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Your mom is a TERRIBLE example of how someone competent and trained in ocd would treat you. I understand your fears, but the worst case scenario here is that someone misunderstands you, and you stop seeing them. The best case scenario is that you finally find the help you need and recover from ocd. ERP works. And your life doesn’t need to be like this. Please get help from a specialist. It will change your life. I hope this article can help: https://battlingtheocddemon.wordpress.com/2014/11/04/erp-works-so-why-wont-you-do-it/
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Thank you so much for being here with my friend. Everytime I see you, you're always ready to help someone with something they need help with strongly. I'm glad someone else has noticed this and I hope more people can. :) Now that you mention it, I can look at that article too.
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Thank you
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I’m so so sorry. No one should have to go through this or even get misunderstood for a disorder such as this one. You’re loved & we’re all here for you.
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Thank you 🙏🏻
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Hi. I'm really sorry to hear this. I'm sorry for your loss and I'm sorry that your mother isn't supporting you in the way you need her to. Any idea why she treats you that way because of this? Do you have any therapy? Have you told anyone else about your struggles? Do you have a therapist? I'm sorry I have so many questions, but I also want to say that you aren't alone and you aren't a disappointment. You are loved and we are here for you. It's not wrong for you or a compulsion to reach out for help.
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I can’t do it. The things I struggle with are horrible and no one could possible understand without twisting it and making it worse like my mom did. She just doesn’t understand that I don’t want this. I never did. I just want to live a normal life. I don’t have a therapist because I’m scared to get one plus I don’t think I can afford it. My mom also doesn’t believe I should get therapy she doesn’t want me talking to anyone about it. She just thinks ocd is cleaning and checking she doesn’t believe the other stuff so when I told her about what I was struggling with I cried and cried for her to help me and she just screamed at me and called me names so I don’t want to go to a therapist and that happen to me all over again
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@Staystrong❤ Unfortunately your mom is under stereotypical thinking when it comes to OCD and it's absolutely terrible to hear that she doesn't want to help you with this. I'm really sorry to hear that. However, you can share whatever problems you have with me. The last thing I will do is judge someone with a mental disorder that is hurting their livelihood. I want to help you. I don't want to make things worse. I definitely don't want to generalize OCD like it's as black and white as what people who don't understand what it's like think it is. Please. Express your worries here. We all struggle together and we try everyday to get better. That includes you too. I feel really bad. There has to be someone in your family that can help you get better. Siblings? Cousins? Aunts or Uncles? If not, I will try my best to help you out. Or at the very least listen to you. :(
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@BigGip09 I don’t have anyone I can go to about it. I’m so sorry I appreciate that you are willing to help me but I don’t think it’s a good idea. I truly appreciate it though. You have always been so nice
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@Staystrong❤ Oh.. well I'm here for you and you matter to me. I don't want you to go through your life dealing with this alone. Everybody needs someone to lean on. We're made to be social and we're meant to get help. I'm sorry you feel that way.. I hope things get better, u really do.
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@BigGip09 I*
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@BigGip09 Thank you so much
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Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well! I lost my dad yesterday and me having ocd since I was 7, it just skyrocketed. Yesterday it was difficult for sure, but I didn’t have any intrusive thoughts about self harm. It all happened suddenly when I was half asleep (trying to sleep even though it was really hard), were I feel as if a switch turned on in my brain and out of nowhere I started feeling angry. I recognised at that moment that I was not angry but that’s what my brain was telling me. And that’s when I had an intrusive thought of harming my mom came to my mind and immediately after that came the thought of harming myself. And it stuck. I know grief can make these themes pop up, but what if this is all real and not ocd? I’m scared. I acknowledge I don’t have thoughts in my head of planning to harm myself, it’s just a feeling that this is going to happen. Now letting my thoughts out brings me relief, even sometimes this intrusive thoughts bring me relief (that is very scary), but ocd makes me so pessimistic, and that I’m doomed in life and the sad life my dad had will also be mine as well. There are moments where I feel hope and relief, but it doesn’t last for long. As if I’m so so sure that this is going to happen. And me having magical thinking ocd doesn’t help either. Grief is hard, sometimes I cry, other times I laugh with my friends and family, but those moments I laugh is when I get terrified ( I read people who have made up the decision to (you know) are happy and laugh. Anyways, I’ve talked to my mom about it, she’s super supportive of me restarting therapy and even though she’s struggling with grief, she’s always there to listen to me and give me all the comfort I need. But I informed her about the thoughts the moment the popped up. Just so that she knows and can save me because I don’t trust myself at all. Sorry for this huge rumble, but I’d really appreciate your advice. I’m scared and so not ready to start therapy (at one hand I don’t want to, it feels such a chore, but I know I need to get help). I’m very pessimistic at the moment and I feel no one can convince me that I’ll get better. I think my future life, and it brings me this warm nice feeling and then it is followed by the thought that this will never happen. And because I have magical thinking ocd, and my uni exams have just started, I had this feeling that this exam season will be endless and it’s never going to end. Guess what, I’m probably going to just take one exam out of three (my mind is like you see, this thought and feeling came true) and that’s where I get super pessimistic. Okay, I’ll shut up for now, please give me some advice on how you try to manage your thoughts and what to do for now. Take care ❤️
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