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You should get a therapist you specializes in OCD - they won’t take your kids away. OCD attaches to things we fear the most. You love your kids the most - so ocd will attach to this. If you don’t feel comfy talk to someone yet get the workbook Mindfulness workbook for ocd, which you can order on amazon. It has a lot of great tips to help start overcoming OCD - it covers all the themes including harm ocd. Your fear is just a theme.. a really shitty one but nonetheless it’s common and still just OCD doing its thing.
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- 6y ago
not go through it, but that i’m not alone
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i am a babysitter and i used to fear that when i spotted a little bump or bruise on the baby i was watching that i had hurt her or grabbed her too tight when i know i never would or have every touched her. i felt like a monster but i am glad others go through this too.
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Hello Michelle. I am 25. I cant imagine what it is like to have have children, you must be a strong person for having already that responsability. I can only say one thing: you are not alone, look for therapy and think that you will never ever hurt your children. Look for therapy if you can. If not, you can ask for advice here. We are here to help
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Thank you guys. It is a really scary feeling when these fears pop up. I would rather deal with panic attacks than this. It makes me so sad and makes me feel like I am a horrible mother for having these intrusive thoughts. I feel like a malfunction in human nature.
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It says nothing about you as a mother. You are a wonderful mom who cares enough about her kids to worry about harm. All this says is that you have OCD and your theme right now is harm. I too have found this one to be the most debilitating. Post partum OCD is more common than ppl think - esp if you are already just regular old OCD before kids. You need to try to not identify with the thoughts as you - they are thoughts - everyone has them - ocd makes them stick in your head. Journal about how you feel. Let it out. When you feel food journal about all the things you like about yourself as a mom. Start with “my kids are so important to me I will not allow OCD to come in and take over my mind. The thoughts can be there but I am going to go on being an awesome mom with or without them”
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- 6y ago
Feel good* not food lol
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Thank you so much ? I will check it out.
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Check her out - I find her technique easy to follow. But def consider a therapist and a naturopath ?
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- 25w ago
Hi everyone. I’m going through it at the moment. Any advice would be appreciated. I posted this before, but I really need to vent about this again. Feeling really anxious. I would just like to hear more opinions and advice please. So my main theme of OCD is harm related, especially towards my mom. I live with my mom and I love her dearly, and she loves me as well. We’re best friends and have been close my whole life. I was diagnosed with ocd and generalized anxiety disorder at 15 years old, and I’m 32 now. Got back into therapy this year due to flare up of my ocd. Back in July I had the thought “what if my mom wants to hurt me?” Which led to thoughts that she is going to hurt me in my sleep or plotting against me. Also just other crazy thoughts like what if she’s secretly a killer or something. My mom is one of the kindest people I know, gentle and polite to everyone she meets so to have these kinds of thoughts just seems too bizarre for ocd. They seem almost delusions. There were also urged to like barricade my door at night so she couldn’t get in, which I never did of course but the thought to even do that and feeling like I wanted to freaked me out. I even had the thought like “maybe I should report her to the police.” It just sounds crazy deep down, but those thoughts and fears feel so real at times. It just seems to lead to more paranoid type thoughts and it freaks me out. Fast forward and the thoughts went away, but the past two weeks or so they came back and I have been thinking them on and off. They give me anxiety, which then makes me think I believe them. Like if I’m scared of the thoughts, that means I believe them. I wonder a lot if I really believe them or not. I know I truly don’t deep down, I never once thought like this before, but the feelings and doubt make it feel real. I have told all of this to my mom and she understands me, but I feel guilt and shame as well to have these thoughts. I want to get back into seeing a psychiatrist again since it has been 15 years without any adjustments to my medication, but ai’m terrified of seeing someone new and then diagnosing me with schizophrenia or think I’m experiencing psychosis due to how delusional these thoughts sound. I’m scared to be misdiagnosed, even though I have always just been diagnosed with ocd. But maybe I have changed… I hate these thoughts and I just worry they’re too bizarre for ocd. If this isn’t something else. I’m scared ERP won’t help with this or that it will make it worse, prolonging me from getting different help that I may need instead. Thank you for reading all of this.
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- 17w ago
My ocd is ruining my relationship with my kids. Because of the intrusive thoughts I avoid being close to them, hugging or cuddling up to watch tv. My ocd is either telling me I wouldn’t care if harm came to them or it turns everything into something sexual or inappropriate. For example, my daughter wanted to show me how long her nails are so she started scratching my arm gently. It felt so nice and relaxing and I immediately panicked because I was scared the ocd would cause a groinal and I don’t ever, ever want a feeling like that connected with my child even though I know it’s the ocd causing it and not me i’d still feel horrible. I just want to be a normal loving affectionate mom and I can never be that for my kids because of ocd😪 I don’t see any other parents posting about going through this or commenting that they do and how they cope. I feel so alone and defeated.
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- 15w ago
Since I developed ocd as postpartum my ocd has mostly always targeted my kids. It started as harm and then switched to pocd. Both are equally very painful. For years I was mostly able to keep my ocd at bay but when it comes back it’s so bad. I have a son and a daughter and my ocd switches back and forth from kid to kid with horrible intrusive thoughts and now even intrusive ocd dreams. With each thought I get past and start to feel relief another one pops right up. The thoughts feel so real and true even though I know it’s just the ocd and not how I think or feel, the ocd always makes me doubt myself and question everything I think or do. I know other moms/dads go through this too. Please anyone who has or is going through this please tell me how you deal with this. 😪
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