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Hey. I’m sorry for all you girls are going through. I’m the same. I get turned on by sexual female pictures, like butt or boobs showing, but never with male ones. And also I can’t orgasm and sometimes have difficulties getting wet. These are my major triggers of my HOCD. I can tell you that there are sociological explanations to what you’re experiencing with the arousal and that not necesarily you’re gay, but I know the HOCD will tell you otherwise. Keep strong!
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I just feel so disturbed and almost like I must be lying if a male naked doesn’t get me super aroysed
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@wellwellwell It won’t. Women are not visual towards mens bodies. Men are thought to be ‘action’ creatures. Whereas women are the ones who turn man on by their looks. At least that’s how society has defined the stereotypes. I am sorry if I’ve done a reassurance, but this is the truth. Eventhough our brain doesn’t let us to accept it. Accept the fact that you will get aroused by female features, and that your sex life might not be that good. This way we’ll beat HOCD!
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@Klau You’re right. I want to enjoy my marriage. Not worry about this all day.
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@Klau This makes a lot of sense
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Thank you girls, I Just read this and this made me feel so much better, I’m going through this now. Any break throughs for any of yous?
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@wellwellwell I just read this, how are you girls going now? I’m going through same thing!
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@Klau Hey klau could I please have some help I’m freaking out
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Tbh you have OCD and as someone who still has it but just finisged therapy .... OCD is a libido killer ! Absolute libido killer . I promise you it doesn’t mean anything and my attraction to men is coming back . Also imo alot of those women were not late blooming lesbians / bi I think they just came out later on but they always knew . Like I know my brain played tricks on me my mind convinced me I was a butch lesbian but when I look at my life I hated wearing pants and big shirts to the point it depressed me .... alot of it is mental and I know it’s easier said than done ... but I believe in you and I believe in all of us ????
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Thank you❤️ I truly am just terrified that I don’t and have never been turned on just by seeing a naked man. And I’m nervous that maybe just touching him isn’t a rousing. Ugh I don’t know? I just wish a naked man was enough for me and I could move on
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@wellwellwell When my anxiety is really bad I get the same thoughts
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@rebeccah I don’t know why it bothers me so much but I really hate it
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I’m telling you guys that I’m struggling too with these thoughts. And when I’m not anxious I believe that is true. I have friends who find female bodies arousing and like lesbian porn and they are engaged or in a relationship. They don’t struggle with HOCD though. That’s why they don’t think they are freaks. I believe they are mainly straight, because you know no one is 100 % straight or gay, the majority of us is smth in between. Also there are many studies conducted and women get wet by the sight of every sexual clip including bonobos having sex, naked women , but not naked man. Sometimes they say they get aroused by the picture of a man in erection, but even this one happens rarely. That’s because we don’t see man as sexual creatures (objects) and we see women as one. Also, when we see sexy women we somehow identify with them and we want to feel sexy and desirable as them.
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Not sure if this is relevant but I am aroused by naked women if it’s in a sexual situation, not like women on the street. This is equally terrifying.
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I'm the same way. I used to watch lesbian porn and enjoyed it at the time I never thought I was a lesbian, but watching was stimulating. That's the only time I can get turned on by women never in real life. It's ok to have fantasies EVERYONE has them doesn't mean they are going to act on them. For example there are people that fantasize about gang rape, but would never actually want to be in that situation. I just watched the SOS video and the men said we can live the life we WANT to live.
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@I_WILL_SURVIVE You’re right. I’m just sad because I don’t think I’ll ever see a naked man and have that arouse me. I need to be with him and that makes me think it’s me not him?
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How are y now?
