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You should get a therapist you specializes in OCD - they won’t take your kids away. OCD attaches to things we fear the most. You love your kids the most - so ocd will attach to this. If you don’t feel comfy talk to someone yet get the workbook Mindfulness workbook for ocd, which you can order on amazon. It has a lot of great tips to help start overcoming OCD - it covers all the themes including harm ocd. Your fear is just a theme.. a really shitty one but nonetheless it’s common and still just OCD doing its thing.
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not go through it, but that i’m not alone
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i am a babysitter and i used to fear that when i spotted a little bump or bruise on the baby i was watching that i had hurt her or grabbed her too tight when i know i never would or have every touched her. i felt like a monster but i am glad others go through this too.
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Hello Michelle. I am 25. I cant imagine what it is like to have have children, you must be a strong person for having already that responsability. I can only say one thing: you are not alone, look for therapy and think that you will never ever hurt your children. Look for therapy if you can. If not, you can ask for advice here. We are here to help
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Thank you guys. It is a really scary feeling when these fears pop up. I would rather deal with panic attacks than this. It makes me so sad and makes me feel like I am a horrible mother for having these intrusive thoughts. I feel like a malfunction in human nature.
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It says nothing about you as a mother. You are a wonderful mom who cares enough about her kids to worry about harm. All this says is that you have OCD and your theme right now is harm. I too have found this one to be the most debilitating. Post partum OCD is more common than ppl think - esp if you are already just regular old OCD before kids. You need to try to not identify with the thoughts as you - they are thoughts - everyone has them - ocd makes them stick in your head. Journal about how you feel. Let it out. When you feel food journal about all the things you like about yourself as a mom. Start with “my kids are so important to me I will not allow OCD to come in and take over my mind. The thoughts can be there but I am going to go on being an awesome mom with or without them”
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Feel good* not food lol
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Thank you so much ? I will check it out.
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Check her out - I find her technique easy to follow. But def consider a therapist and a naturopath ?
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- 17w ago
My ocd is ruining my relationship with my kids. Because of the intrusive thoughts I avoid being close to them, hugging or cuddling up to watch tv. My ocd is either telling me I wouldn’t care if harm came to them or it turns everything into something sexual or inappropriate. For example, my daughter wanted to show me how long her nails are so she started scratching my arm gently. It felt so nice and relaxing and I immediately panicked because I was scared the ocd would cause a groinal and I don’t ever, ever want a feeling like that connected with my child even though I know it’s the ocd causing it and not me i’d still feel horrible. I just want to be a normal loving affectionate mom and I can never be that for my kids because of ocd😪 I don’t see any other parents posting about going through this or commenting that they do and how they cope. I feel so alone and defeated.
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Since I developed ocd as postpartum my ocd has mostly always targeted my kids. It started as harm and then switched to pocd. Both are equally very painful. For years I was mostly able to keep my ocd at bay but when it comes back it’s so bad. I have a son and a daughter and my ocd switches back and forth from kid to kid with horrible intrusive thoughts and now even intrusive ocd dreams. With each thought I get past and start to feel relief another one pops right up. The thoughts feel so real and true even though I know it’s just the ocd and not how I think or feel, the ocd always makes me doubt myself and question everything I think or do. I know other moms/dads go through this too. Please anyone who has or is going through this please tell me how you deal with this. 😪
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This might be asking for reassurance but I’m at a point I’m not sure if this is ocd and who better to ask than you guys. Also want to mention I have been to a psychologist who diagnosed me with ocd and I’ve tried to seek therapy through NOCD but had a bad experience so I’m just looking for an opinion I’ll take with a grain of salt. I’ve been through bouts of pocd that I got through but now it’s morphed into something that feels so different. It’s like harm ocd and pocd together and it revolves around my daughter. Before this happened I was a loving mother who valued my kid more than anything. Now this is happening and it feels so sinister. I’m getting urges to do something bad and I get these feelings like I want to do that and it’s like my brain gets foggy and my values slip away and I feel like I could do it. But then I get a moment of clarity and I’m like wait a minute I’ve never hurt anyone in my life nor have I ever thought about it and this is my child what is happening. But then I get that foggy brain again and it’s like I can’t see her as my child. I try to sit with it and it’s like I get this adrenaline rush and feel like I have to do it. But I know I don’t want to do that, but then it’s like trying to make me want to want to. I’m not sure if I’m just lacking insight and clarity because I’m overwhelmed with the groinals, urges, thoughts and feelings but I just keep obsessing over the fact that death is my only way out. I don’t understand what happened to me. It feels like this demonic oppression and I don’t know how to get through this one or if this is still something I can get through because it might not be ocd. I try to go with the thoughts and feelings and say yeah maybe, maybe not, or yeah I’m going to do that but it seems to fuel the feelings. I feel like I’m teetering between the person I was and this evil awful person who has no regard for others. I don’t want to be around my daughter and I’m just angry all the time. The fear and anxiety used to be something I relied on and I feel none of that now. I used to be able to say “well no matter what I feel or think I can control my actions” and now it feels like I cannot control my actions but I’ve never hurt anyone before. Someone please give it to me straight and tell me if you think this might not be ocd.
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