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- Drvmstick
- Date posted
- 4y ago
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- Iwashere2Iwashere2
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Ive only recently discovered I have OCD and sometimes ROCD. I think its a matter of keeping yourself in check ans making sure you're not using your partner for your compulsions. I realized I was confessing about all my themes to my BF so I educated him on OCD and reassurance so he basically stops me for looking for reassurance. You gotta find that balance between whats communication and whats reassurance seeking!
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- Iwashere2Iwashere2
- Date posted
- 4y ago
An example. I tried explaining the intrusive thoughts and doubts I had about our relationship and he stopped me. He basicallt said, thats all I need to know, I love you, don't explain further. So there is that communication and support, but not that reassutance thats stops you from improving your OCD
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- Serio?Serio?
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Yes keep your partner in touch with if you are having bad OCD thoughts but don’t tell them about them. Could make them insecure or feel bad about themselves. Also I would say do not make decisions on the relationship out of anxiety. Example: “no I don’t love him anymore I should leave him” definitely anxiety, should statements etc. “I felt hurt when he did X and want to talk to him about it” that’s not anxiety and truly thinking with thoughtful consideration. In other words, do not make decisions based on what intrusive thoughts, repeated doubts, and feelings will tell you. Figure out if you see a positive impact on your life and if you share values. It’s confusing but that’s what I do.
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- MaybeMaybe
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I also find it super hard enjoying a relationship with OCD... I've finally met someone who really seems to share all my values and we've got so many things in common. At the beginning, I felt great and like myself being around him, and now that it starts to feel like a relationship (even though we said we wouldn't make it official yet), I feel off and doubts creep in... I hate it so much! I haven't told him about OCD and I don't plan on doing it in the near future...
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- Iwashere2Iwashere2
- Date posted
- 4y ago
That happened to me alot. I thought I was just weird but now its making sense that its ROCD.
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- DrvmstickDrvmstick
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Same. It’s hard cuz sometime I don’t think it’s rocd, but I honestly really want this relationship to work and that keeps me going
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- Iwashere2Iwashere2
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@aperez Its a bit weird, i fixate on the long term and whether or not Im in this for thr long haul. The weirdest way I cope is to remind myself "there's always divorce" Lol somehow gets me to stop worrying about the future
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- Date posted
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