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Hey, there are ways to deal with these thoughts. You have to try your best to not give them any attention. So don’t tell yourself their false and don’t tell yourself they’re true, just let them enter your mind and then leave your mind. “Non-sufferers”, a term for people without OCD, just as easily think to themselves, “Oh man I hope I never do anything like that.” But then they stop thinking and move on. Our OCD brains get stuck on these thoughts because we let them. We feed them by continuing to give the thoughts our attention. Try not to. It’s definitely hard at first, but if keep practicing to teach your brain it doesn’t need to give attention to these things, it will become easier to let them go. Wishing you strength and peace. ❤️
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Thank you! I don’t understand what drives people to commit these horrific acts and I get stuck wanting to know why because in some way I want to compare myself and make sure I’m not like that.
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@Dre83 For sure, I know what you mean. I sometimes think of it as people like that must have “snapped” in some way. And since we’re supposed to learn to live with uncertainty with OCD, we must learn to accept that we can never be sure we won’t “snap” one day, BUT if we are not “snapping” right now, then we might as well enjoy the time we have feeling normal and empathetic and spend our time caring about the people we love while we have the ability to do so wholeheartedly. And the more we allow ourselves to enjoy the time we have now, the healthier and happier our minds will be and the less likely we will be to end up lashing out in the future.
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@Nocd4nicole Hope that kind of helps!
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@Nocd4nicole It does thank you. I know I don’t have a desire to lash out or snap. I just want a happy life.
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Yeah I was mentioning this to my wife a few minutes ago. I said people who do these thigg by s don’t get anxiety or afraid to be around there family. It seems counterintuitive because we are trying to get rid of the anxiety while allowing the thoughts. Gosh this is confusing
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I hope I have ocd I hate myself
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Why is this my life? Why is this my pain and suffering? Why does it have to target my family? Why can’t my brain just get it?
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I've been reading some anxiety books and I guess our Amygdala in our brain is adapted for us to sense fear and danger at every corner, as our early ancestors did. The better the Amygdala, the more successfully fit they were, producing more offspring, aka extremely anxious generations after generations. This trait was specifically meant to help us look out for our families. I struggle with this too after hearing disturbing stories online or on the news. The stories really stick with me and I personalize them to my life and imagine how it could be me or my loved ones. It's very painful, and I've been having a hard time with it this past week. If anything these intrusive thoughts reinforce out morals and how much we truly love the people in our life and how much we want to keep them safe.
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You make good points it is very painful and it does reinforce our morals and how much we love the people in our life. I hope this passed for you soon friend. I wish we could all live close to one another and hang out as I think that would be cool.
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@Dre83 Best wishes to you as well!!! <3
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