- Username
- mtksy
- Date posted
- 3y ago
That's the real sinister part of what we deal with - OCD can develop into something that takes your greatest fears and insecurities and amplifies them to the point that you worry all the time. I don't want to contribute to the reassuring mechanism that a good many of us on this site have been going through; I do want to stress to you that OCD is a very real condition, a thinking disorder. It's not your fault, it's not a character issue. Though it feels permanent, it is manageable and it is NOT the truth of who you are, merely something you're having to deal with. I can vouge for ERP. The more you don't give in to the compulsions, the more you'll be able to see these disturbing thoughts as passing clouds.
All the time!
That's the very nature of our condition. The reassurance seeking is the compulsion part of the OCD and it only strengthens it. I went through this for several months straight between last year and this year and it became an almost daily thing. Medication and the ERP I'm getting through NOCD has helped tremendously! There is a way out; until then, be patient with yourself. It took a long time to get to the point you're at and it's going to take some work to get out of it, but you will get through it.
Thanks! I appreciate your reply
Absolutely, yesterday i spent over an hour just watching videos on severe OCD to try to reassure myself that its what i deal with and the videos showed people getting divorced cus of it and all that and i literally paniced and cried but couldnt stop watchinf them
Ahhh I know that feeling!
Yeah, that's one reason why it's discouraged. It doesn't actually help.
Isnt reassurance ok sometimes? I mean, the whole idea of not having reassurance can sound unbelievably isolating to someone. The reality is that every human could use some reassurance every so often. OCD or not. Reassurance is nothing new. Isnt the whole concept of labeling our condition as OCD, reassurance in and of itself?
It depends on the type of reassurance. For us, its generally not a good idea if its meant to quell our sense of uncertainty regarding ocd themes. Now if its stuff like asking your college professor if you're doing well in the class cus they havent updated grades, then of course thats fine
Can someone explain to me why reassurance is bad for OCD?? I often have overwhelming anxiety that my boyfriend is upset with me. So I will sometimes ask him if we’re good. Even though nothing has happened to suggest anything is wrong. He knows I have terrible anxiety so he never makes me feel bad for asking. And as soon as I’ve asked I feel better.
People who have experienced ROCD- I had a rough day yesterday with my boyfriend due to acting on some compulsions. My compulsion is to seek reassurance. It was just not a good night because he was getting impatient, I was getting sensitive.. just not good. Anyway, we’re good now, but I just feel uneasy. My OCD always continues because after I complete a compulsion, I feel guilty and then I get more irrational thoughts that my boyfriend will leave me... thus I seek more reassurance. How do I get out of this insecure space in my head WITHOUT seeking reassurance again? Does this last a long time?
I’m kinda laughing at myself because I’m extremely disappointed that I just now found out that seeking reassurance doesn’t help anything…y’all wanna guess why I’ve been scrolling this app for the last hour and a half? … welp someone tell me what to do because it’s the only thing that seems to help me…
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