it’s attacking my biggest fear which is losing him. Does anyone have experience with this?
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So this is my second post of the day and before I post this I’m not looking for reassurance just feeling very fearful about this situation and need to vent. Sometimes my false memory ocd gets so bad I have to download past data of any apps on social media to make sure I didn’t do anything and even then it doesn’t help. I did that with my Snapchat data and I saw that I had someone from a very toxic and past relationship on my snap that I remembered I had deleted a couple weeks after my boyfriend and I started dating. I didn’t notice it until I recently had the compulsion to go recheck all the data I downloaded to make sure. When I saw the date I deleted them and that it was a couple weeks after my boyfriend and I got together, I felt my face get hot, I started tearing up and I started freaking out. And then of course my thoughts started rolling in “What if you deleted them because you texted them and did it to make sure your boyfriend didn’t see?” Or “What if you still had their number in your phone and texted them?” Etc. etc. I felt horrible after I noticed that he was still on my snap, I know I forgot because I was only focused on my boyfriend and I spending time together, and I don’t hardly ever use Snapchat in general so I just basically leave the app alone and such. I’m just so worried now and It’s bothering me. I also experienced a thought like “What if I knew he was still on there and I kept him on there on purpose?” I can’t deal with these thoughts anymore, they’re so exhausting, and the fact that I even have these thoughts and they always try to attack my relationship just makes me so mad and upset.
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