Any tips for maintaining a healthy relationship with ROCD? I know it can be hard and this is my first real relationship so any advice would be appreciated :)

Ive only recently discovered I have OCD and sometimes ROCD. I think its a matter of keeping yourself in check ans making sure you're not using your partner for your compulsions. I realized I was confessing about all my themes to my BF so I educated him on OCD and reassurance so he basically stops me for looking for reassurance. You gotta find that balance between whats communication and whats reassurance seeking!

Yes keep your partner in touch with if you are having bad OCD thoughts but don’t tell them about them. Could make them insecure or feel bad about themselves. Also I would say do not make decisions on the relationship out of anxiety. Example: “no I don’t love him anymore I should leave him” definitely anxiety, should statements etc. “I felt hurt when he did X and want to talk to him about it” that’s not anxiety and truly thinking with thoughtful consideration. In other words, do not make decisions based on what intrusive thoughts, repeated doubts, and feelings will tell you. Figure out if you see a positive impact on your life and if you share values. It’s confusing but that’s what I do.

I also find it super hard enjoying a relationship with OCD... I've finally met someone who really seems to share all my values and we've got so many things in common. At the beginning, I felt great and like myself being around him, and now that it starts to feel like a relationship (even though we said we wouldn't make it official yet), I feel off and doubts creep in... I hate it so much! I haven't told him about OCD and I don't plan on doing it in the near future...