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Hey, there are ways to deal with these thoughts. You have to try your best to not give them any attention. So don’t tell yourself their false and don’t tell yourself they’re true, just let them enter your mind and then leave your mind. “Non-sufferers”, a term for people without OCD, just as easily think to themselves, “Oh man I hope I never do anything like that.” But then they stop thinking and move on. Our OCD brains get stuck on these thoughts because we let them. We feed them by continuing to give the thoughts our attention. Try not to. It’s definitely hard at first, but if keep practicing to teach your brain it doesn’t need to give attention to these things, it will become easier to let them go. Wishing you strength and peace. ❤️
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Thank you! I don’t understand what drives people to commit these horrific acts and I get stuck wanting to know why because in some way I want to compare myself and make sure I’m not like that.
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@Dre83 For sure, I know what you mean. I sometimes think of it as people like that must have “snapped” in some way. And since we’re supposed to learn to live with uncertainty with OCD, we must learn to accept that we can never be sure we won’t “snap” one day, BUT if we are not “snapping” right now, then we might as well enjoy the time we have feeling normal and empathetic and spend our time caring about the people we love while we have the ability to do so wholeheartedly. And the more we allow ourselves to enjoy the time we have now, the healthier and happier our minds will be and the less likely we will be to end up lashing out in the future.
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@Nocd4nicole Hope that kind of helps!
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@Nocd4nicole It does thank you. I know I don’t have a desire to lash out or snap. I just want a happy life.
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Yeah I was mentioning this to my wife a few minutes ago. I said people who do these thigg by s don’t get anxiety or afraid to be around there family. It seems counterintuitive because we are trying to get rid of the anxiety while allowing the thoughts. Gosh this is confusing
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I hope I have ocd I hate myself
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Why is this my life? Why is this my pain and suffering? Why does it have to target my family? Why can’t my brain just get it?
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I've been reading some anxiety books and I guess our Amygdala in our brain is adapted for us to sense fear and danger at every corner, as our early ancestors did. The better the Amygdala, the more successfully fit they were, producing more offspring, aka extremely anxious generations after generations. This trait was specifically meant to help us look out for our families. I struggle with this too after hearing disturbing stories online or on the news. The stories really stick with me and I personalize them to my life and imagine how it could be me or my loved ones. It's very painful, and I've been having a hard time with it this past week. If anything these intrusive thoughts reinforce out morals and how much we truly love the people in our life and how much we want to keep them safe.
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You make good points it is very painful and it does reinforce our morals and how much we love the people in our life. I hope this passed for you soon friend. I wish we could all live close to one another and hang out as I think that would be cool.
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@Dre83 Best wishes to you as well!!! <3
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- 22w
so this all started not too long ago, for literally no reason at all. but one day i got a random intrusive thought about harming others and it freaked me out bad. since then i’ve been non stop focusing on it and im genuinely scared that i am, or gonna end up like those sick people that have documentaries about them. i’ve never had these types of thoughts before and after me and my mom looked a lot of stuff up we think i have OCD cuz a lot of the stuff it was saying was accurate to me. to anyone in here, does this sound like OCD to you? i’ve always been a nice loving person and these thoughts freak me out so bad and make me feel like i’m a bad gross person. it got to the point i don’t even like looking at myself anymore. i just wanna go back to normal man. another thing to add, when i would explain this to my mom even though i was telling the full truth on how crappy this made me feel it felt like i was lying almost? but i know i wasn’t deep down. i’m just scared that what if i act on something or get in my head too much you know?
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- 17w
Around 10 years ago when I started getting violent OCD intrusive thoughts, I also started fearing that I was a sociopath. I began overanalyzing everything — especially my emotions. It's like if I could prove I had emotions it proved I wasn't a sociopath. I care deeply about my family — I worry about them, I want them to be safe and happy, I want them to get theit deepest desires — but I don’t know what love "feels" like, if its supposed to feel like anything. People describe love as this warm, obvious, fuzzy emotion, but I don’t experience it the way I think I’m supposed to. Is it supposed to be intense? Constant? Loud? Because I’m not sure I’ve ever felt that. My family isn’t very emotionally expressive either. I cherish hugs from them when I get them, I initiate most hugs with my parents (but I don't like hugs from other people, like co workers) but overall my family doesnt show affection much, and that’s made me question if I’m even capable of love. I overanalyze my feelings constantly — especially after realizing I don’t feel connected to God in the way my old church said I should. I don’t love God. I don’t feel anything toward Him — we’ve never met obviously so I just never got a connection with Him. But growing up, that felt like a sin in itself. As a teen, I felt ashamed knowing I cared more for my parents than for God, especially when church messages said God had to come first. There’s a song by Mary Mary that says, “I love you more than my mother, my father…” and it used to make me feel broken. My feelings were in direct contradiction with what I was taught, and that shame never fully left me. OCD latched onto that hard. It’s only after a coworker passed away — and I found myself crying multiple times over it — that I realized I do care deeply for people. But even that realization felt pathetic. Why did I need such an extreme moment to feel something “real”? & why didn't I care for another creepy bigoted co worker when his son was sick? I felt nothing. I’m scared my OCD is convincing me that I’m heartless, even though I want connection. I crave love. I like hugs. It’s exhausting and terrifying to doubt my own humanity like this. I hate this fear. I hate that I don’t trust myself. I hate that OCD makes me question my morality, my emotions — everything that makes me me. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? How do I even explain this to a therapist
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- 16w
I’ve always struggled with maladaptive daydreaming I’ve stopped but I have harm ocd and my brain would hook onto a true crime story and I’d pretend to be a family member/loved one/victim of a k*ller and would make up elaborate stories abt it. That feels so disgusting I’m so scared this shows in a horrible person doesn’t it? And now my brain is telling me I have found k*llers attractive in the past I don’t think I ever did but what if I did I’m scared
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