- Username
- Freemeofocd
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Maybe compassionate self talk while you're doing it, like 'I know I'm worried about this situation right now, but I still have to change/bathe her. I'll do that and then think about what I have to do next instead of focusing on my OCD.' Don't really ignore your anxiety, just focus on something else. And then the next thing. A tv show, making dinner, getting her to sleep. You might still feel super distracted, but acting according to your values, of taking care of your daughter, will help you feel better about yourself. With repetition, your anxiety levels should decrease.
Here's what worked for me ...... Lots and lots of diaper changes of my own kids and kids where I worked and not having the time or opportunity to check, ruminate, or examine myself as I was doing it or after. Eventually, I was changing 20+ diapers a day and often not even noticing my OCD. Also, it might bother you, but do it anyway. Just because you're bothered doesn't mean anything scary will happen. Hang in there and keep changing diapers and giving your daughter her baths.
Following cause I would like to be a parent one day and wanna be prepared
I’m a parent and every bath/diaper change is so triggering. I’m left questioning my every move, action, motivation behind that action, all of my sensations, etc. it’s so exhausting and upsetting
I don’t have any kids but I’ve been terrified of this ever since I knew people expected me to someday be a parent. the few times I had to change the kids I babysat it was SUPER triggering. I never understood how everyone was so normal about it either. I don’t have any advice but hoping it gets easier for you over time!
I hate pOCD. I struggle with urges, is it normal to get urges with pOCD? My therapist said I should hold my toddler, change his diaper, etc. But I feel like I am white knuckling it through those. I also struggle after I change a diaper or give a bath that the only reason I cleaned an area was due to desire. This sucks so bad.
This could trigger some so read at own risk. Does anyone else worry that people will think you're a pedo? Obviously pedos disgust me but I'm constantly worried that people will think I act strangly around children cause I get worried when I'm around them that I'll look weird. It upsets me so much, I even worry that the children will think I don't act normal. I had to take my niece to the toilet and I looked away which she thought was odd. I feel like I look scary or something. And I struggle when parents talk about their children because I over think that they'll think I'm a pedo when certain things are mentioned like potty training or something. Words are triggering and make me really worried that I'll look weird when they're mentioned. I have so many children in my family it upsets me so much. Does anyone else have this life ruining ocd?
As someone with pocd, mom bathed my little cousin and then gave her to me to put on her clothes. I panicked when she first told me to do it. I really didn’t wanna but eventually I put on her clothes. What I don’t understand is why am I crying after doing that? I rushed upstairs to my room & just broke down. If anyone knows anything about this, just tell me please.
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