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- Isabella
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- 3y ago
Of course but that’s a great exposure! I would look for coming out stories where people came out late after being in denial and sit with the anxiety and do nothing. You should try and use it as an exposure. Don’t look for reassurance just sit with the anxiety for a couple of hours thinking it could possibly be you.
You’re never going to get better until you accept that you might be gay. Sit with the anxiety and the thoughts and do nothing. You keep asking for reassurance by coming here and telling your story. You’re not going to get better this way. Trust me, get back on the horse and try again. Let yourself think the thoughts are true and do not argue with them even though you don’t like them. You have to take the risk
Kind of , when people tell their coming out story in this way, yes
As a gay person who didn’t struggle with acceptance even though I live in a homophobic society, it def triggers me when people say they had to do the mental work to accept themselves
Hi there. I saw that you are gay. Is there any way you would want to message with me on the side? I am dealing with HOCD and have a few questions.
@wyattthedude No dude don’t go down this path. You are looking for reassurance. Stay away. Look for the anxiety. Accept the anxiety and live with the possibility it may or may not be true. It gets easier trust me
@wyattthedude I agree with the op. As much as I don’t mind answering any questions, I don’t think it’s a good as this will only end up feeding your ocd. But if you still insist then we can talk on discord
@Reassurance Destroyer It’s so much harder because i’m in a 2 year serious relationship.
@wyattthedude That’s an excuse and a ritual. You need to accept the possibility that you may or may not be gay. Don’t tell yourself it’s harder because you’re in a 2 year relationship. Let’s sit with the anxiety and not do anything about it. Trust me it gets better.
Yes
This is what scares me as I was never told this, 6 therapists told me it was OCD and I wasn’t Gay but this feels real so are you lot saying it can be as this has destroyed my 10 year relationship with a girl I was with and had no issues before.. can someone come out of this realising they are Gay as people and therapists have told me this doesn’t or hasn’t happened but have to live with the uncertainty
Are you asking if you can realize you’re gay through HOCD?
Again! Accept the thoughts are true and do not respond to them. SIT WITH THE ANXIETY AND DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING
@Reassurance Destroyer the HOCD is so bad that at this point it feels like it would be easier if it was real.
@Reassurance Destroyer Okay.
@wyattthedude Good that it feels real. Once you get to that point sit with it hide your phone. Don’t disagree with it and just let the anxiety take what it wants. Trust me it gets easier
@wyattthedude Play a game. See how long you can go with sitting with the possibility that your fear is true. See how long you can go with the anxiety. Trust me you’ll see results
@wyattthedude Yes this is what scares me as I was never told this for over 10 years therapists said people don’t realise there themes are true.. I have been with a girl for 10 years have I misunderstood OCD as thought it meant this wasn’t true from what therapists told me
@Anonymous I’m sorry, is there any way you can rephrase this? I don’t quite understand.
@wyattthedude Who cares what she said. You are you. Quit searching for reassurance through someone else’s life.
But I can’t as I don’t want to be Gay I want my life back. I accept I am gay but can’t stop thinking of all the acts throughout the day I don’t know how to stop ruminating and when I do accept I am Gay I feel like I have accepted I am and then I have just been in denial and been misled by therapists who told me I wasn’t and it was just OCd. Accept it can be true then if I am then I have lied to my partner and misled her so why are therapists telling me I am not and it’s OcD. I don’t want to be gay and will never be able to accept it as I don’t want to be
Yes, right now my biggest worry is that girls are somehow going to seem appealing to me. So now it feels like I’m curious? But I don’t think I’m curious, it’s more like I’m desperate to make sure it’s not what I like and it feels like the only way I’ll know is by looking into it and I’m just scared. I mean I understand why people like girls, but I don’t think it’s for me but my mind says since I recognize the appeal it must mean I want it for myself. :/
You’re trying to figure something out. You should accept the possibility that the thought is true and do not try to check in on it. Try to sit with the anxiety and uncertainty for as long as possible
@Reassurance Destroyer You’re right
You said can someone with Hocd realised they are Gay but I am been diagnosed with ocd and told by over 6 therapists this doesn’t happen but people fear it will like people realise they are Gay or a pedophile.
Again REASSURANCE
Just scared as been with my partner for 10 years and I feel I like the these thoughts but don’t want and hound me 24/7 which has left me housebound. Everything is kissing men and all other acts my parents and girlfriend have sat through therapy and they have said it’s ocd and I am not so why don’t I believe them
https://youtube.com/channel/UCX7a7Ydw1-lZq-cwHkeND2Q Watch ocd mindful he helped me get through HOCD. Highly recommend subscribing
I have watched a few of his videos but my therapist told me it’s just OCd and I am not Gay or a pedophile but why do I feel I like these thoughts
Go watch this video and understand how your therapist is wrong. https://youtu.be/jbRUUnESn-0
@Reassurance Destroyer What do you mean therapist is wrong so I could be gay and pedophile then
The problem is I feel I know I am Gay now and so confused with what I was told and my family that this was OcD and I wasn’t
Try to accept that you’re gay for a day without ruminating or doing any compulsions. I bet you in hours you’ll feel way better. See how long you can sit with the anxiety. Take the risk that the possibility is true
I know but I don’t want to be but feel I already know on and I am destroyer
*Trigger Warning* (Homosexual/Sexual-Orientation) Everyone who is comfortable, please post your intrusive thoughts, feelings, urges, or memories here that have to do with H/SO- OCD. What is true is that all of these things have nothing to do with who you are, and are just by-products and misconstructions of our creative brains. I want people to feel less alone and to know that they are not deviant. Thanks guys?❤️
hey, i have a question to people with obsessions and intrusive thoughts about sexual orientation. i too have a little tiny amount of worries about being any other sexual orientation than i think i am now, but they dont bother me that much. i see a lot of people here have these thoughts in huge portions. my question is, what is it that makes you afraid of it? i know this could seem like a really rude question, but its asked out of curiosity; does it have to do with internalised homophobia? or is it because your current sexuality is very strong and being anything else would completely change your identity? i just wonder a lot
I’m a lesbian and I constantly have intrusive thoughts that being who I am is bad morally. Also, feel like sometimes I am attracted to men but I know I am not. Is there anyone with a similar experience? Whenever the thoughts come I feel stressed. Sorry, if Thai triggered anyone.
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