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- 01kitty10
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- 5y ago
I am not from UK but. I can say that it is common to feel like that suffering from OCD but I can assure you that your GP has much more experice with this stuff. And getting help is the most wise choice to make. Wish you a better life.
Im scared they will just say I’m in denial:(
Your GP might be inclined to say that, it happened to me. But if you have a therapist that understands OCD and you are receiving ERP then you should be okay. I’ve been to both and said HOCD to both and the therapist knew straight away. A GP is best to guide you towards mental health services but make sure it isn’t for CBT.
How long did it take to get a referral? Is it not just better to seek a private therapist? I’m terrified that that no one will believe me that I have HOCD, including my parents
I had 2 types of therapy, CBT before I was 18 and ERP after I was 18. I went through my GP so the waiting times depend on where you are tbh. Before I was 18 it was around a month but after I was 18 it was adult services so around Feb/March last year I self referred with a handout my doctor gave me, went for an assessment a few months after and started ERP in August time I think. So it can be a process, personally I wouldn’t go private unless you’re desperate.
Do you mind me asking if you have HOCD? Did the NHS therapists help you and believe you? Tbh I feel pretty desperate
I do yes, I had one therapist who I told everything to and he said I have textbook OCD, like yourself. It affects us so much because it is the opposite of who we are, it is egodystonic. That’s why when you’re getting gay intrusive thoughts and you thought you were straight then that’s why it affects you so much. But the only way to look at these thoughts are just as what they are, thoughts. But yes, it was a great insight into my OCD he gave me because once you understand the OCD processes the thoughts are irrelevant. It works for any thought and some will come and go.
How did you find them? How many many therapists did you go through? How did you not get disheartened and spiral when they said you were in denial? I want to start doing some self-help stuff now. How did you start?
He was great, I only had one therapist. The only person who said I was in denial was my GP, my therapist never said that. Self help is a long process in itself, the first thing you need to do is understand the OCD process.
Do you mind me asking the name of your therapist? It would be much better if I could speak to a therapist who I know has experience in this area.
@Cosworth29 ?????
Please respond, I need a therapist and I need one that will believe me ?
They’re local to me, you’ll have to go to your GP and get referred to mental health services
But they probably do private treatment...? I’m willing to pay at this point...!
Hello??? It would be useful to have their name so I can look them up to get help, even if it’s only over email
I don’t know their full name, sorry. And no they don’t do private treatment, it’s a NHS service.
Ok...thanks
Just a quick message of caution. Before I was diagnosed with HOCD, I was convinced I turning exclusively Gay, so I went to a therapist, shaking, full of dread, fear and anxiety, I explained to him my instrusive thoughts, urges and feelings.... And to paraphrase, he said the reason I was feeling this is way is because, and I quote "you are repressing your sexuality", "if you do not come out as openly gay and live the lifestyle, you will forever be miserable and always anxious", "I advice you to re concile between your faith and your sexuality or else you will continue to remain depressed forever" and he went on and on and on (I was shivering with extreme fear the whole time) That was without a doubt, one of the worst days of my life, I left the room with extreme fear, believing everything he said, convinced I needed to come out and begin the process of living as a gay man, even though I WAS DYING internally. I am not homophobic however I don't desire to live as a gay man (even if i do have sexual intrusive thoughts about males) I don't desire to be sexually active with the same sex, again my own personal choice, nothing against those who choose otherwise. So please be cautious regarding the therapist you see, ensure they are a OCD specialist because a general therapist who has NO idea regarding Pure O OCD will only make things worse.
I have a question for anyone that’s been going through HOCD or any mental illness. If any when they were about to tell their loved ones that they were dealing with ocd did it kind of feel like they were actually like coming out of the closet or something? Because like you know you aren’t gay you know you just want to tell people about your ocd, but for some reason it feels like you might be coming out as gay when that is not the case.
I’ve been diagnosed with OCD (strongest HOCD) and have worked on it with a therapist for the past 5 years. It got better, while not completely going away. But now that I have a boyfriend and the stakes seem to be much higher in my mind, my HOCD and ROCD have big time flared up. I went to a psychiatrist to consider options of medication to someone who said he treats OCD. HE HAD NO IDEA WHAT HOCD OR ROCD OR ANYTHING WAS and told me that I may be bi-sexual etc. etc. etc. My therapist told me that this happens so often due to lack of understanding. Has anyone had a similar experience with someone misdiagnosing you and saying your intrusive thoughts might actually be true?
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