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Here's what worked for me ...... Lots and lots of diaper changes of my own kids and kids where I worked and not having the time or opportunity to check, ruminate, or examine myself as I was doing it or after. Eventually, I was changing 20+ diapers a day and often not even noticing my OCD. Also, it might bother you, but do it anyway. Just because you're bothered doesn't mean anything scary will happen. Hang in there and keep changing diapers and giving your daughter her baths.
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Maybe compassionate self talk while you're doing it, like 'I know I'm worried about this situation right now, but I still have to change/bathe her. I'll do that and then think about what I have to do next instead of focusing on my OCD.' Don't really ignore your anxiety, just focus on something else. And then the next thing. A tv show, making dinner, getting her to sleep. You might still feel super distracted, but acting according to your values, of taking care of your daughter, will help you feel better about yourself. With repetition, your anxiety levels should decrease.
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Following cause I would like to be a parent one day and wanna be prepared
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I’m a parent and every bath/diaper change is so triggering. I’m left questioning my every move, action, motivation behind that action, all of my sensations, etc. it’s so exhausting and upsetting
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I don’t have any kids but I’ve been terrified of this ever since I knew people expected me to someday be a parent. the few times I had to change the kids I babysat it was SUPER triggering. I never understood how everyone was so normal about it either. I don’t have any advice but hoping it gets easier for you over time!
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I was giving my child a bath. I picked her up out the tub because shes small. But the momentum of picking her up she swang a little toward my body and ocd said did i hip thrust kr do anything wrong. I did a compulsion saying NO repeatedly. And i put her back down and beforehand i didnt have any ill intent just to help her get out because shes a toddler. I had other intrusive thoughts but tbats not my intent i was just trying to be a good dad
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I had to give my daughter a bath and wanted to help my wife bear the responsibility also read online pocd to not avoid bathing. I told myself I am going to bathe my child because im a good dad. As i bathed her i went to wipe her arms and torso. I was going to get her armpit and arm but with the sponge I wiped her chest erogenous area. Then i got anxious and did a compulsion and said “im sorry”. Then ocd said whyd i wipe there ni shouldve wiped her arm or armpit. Was i doing anything inappropriate. Or ocd said not to wipe there and I did so did i do anything inappropriate or with inappropriate intent. I hate having pocd and living parallel with this voice in my head. I know my intention wasnt inappropriate i even prep talked before and did the compulsion of apologizing after wiping. Now im questioning whyd i wipe there first before her arms and armpit since ocd told me to avoid her chest. Then i worry did i have ocd intrusive thought saying i wanted to wipe there and if i had this thought and i wiped there than it means i acted on the thought. I know i wouldnt do anything inappropriate to my child and i know my intent wasnt wrong.
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Let me start by prefacing that I developed ocd as postpartum ocd after having my first child. I had harm and pocd. I had it on and off for years and then it just eventually went away completely for many years until recently after a stressful life event. Now that it’s back it again targets my children but now my grandchildren also. It’s been horrible and makes me pull away from them. Last night my 6 year old granddaughter threw up in the car when my daughter was about to take her home so my daughter brought her back in the house and asked me to clean her up while she cleaned her car. I had some anxiety about it because of my ocd but I couldn’t say no to helping so I opened the bathroom door and my granddaughter was standing in her underwear waiting for me to clean and dress her. Everything was fine and normal but then for some reason, I have no idea why, I looked down at her chest area. I immediately got so upset and didn’t know why I looked there and now my ocd is saying it’s because i’m a monster. I tried to tell myself it’s just normal human behavior when someone is standing there naked that you look where you shouldn’t simply because it’s just there in front of you but I feel horrible. I don’t feel any inappropriate way about her or any child but my ocd is saying it was inappropriate. Has anyone else been through this?
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