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- paufli
- Date posted
- 4y ago
- Username
- AnonymouslyAnonymously
- Date posted
- 4y ago
i can relate dont have a boyfriend but the asexual theme has popped up for me from time to time
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- pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Sounds like you have a lot of very reasonable explanations (a global pandemic, long term quarantining, worsening ocd, stress, depression, exhaustion) and then an illogical conclusion (ie “it must not be any of that. I’m probably asexual and need to break up with my bf.”) sounds like some ocd to me! Maybe a little ROCD and even some SOOCD type themes here. It’s okay to have a drop in libido for awhile. That’s normal and happens to most people from time to time but especially under stress. Don’t let your ocd take that simple fact and run with it to every terrible reason it can find.
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- pauflipaufli
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Thank you so much for this. I hate it that I know all these reasonable explanations but when I'm anxious it's like they disappear. I've had soocd and tocd so it makes sense but it's hard to see the context before jumping to "conclusions". I'll try my best not to fall into mental compulsions.
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- ChaiChai
- Date posted
- 4y ago
A low sex drive is especially common in OCD. A lot of people with SO-OCD feel a drop in libido, it doesn’t really mean anything more than a chemical imbalance- like OCD.
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- JojoJojo
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I feel this way esp with my POCD thoughts. He has a high sex drive with all that’s been going on with me I have no sexual energy /drive....nothing. I worry if I ever will again because I don’t even wanna look at anything sexual . We did have intercourse yesterday but it was me wanting to please him . I had the thoughts in my head the whole time not as bad but still there. I worry if I’ll always have them in my head and if and when I do get better I’d they’ll pop up randomly. I used to never worry about these things. Now idk. I worry that my Bf will get tired of my non existent sex drive. If I’m attracted to him at all. Etc etc. Its rough. 😔😔
- Username
- pauflipaufli
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I get you. You should talk to him, I did and it helps if he understands what you're going through. He used to think that I didn't want to have sex cause I don't find him attractive anymore when it's really because I just don't feel to, but it has nothing to do with him (I think) but when he says that then I think omg maybe it IS him and not me maybe I don't like him anymore or maybe I'm asexual or or or. It is hard to understand that sex drive fluctuates and specially in quarantine it can be non-existent. Once you stop responding to the thoughts, you'll feel better. Sometimes they'll pop up again, but you have to keep in mind that is normal that they reappear and not give them importance. I hope you feel better soon :)
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- 7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I believe my depression also killed my sex drive bc I’ve been feeling like I’m not sexually attracted to my partner. When I had sex before I felt completely off afterwards and had a panic attack. I’ve been depressed for 4 months now
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- pauflipaufli
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Last year I was depressed and didn't feel any emotion at all. I try to had sex and it was awfull. I cried. I recommend you see a therapist and have sex when you want to and not because you "have to". Hope you feel better soon <3
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- JojoJojo
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I believe I am depressed too. I felt the depression/severe depression before but now I feel almost numb and neutral to it all
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- pauflipaufli
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Yeah at first I wanted to cry all the time and then I just felt indifferent towards everything and numb. That's the worst. That's when my therapist told me to see a psychiatrist and I started taking meds. It helped me a lot
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- sillybilly sillybilly
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Sorry if this is a rude question but what does asexual mean?
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- 🌙🌙
- Date posted
- 4y ago
it means you don’t feel sexual attraction.
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- pauflipaufli
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I don't know exactly but I think it is when you don't feel sexually attraction towards anyone but you can feel attraction just not interested in sex
- Username
- JojoJojo
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Thank you 🙂
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- JojoJojo
- Date posted
- 4y ago
What medication are u taking? I’ve taken most SSRI’s . It’s hard for me to say what worked best for OCD thoughts and depression.
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- pauflipaufli
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I'm taking Luvox for a year now and it helps me a lot but in quarantine I had a relapse of ocd but besides of that I feel better
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- iamokay
- Date posted
- 2y ago
can anyone relate??
so i’m a 20 year old straight female .. and honestly when it comes to sex i don’t care for it unless i’m really aroused but i mostly just don’t really care for it like i can go a while without sex without feeling like i need it and when i do have sex though i do enjoy it but i never have an orgasm. not that that matters but is there anyone else doesn’t really care much for sex? i love my partner so much we have no issues so it has nothing to do with our connection but then the ocd side of me is saying "well what if it’s cause you aren’t attracted to him" "what if it’s cause you want sex with a girl instead" and i know that’s not true at all but these thoughts don’t stop gosh i hate ocd
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- EM77
- Date posted
- 2y ago
My brain can’t stop trying to figure out my sexuality and it’s horrible. I can find both men and women attractive so thought I might be bi, but then I don’t often want sex with my boyfriend so I’m worried I could be a lesbian. I can identify with bi or asexual quite happily but thinking about being a lesbian fills me with so much dread and anxiety. On Saturday I had the best day with my boyfriend. I felt so in love for most of the day which was a triumph considering I’ve had ROCD for the whole of the relationship. There was a time I looked at him and I honestly could’ve cried because I loved him that much. Surely I wouldn’t feel like that if I was a lesbian? I’ve always had crushes on boys growing up, but they were always romantic ones. When I thought of love growing up it was always romantic, I always felt a little alienated because I wasn’t interested in sex and sexual acts. Now, I enjoy sexual things with my boyfriend but he has to work to get me in the mood. I’m worried this means I’m not sexually attracted to him and what this means. But the love I feel sometimes is so intense and fills me with happiness. My mind can’t rest until I’ve figured it out
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- kytalker
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Help
Hi everyone! I just wanted to see if anyone else felt the way that I did about something related to SO-OCD… I’m finally discovering that I might have this sub genre of OCD and have had it for a very long time. I have always felt awkward around other women especially in more intimate situations (like changing in the same room, laying in bed together or giving compliments about looks). All of this hit me like a ton of bricks when I got into a relationship with my boyfriend 2 years ago and our sex life started to decline after about 9 months of us being together. It makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and I obsess over finding out why I have grown not attracted to him sexually. Am I a lesbian? Am I just depressed? Am I falling out of love with him? Was I ever in love with him? The list goes on and my obsession with it grows stronger. I’m so scared I will have to break up with him because I do love him and love spending time with him. I’m scared to start ERP therapy because I’m worried I’ll realize that it’s best to just let him go 😭
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