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- Mars
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I was just saying how much “how OCD are you” quizzes bother me. Yes symmetry and order is a type but it doesn’t define OCD and those quizzes I feel invalidate the reality of living with OCD
omg i get ads on games that are genuine games about ‘ocd’ when it’s really just slotting things into gaps and im like if my issues could be solved like that i’d be the happiest girl alive
People are ignorant
Yeah :( it makes me so mad! I wish I could be open about my ocd but these same people who wanna throw ocd around like nothing would probably judge me and my themes.
@Mars If they judge you on your themes then that would say so much about them. They can’t claim they have ocd and shame someone who actually suffers from it??
I mean, here’s how I see it. Ocd sucks big time but on the other hand, I can also see how it has positively impacted my life. I feel blessed sometimes to have ocd because fighting this makes me stronger. It’s the challenges in life that sculpt who we are. They probably are dealing with some other kind of mental illness and think how everyone thinks: grass is greener on the other side. Hell, there are days where I want something different over ocd, but alas that is not how life works. I have met so many awesome people, and have discovered so many great things about this world because of ocd and the community we have built around helping one another.
I mean that’s true but that’s completely different from what these people were speaking about ? this was over organizing a fridge
Why are you so invested in the ignorance of others. Of course they don’t understand ocd, no one who doesn’t have can understand it. Don’t obsess about ignorance, put your energy into truth.
Its very likely a lot of those people don't even have ocd and just have traits that resemble ocd behaviors. Cause even contamination ocd can be very debilitating. I had to have this convo with a coworker yesterday. She is very open minded so she was surprised to learn ocd is more than just cleanlines.
Yes this! I’ve had fears of contamination sooo many times but my house is a hoarders mess. People just don’t get it.
@Mars Yes! I hate cleaning but I also hate a dirty house. And sometimes Ill be bothered when my house gets a bit dirty, but it doesn't interrupt my life.
This is why one thing I liked about the show Monk, was everytime someone would say he (the “obsessive compulsive detective”) had a “gift”, he’d reply, “and a curse”. Glad you have ya to vent with. We know the truth. Good vibes your way!
*us to vent with. (I swear autocorrect is wackier here than everywhere else. I try to leave it as exposures, but that one was the opposite of what I tried to type. Lol)
I honestly don’t think they meant it in a harmful way. They have no idea what true ocd is like, only the highly commercialized form that everyone assumes is “ocd”. I kinda want to watch it though just to see, would you mind posting the link? Or at least tell me who made the video
https://vm.tiktok.com/JNdy8dn/ here’s the link to the video. I know it wasn’t like meant harmfully but it’s still definitely such a pet peeve of mine when people treat ocd like it’s nothing and or a joke. Just really annoys me.
@Mars I really don’t think she meant it in any harmful way, she just used ocd to describe it for a second. I mean Idk life’s too short. I say try to not let it bother you so much. Yes ocd sucks and it’s makes life hell, but at the same time you can’t let people who are unaware bother you. I completely respect your feelings and your thoughts on this, no doubt people have no idea what it’s really like. But don’t let it make you upset, most of the time people mean well.
@person1 I totally get what you mean, I guess it just does get frustrating bc so many people can’t even actually truly be open about their ocd because people would think terribly of them. Same people probably say they’re ocd for things like this. Just gets annoying to me big time.
@Mars Gotcha, I like that we have this app to discuss things like this though. I love having actual discussion about ocd and social aspects! Thanks for sharing the video btw!
@person1 Yeah that’s why I appreciate this app too. It’s good to be able to share things like this to people who do understand.
I’ve seen those videos! Like they’ll show an organized pantry and the voice over says “you say OCD is a disorder, I say it’s a blessing” or something along those lines. It annoys me not gonna lie, but also I think it’s a lack of awareness of the disorder. Whenever I see one of those videos, when I look at the comments it’s actually filled with people correcting them saying how OCD is an actually serious mental illness and shouldn’t be taken lightly. I think with more and more awareness we’ll get to a place where it’ll be taken more seriously. We could say the same things when people joke about people being “psychos” or “sociopaths” it’s used as a adjective without really knowing it’s a real thing
Plus if they say that they definitely don’t have OCD or they just have “OCS tendencies”. Before I was diagnosed with OCD, my old therapist (who for some reason could not see I have legit OCD) said I had “OCD tendencies” because I’d watching the same tv show or movie over and over again occasionally or listen to the same song over and over again sometimes if it was my current favorites. Those things didn’t distress me but for some reason it got labeled as so
@Evelyn4416 I do believe there is such a thing as ocd tendencies. I do think that is what people are confusing themselves into thinking they actually do have the disorder. Not saying at a few of them have their ocd under control, but these videos seem to show people with tendencies and they confuse it for the real thing.
