cmac1339
- Date posted
- 3y
pre507pre507
- Date posted
- 3y
I would try to tell them that you don't appreciate them commenting on your body and/or appearance. It's a boundary that you're allowed to have. As well as that, it's also important to realize that there are plenty of people you haven't met that are going to be friends, or people you just enjoy talking to. Sometimes people go through a time where they don't have any close friends, and although it may be painful, you can learn more about yourself that way. Then, if you want, you can try to find new friends (or they could find you, you never know), and you'll know exactly what you value in a friendship, and how you want to be treated.
Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 3y
Thank you for your post, it really helped me. :)
Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 3y
Hm, some people just lack empathy. A friend went - Oh, you got grey hair - I haven't noticed the bit of grey at the sides of my head, before she pointed it out. Same with my troat, it looks chubby now, but she pointed out, that it always did, so now when I look at old pictures, I tend to see it as well. Maybe address, that you are not happy with them critisizing your looks. If the don't understand, or are not willing to at least try to change, you still have the option to cut them off.
system_errorsystem_error
- Date posted
- 3y
You need to find yourself some non-toxic people. They're like slowly corroding acid.
cmac1339cmac1339
- Date posted
- 3y
I don’t know if i ever will tbh
Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 3y
@cmac1339 I am also not sure, if I ever again will find people, I feel safe and welcome with...
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