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I get turned on by my boyfriend with what he does to me and how he uses his body. I remember kissing him and getting so turned on at the start but eventually I started getting really depressed and loosing my libido which lead to my severe and terrible past 4 months of HOCD
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I know. I wish I could change that. It just makes me so depressed to see women who get like wet just seeing their man nude
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trigger warning!!!!!! I’m really scared right now. I’ve been reading Elle Warren’s articles about her experience with HOCD/SO-OCD, and it feels so similar to mine. She went through the same fears of being a lesbian, felt distressed by her attraction to women, and spent hours ruminating, Googling, and analyzing her feelings. She even experienced groinal responses and revisited old memories, just like I do. Eventually, she had a moment of realization in college when she flirted with a girl, and everything clicked. She now identifies as a lesbian. I’m terrified that the same thing will happen to me. I thought the OCD fears were supposed to never be true and that HOCD thoughts are usually just compulsions that don’t end up being real. But reading her story, it’s like I’m seeing my own experience mirrored. What if it clicks for me, just like it did for her? What if I realize that I am a lesbian? Elle’s story makes me so scared. I thought my feelings of attraction to women were just OCD-driven, and now I’m questioning everything. I thought I was straight, but now, reading her journey, I’m wondering: could my OCD fears actually be real? Elle’s experience was very similar to mine: • She got distressed when she thought she might like women, not relieved. • She spent a lot of time ruminating, Googling, analyzing, and comparing. • Her attraction to women only became intense when her OCD flared up. • She said things like, “I feel peace when I believe I’m straight.” • She had already been diagnosed with OCD and had a history of this pattern. After years of fear and distress, Elle had a moment of calm and realized that it was true. I’m scared that this could happen to me too. Will I have a similar moment of acceptance, where everything clicks and I realize I’m gay? Or will I come to accept that this is all OCD, and that I’m straight, with the possibility that I’m not? I also keep thinking back to when my OCD lessened the first time. Did I go back to men because I wasn’t actually attracted to women, or was it just because the grip of the OCD had loosened? Elle also talked about the shame associated with non-heterosexuality. She mentioned that, like many of us, she had internalized stigma around being gay, and that it made her fear the possibility of being non-heterosexual. I can relate to this so much—growing up, I never saw it as an option to be anything other than straight, and now it’s hard to shake that fear and shame. Elle mentioned that she found reassurance in seeing other people with HOCD who worried that their fears would come true, but eventually realized they were just OCD thoughts. That idea is comforting, but also a little scary, because what if that moment of realization happens for me too? What if I finally accept that I am a lesbian? Or, what if I’m just struggling with OCD and eventually realize I’m straight? I just don’t know. The scariest part is that, just like Elle, I feel like I don’t have any obvious signs. She had no idea she was a lesbian until one day, everything clicked. She was 21, just like me when my OCD fears really flared up, and she had a breakthrough moment in Denver when she made friends with lesbians. That hasn’t happened for me yet, and it’s terrifying to think that it could happen in the future. I don’t know what’s going to happen, but I’m really scared about where this will lead.
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I have been doing okay for the past week or so and was really happy i felt that i was getting back on track, but today i went on tiktok and i saw something triggering which was “i thought i was a lesbian for 4 years until i met my now boyfriend” and it triggered me very badly, i have been crying all day and i can’t seem to make myself feel okay. i feel like im lying to myself that im not lesbian and i truly want men, but when i get any thought about men it feels disgusting and wrong and not me, i don’t want men i feel so sick i want to get out of this. i always felt so happy as a lesbian im so stuck i don’t want to be with a man. i have a loving girlfriend i just want to be happy with her.
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I’m like 90% sure I’m just bi, more romantically inclined to men, mainly my bf who I wanna marry. But now my brain is like “if you lean into liking women or keep circling and circling for answers you’ll lose all attraction to men and your bf. You’re practically already a lesbian” I feel so tense and anxious I will admit I am talking to chat gpt out of desperation I’m scared of losing all attraction to him I don’t wanna be thinking about women. I don’t unless I’m really stressed cuz when I’m stressed my ocd can take advantage of that I can usually ground myself when I’m in the city with him but I’m back home for most of the summer and I can’t be physically close to him which usually reminds me that hey this is real this is what I really want in life. Him But then I panic and question I haven’t been here in a while tbh. I’m worried I don’t feel enough. I don’t like magic Mike all that much, I like softer guys. But now the fact I don’t like/get turned on by random men on tv but do women in lingerie really stresses me out and makes me worry I’m truly a lesbian but I’m not. Once I started getting to know my bf and my ex bf’s I really did truly genuinely like them and wanted to make out and everything. Idk can anyone relate to the not liking big buff men All my brain is repeating rn is “when he dies you’ll be able to date a woman, when you break up you’ll only wanna date women” and it’s stressing me out. It’s making me nauseous. I was doing well for about a couple days after I initially left but being at home has been so incredibly draining This might give you a vision of how stressful home is: I’ve been on nexplanon for 7 months ish? Only had very minimal spotting during a stressful school period. Today: fully bleeding, like a usual period. I haven’t had my period since having it put in. I wanna go back to my bf so badly rn. I’m so worried I’m faking or don’t feel enough. I’m learning what a healthy relationship looks like and I’m terrified I’m gonna up and leave him when we’re older cuz I’ll finally figure out that I’m a lesbian or smthn. Idk. Someone pls just help me out a tad
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