It’s ridiculous how much people discussing HOCD bothers me. I know it’s a form of OCD, which I understand is out of the person’s control. I know mental illness is not a choice. I have OCD, so I get it. I get invasive thoughts about being hetero, so it makes sense that it works the other way too. I know the people who have HOCD aren’t necessarily homophobic. It does kind of make me feel like my sexuality is a worst case scenario, though. I can’t help but think “people are as afraid of being like me, as I am of heart attacks”. Idk. It just almost feels like people are saying “oh no what if I’m gay” “don’t worry, you’re straight. You’re okay because you’re straight” (which I know isn’t the case). It could just be because of the lack of positivity I’ve seen surrounding the queer community lately, though. I’m not trying to call out or invalidate people with HOCD though, I know it’s something that they don’t enjoy, and it’s something they suffer with just as much as I suffer with my OCD. Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest
Hey everyone. I’ve been doing okay today. But I’ve been on twitter today and I don’t know if anyone has seen this but there’s a lot of people that speculate Shawn Mendes suffers from SOOCD. So I started reading about it and there’s a lot of people just laughing about it or saying he’s homophobic or closeted and it’s really stressing me out. I know I’ve said it a million times but it feels too real to be a ‘mental disorder’. How on earth can this be OCD and not just a sexual identity crisis?
Having POCD is the most damaging thing to ever happen to me. Like even if I get better or even if I get cured, the compulsions will always haunt me. I've always wanted to be a famous person. And my naive ass still has that dream, but if I get famous, I really wanna talk seriously and raise awareness about how extreme OCD can get. The problem is, how do you explain all this shit to people who don't have OCD and also convince them that youre not a genuine freak. How do you explain that "oh some people with POCD willingly think of sexual scenarios to check for arousal" or "Some people with POCD masturbate to their thoughts to see if they can achieve an orgasm and some of them do by pure stress response" and also how am I going to explain that I've seen rare cases of people with POCD who try to find CP in order to see if it arouses them? How am I going to explain this to people without them being like "so where is the fucking line drawn? Just because none of yall have ever hurt a child means that we should trust you?" It's bad enough as is that just because that one dude with OCD comitted a heinous crime and already people are pulling out the "its his mentol ewness that made him do that" shlock but also the fact that I've read that in extreme cases some folks with HOCD test themselves out with same-sex partners. Like to a normal person saying all this shit basically looks like I'm trying to paint a paraphilic disorder as an anxiety disorder problem, but at the same time it is what it fucking is and I still haven't seen anyone with POCD hurt any child. Just because there are some bizarre cases of desperate and extremely anxious possibly teenagers doing dumb shit doesn't mean that POCD isn't or has never been a treatable anxiety problem. I talked about this with a friend and she was like "why would you have to talk about any of that when you can just keep quiet?" Because it makes me feel like a creep in disguise. Yes, compulsions have made me do gross things but at the end of the day it was all self-harm basically. It never had anything to do with doing harm to anyone but myself. Yes people with OCD have the choice to resist compulsions, but if you don't even know whether or not you have OCD and you're not working with a professional, most likely scenario is you're gonna give into a lot of compulsions. People don't choose their compulsions as OCD is highly-individualized and different for everyone. And there's no such thing as a compulsion where you hurt a child to test yourself. That is absolute bullshit. I'm upset, because there was a study by this dickhead that was like "people with HOCD regularly or excessively look at gay porn. If CP was accessible, no doubt that people with POCD would be seeking it out too." ABSOLUTELY FUCKING NOT. Whoever wrote that can fucking choke. I'd rather die than see shit like that. FUCK OFF. These fucking mental health researchers are crazy sometimes like someone tried to test how high pedophiles and other paraphiliacs scored on the Y-BOCS test.....What the fuck was the reason for that? Can you do something more productive? I am upset with how horrible this disorder is and how much nobodys ever gonna get it. I want them to get it, because OCD is treatable and harmless, but people are too busy trying to milk their own perceived moral highground to try and take this seriously. It's bad enough that most of us can't be convinced that our OCD is actually real and is OCD and that we aren't being lied to by our therapists or whatever, but if the more severe cases of OCD get exposed to the general public we're gonna have them reinforcing that to us too. I feel completely hopeless and I honestly wish that the people who would raise their eyebrows at someone who has severe OCD, do something to make fictional CP illegal, instead of being willfully ignorant at already tormented people with a harmless mental disorder. Like I seriously can't even look at erotic fanart of a buff rugged adult fictional character without having the most disturbing shit pop up in the "recommended images" section AND THIS IS GOOGLE IMAGES like this isnt some nasty smut website I got on. If people really cared about the safety of children they would be doing everything BUT making people with POCD feel like menaces to society.
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