Has anyone gotten to the point with ROCD whether you question if the relationship is actually want you want anymore ? I can’t tell if this feeling/thought is OCD anymore or if I genuinely need to leave. I really don’t want to feel this way but I don’t know if wanting to be with my partner or wanting to love him is enough. I’ve had all the extreme anxiety before but no longer. It just feels off, numb like something is missing that I can’t put my finger on. My mind is saying that maybe it just is my time to leave and move on. I can’t figure out if this is just another OCD tactic or true 🤷🏻‍♀️

Thanks for your story! I’m happy you made it through the bad times and are experiencing the great times now.

Thank you! I think a conversation about getting engaged is what triggered this! So your comment is really helpful to hear- knowing that regardless you have a choice! Congrats on pulling through and doing what you wanted! And thank you again :)

@Shannon Thank you! And yes 100%. I got triggered when I started ring shopping. That is where my ROCD began. I’ve read that OCD gets stronger in moments of important changes in life so it’s only natural for you to be feeling this way.

Thank you! I’m choosing to stay because something, somewhere inside me knows it’s right! Thank you, and I hope you start feeling better too! ❤️

Thanks for replying. When I don’t have these thoughts or feelings, I do not question my relationship. It’s healthy, loving and all I’ve ever wanted- I just can’t deal with feeling/thinking this way anymore. I know I’d feel better leaving but my therapist said unless I’m happy being single forever, I need to work through this because it won’t go away until I do the work. My partner knows all my thoughts- he’s so helpful & understanding & says he knows I love him. It’s so hard- I can’t even work out what I do or don’t want anymore :(

@Shannon You sounds just like me! It’s important you have that open communication with him. Just remember the OCD attacks what you truly care about so as someone told me here, the fact that you’re posting about this looking for someone to talk to shows a lot about your true feelings. And also something that’s helped me is it’s normal to have these feelings of doubt pop up in a relationship. It’s just for us it affects us more than it does the average person and we give meaning to these thoughts when in reality there’s nothing wrong. Idk if that helps or not but it will be okay.

@Kdrizzy Thank you, I really appreciate you replying. My partner said that himself- I get these thoughts all the time but I don’t think about it or keep busy- wish it was that easy for us! And I know- I’ve left relationships without a second thought etc before so it does say something I guess- but logic seems to go out the window in OCD!