For people with sexual intrusive thoughts (soocd or pocd) do you get triggered thinking about how there are people who might not want to be that sexuality at first or be in denial about it and eventually accept who they are?

Of course but that’s a great exposure! I would look for coming out stories where people came out late after being in denial and sit with the anxiety and do nothing. You should try and use it as an exposure. Don’t look for reassurance just sit with the anxiety for a couple of hours thinking it could possibly be you.

You’re never going to get better until you accept that you might be gay. Sit with the anxiety and the thoughts and do nothing. You keep asking for reassurance by coming here and telling your story. You’re not going to get better this way. Trust me, get back on the horse and try again. Let yourself think the thoughts are true and do not argue with them even though you don’t like them. You have to take the risk

Kind of , when people tell their coming out story in this way, yes

As a gay person who didn’t struggle with acceptance even though I live in a homophobic society, it def triggers me when people say they had to do the mental work to accept themselves

Yes

This is what scares me as I was never told this, 6 therapists told me it was OCD and I wasn’t Gay but this feels real so are you lot saying it can be as this has destroyed my 10 year relationship with a girl I was with and had no issues before.. can someone come out of this realising they are Gay as people and therapists have told me this doesn’t or hasn’t happened but have to live with the uncertainty

But I can’t as I don’t want to be Gay I want my life back. I accept I am gay but can’t stop thinking of all the acts throughout the day I don’t know how to stop ruminating and when I do accept I am Gay I feel like I have accepted I am and then I have just been in denial and been misled by therapists who told me I wasn’t and it was just OCd. Accept it can be true then if I am then I have lied to my partner and misled her so why are therapists telling me I am not and it’s OcD. I don’t want to be gay and will never be able to accept it as I don’t want to be

Yes, right now my biggest worry is that girls are somehow going to seem appealing to me. So now it feels like I’m curious? But I don’t think I’m curious, it’s more like I’m desperate to make sure it’s not what I like and it feels like the only way I’ll know is by looking into it and I’m just scared. I mean I understand why people like girls, but I don’t think it’s for me but my mind says since I recognize the appeal it must mean I want it for myself. :/

You said can someone with Hocd realised they are Gay but I am been diagnosed with ocd and told by over 6 therapists this doesn’t happen but people fear it will like people realise they are Gay or a pedophile.

Just scared as been with my partner for 10 years and I feel I like the these thoughts but don’t want and hound me 24/7 which has left me housebound. Everything is kissing men and all other acts my parents and girlfriend have sat through therapy and they have said it’s ocd and I am not so why don’t I believe them

I have watched a few of his videos but my therapist told me it’s just OCd and I am not Gay or a pedophile but why do I feel I like these thoughts

The problem is I feel I know I am Gay now and so confused with what I was told and my family that this was OcD and I wasn’t

I know but I don’t want to be but feel I already know on and I am destroyer