What are some good resources for spouses on how to deal with their husband/wife that has OCD?

I would recommend talking to a professional as well as your partner just to figure out what you can do for them and learn methods on how to help in a bad OCD episode or potential panic or anxiety attack, it is important to understand how to avoid crisis in that certain moment and then help calm them down, so taking to a proffessional can help you learn how to at least start getting a grasp on how to do those things.

I think a good book can be "Is she the one? Living with ocd when you are married" I found it extremely helpful!!

This is an excellent question. There are lots of resources on youtube that might be helpful. I think the most important thing to remember is that the person is still the person you fell in love with- try and separate them from the illness. Remember, also that you don't have to solve this for them, they just need you to love them through it and support them. Remember to take good care of yourself as well, dealing with mental illness can be stressful for anyone and seeing someone you care for go through that can be painful. https://youtu.be/0UVz-sZ6YGI https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/5-must-read-books-for-people-struggling-with-ocd