Is it bad that i stalked a guys page , more like an old situationship bc i saw he viewed my bfs story in the beginning of my current relationship, i didnt care about him i was just curious but now i feel bad bc my bf knows but im sad that i hurt him & i just wanna know if im not the only who got curious & went through an old person they used to talk to page?
No you aren't the only one. I've done the same thing!
I think Your last question is intended to seek reassurance which isn’t good for your ocd because it’ll only bring you short term relief before the guilt starts arising again, you checked his account, while you did at that time you clearly didnt think anything of it, only now you feel guilty About it realising it was a mistake, your OCD is gonna exaggerate that guilt sooo much more that it should be and its gonna bully you into thinking you’re the worst gf and dont deserve your bf at all, don’t fight a bully, a bully just wants a reaction out of you, if you feed it that reaction it’ll strive more, so deprive it of that, whatever harsh comment ocd throws at you, just dont engage with it say “i guess that sucks yeah” , “maybe, maybe not” and you’ll eventually start feeling better and less stressed, one day you’re gonna look back at it and be proud of how far you’ve come.
i feel so bad for posting here, idk what i wamt i have so many thoughts abt the feelings i have for my bf im scared my thughts are true or that they will be true and i feel bad for feeling amd thinking this way i such a bad girlfriend, i am scared that i like other people just because i look at them or talk to them normally and i feel like a liar what cam i do to stop feeling like this i am scared
I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
I was doing fine today until I asked ChatGPT if i cheated and they said it could count as emotional cheating if you are engaging in intense daydreams and looking someone up on social media to feed a fantasy about them. My partner and I already spoke about me fantasizing about this person and he said it was totally fine since it happened in my head and he has had crushes and fantasies on coworkers too. However I feel absolutely devastated and wrecked with guilt and anxiety and panic right now. I genuinely feel like a horrible horrible horrible cheater. I don’t know what to do. I have therapy scheduled for later this week but I really really need some advice right now!!! I feel like it could count as cheating since it did happen during a few weeks where i felt a bit distant from my partner and I feel like the daydreaming was excessive. I am so so scared. Do I confess? Do I tell him I cheated? He already told me once that cheating is a physical interaction (and I literally have not interacted with this person outside of surface level responses in a group server that my partner is also a part of). Do I have a moral obligation to tell him I cheated? I need to know.
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