Sometimes I tend to do Mental Checking or Mental Reassurance about the thing Im trying to prove, but I read on a site that's a type of mental compulsion too. And I've haven't got much results out of it either. Think of it like this,maybe. You want to be with a woman, right? Indifferently of what you think your Sexual Orientation is or how sure you are about it, that one thing is clear to you,right? Bc is not about what type of person you are, but actually about what you want. Also, don't know if this helps but there are plenty of people who identify as bi and want strictly het relationships only. Everyone says here to live with the uncertainty, you will never be sure to what part of the bi scale you are (0-15-40%??) But you can know what you want and that's something you can actually get out of your mind and work for
You’re honestly really helpful as most people are. You are giving advice with out reassurance which I’ve read is key.
OMG me too. Kinda relieved someone is experiencing the same thing.
Sorry if it seems like Im following you. Haha. I just feel like its an area I can put some thoughts into bc I worry about similar things myself, sometimes. Its just my perspective, take it with a grain of salt if you want. But if it helps in some way, Im glad.
I’m trying to get out of the mental compulsions i just can’t seem to break the cycle. I never questioned my attraction to women, i never forced myself to be attracted to them or to have feelings/crushes etc. I know what it’s like to have those and they were some of the best feelings in the world. Nothing about this seeming same sex “attraction” has brought me anything but anxiety. It started off as nauseating, now they just exist in my head.
Remember the thoughts attack what you care about the most. You probably highly value that aspect of yourself which is why you are reacting to it that way. Try some imagery in your head or some mental erp. I had the same battle and that really helped alot
My HOCD centers around the fear that I’m bisexual but I don’t want to be bisexual. Like I hate the thoughts and feelings that come when I see a pretty woman. It brings me no joy and I wish they would go away. God I hope that doesn’t mean I’m bisexual
HOCDers: do any of you ever go through moments that feel like realisation or discovery of being gay (I hate this so much because I know I’m not) Also does your ocd ever make you feel funny about being straight when you know you are? Sometimes if I say to myself ‘I’m straight’ I get a sensation that isn’t quite anxiety, I don’t know if it’s a longing/missing just knowing?
when I think about other girls I get this like weird feeling, i think it’s anxiety. I always question wether i feel anxious because i have Hocd OR its because i’m actually attracted to them and i’m just scared about being gay or coming out. Everything is just so confusing i don’t know why I can’t just put my finger on the answer :( I’ve always felt different in regards to sexuality, i’ve considered that i’m asexual. But never ever gay. idk what to do anymore :(
Why do I feel doubtful like if I get intrusive thoughts it bothers me but when I say like my thoughts don’t defy me and I know I’m straight I get like a weird panic attack and feel doubtful even writing this makes me feel doubtful but I know what I am and I know what I want and know who I want to be with now I feel doubtful but I don’t like this feeling it makes me sad can anyone relate ???
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