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- 4y ago
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- 4y ago
Maybe compassionate self talk while you're doing it, like 'I know I'm worried about this situation right now, but I still have to change/bathe her. I'll do that and then think about what I have to do next instead of focusing on my OCD.' Don't really ignore your anxiety, just focus on something else. And then the next thing. A tv show, making dinner, getting her to sleep. You might still feel super distracted, but acting according to your values, of taking care of your daughter, will help you feel better about yourself. With repetition, your anxiety levels should decrease.
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- 4y ago
Here's what worked for me ...... Lots and lots of diaper changes of my own kids and kids where I worked and not having the time or opportunity to check, ruminate, or examine myself as I was doing it or after. Eventually, I was changing 20+ diapers a day and often not even noticing my OCD. Also, it might bother you, but do it anyway. Just because you're bothered doesn't mean anything scary will happen. Hang in there and keep changing diapers and giving your daughter her baths.
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- 4y ago
Following cause I would like to be a parent one day and wanna be prepared
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- 4y ago
I’m a parent and every bath/diaper change is so triggering. I’m left questioning my every move, action, motivation behind that action, all of my sensations, etc. it’s so exhausting and upsetting
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- 4y ago
I don’t have any kids but I’ve been terrified of this ever since I knew people expected me to someday be a parent. the few times I had to change the kids I babysat it was SUPER triggering. I never understood how everyone was so normal about it either. I don’t have any advice but hoping it gets easier for you over time!
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- 18w ago
hi, this is a really embarrassing and personal thing to ask or you but i have severe contamination ocd and i just need to know what’s normal. -please don’t judge and be considerate i wasn’t taught this growing up how do you guys wash down there and wash your behind? i’ve been over washing and it’s hurting- i’m so tired of it —do you guys also wash your hands in the shower after washing these places?
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- 17w ago
Every time I go to bed late and I’m falling asleep, I suddenly get an intrusive thought of a child’s face and my groinal area always responds to it. It’s such an uncomfortable experience. I am way too tired to try and freak out so I end up falling asleep. The next morning I’m always trying to figure out whether I had the groinal response first or after the thought. I start giving OCD power but it feels like If I let it go, then I’m in denial or whatever. I don’t want to ever do anything sexual with a child. I don’t even feel comfortable talking platonically with people who are 17, much less a child. My therapist says that I have a deep rooted fear that I’m this horrible person and that OCD loves to feed off of it. When you get a groinal response, it makes the thought that much more real. I never want these things to happen. I want to only be into adults. It’s so discomforting and stressful. Especially since I’m hyper checking how anxious I am, and if I find I didn’t really have much anxiety, then I’m like “well if I didn’t have anxiety, what does this mean?” And more questions occur til I end up in a rabbit hole
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- 7w ago
Does anyone else when they have the thoughts, they feel against it, but they still get arousal or tenglings sensations in the groinal area? Because this is what I experienced today and I feel like crap. This is going to be very triggering for a lot of you, but there are a lot of times that I notice things from kids. For example, there is a thirteen year old kid who looks very developed for her age, and I take notice of (and this already sounds creepy to me) her chest. Today with my thoughts, I imagined as if I were touching it, and although I usually "no no or "I don't want to do that", she is a kid, etc., I still get responses in my groinal area, and It felt very real. Even now, I feel as though I am faking it, even though I groan 😮💨 from it, and feel as though I am a fraud. Does anyone relate?
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