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I just want to say this is completely normal, you say ‘I think this is truly denial, no one else has thoughts of it being nice and actually enjoyable’ - that’s not strictly true, at all. The crutch of a lot of obsessions, PARTICULARLY ones that are sexual in nature, is that OCD evokes sensations of ‘enjoyment’ (such as physical arousal), which is the reason people become so absorbed with the obsession - it FEELS REAL! I don’t want to reassure, but, you are not bi. Look, if I had no understanding or OCD, and took what you said at face value (I.e that you have these sexual thoughts that create a feeling of ‘enjoyment’ (arousal) & ‘curiousity’ about the same sex, while also feeling a disconnection from your partner - ignoring all of the OCD stuff; you’re right, I would think you’re bi. But the fact that you have OCD turns that on it’s HEAD, completely. It’s the same for someone has harm obsessions for example, if I was a layman (no understanding or OCD), and I heard that some woman was constantly thinking about stabbing her child, I’d think she was seriously disturbed - but again, I’m sure you’d agree that having OCD turns that presumption on its head. The reason I’m saying this is that, as someone with OCD, you’re looking at your own situation - despite prior knowledge of OCD - as though you’re just a non-OCD individual experiencing those thoughts. The division is QUITE bold.
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Thank you for this I truly needed it, especially the last paragraph, it’s true I’m treating all of this like it’s not ocd and treating the thoughts like reality is hurting me a lot.
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I can relate to this
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Hang in there
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I am scared can’t stop thinking of these thoughts it feels real at first when this started I didn’t get feelings and emotions.. getting this nagging thoughts sayinv try it you don’t know unless you try it is horrible it is wrecking my life please help !
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I totally understand what you’re feeling, you’re not alone
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Thanks for sharing your current experience. I would say that you should be very proud of yourself for 1st noticing the anxiety, distress, and discomfort and letting those feelings of anxiety, fear, etc. be there.This is a perfect time to as I like to say "practice" ERP. Practice not analyzing any of those points you mentioned and place your attention on this present moment. Feel your feet on the ground, take a deep breathe, go for a walk, read, go hangout with a close companion, or play a sport. Not avoiding the discomfort, but choosing to do things you want to do and not give any attention to dwelling on that.The most important part being the response prevention. Not easy, but part of the work. When this type of situation occurs and we are in environments in which we are organically exposed to distress, use this as an opportunity to practice doing the work! This allows for two things; showing yourself you can handle and tolerate it, and also letting your body know that although you feel uncomfortable you are willing to keep doing whatever it is you are doing and getting on with your day! This is the foundation!
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I really dont know if it is ocd anymore I dont want certain sexual things with my bf anymore that i used to like When i envision it with a girl it is so easy to envision and it feels like i want that , that will give me the satisfaction This feeling is making me really question if i am still into men , desire men sexually Is this still ocd , i really dont know anymore , as it is a feeling it is too real
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I don’t know if it’s SOOCD. I no longer feel anxious in the moment when I think about women, and it’s like my imagination wants me to think about it and get aroused. I don’t want to be gay, but maybe I am after all. In my life I haven’t been so sexually driven before (when I was living with a man, or when being single) but now all I can think about is having sex with a woman. I don’t want to, but somehow my body does and it feels like my mind have changed to accept it to.. feel so sad This all started around 4 weeks ago..
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I’m like 90% sure I’m just bi, more romantically inclined to men, mainly my bf who I wanna marry. But now my brain is like “if you lean into liking women or keep circling and circling for answers you’ll lose all attraction to men and your bf. You’re practically already a lesbian” I feel so tense and anxious I will admit I am talking to chat gpt out of desperation I’m scared of losing all attraction to him I don’t wanna be thinking about women. I don’t unless I’m really stressed cuz when I’m stressed my ocd can take advantage of that I can usually ground myself when I’m in the city with him but I’m back home for most of the summer and I can’t be physically close to him which usually reminds me that hey this is real this is what I really want in life. Him But then I panic and question I haven’t been here in a while tbh. I’m worried I don’t feel enough. I don’t like magic Mike all that much, I like softer guys. But now the fact I don’t like/get turned on by random men on tv but do women in lingerie really stresses me out and makes me worry I’m truly a lesbian but I’m not. Once I started getting to know my bf and my ex bf’s I really did truly genuinely like them and wanted to make out and everything. Idk can anyone relate to the not liking big buff men All my brain is repeating rn is “when he dies you’ll be able to date a woman, when you break up you’ll only wanna date women” and it’s stressing me out. It’s making me nauseous. I was doing well for about a couple days after I initially left but being at home has been so incredibly draining This might give you a vision of how stressful home is: I’ve been on nexplanon for 7 months ish? Only had very minimal spotting during a stressful school period. Today: fully bleeding, like a usual period. I haven’t had my period since having it put in. I wanna go back to my bf so badly rn. I’m so worried I’m faking or don’t feel enough. I’m learning what a healthy relationship looks like and I’m terrified I’m gonna up and leave him when we’re older cuz I’ll finally figure out that I’m a lesbian or smthn. Idk. Someone pls just help me out a tad
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