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For sperm ocd for me it invokes the fear of getting pregnant but you know how ocd is what you value and ect I can’t figure out how this theme is a value or why it’s like and ocd theme for me?
For sperm ocd for me it invokes the fear of getting pregnant but you know how ocd is what you value and ect I can’t figure out how this theme is a value or why it’s like and ocd theme for me?
Hello, I have the same ocd about that but I’m a guy so I have the fear of getting someone pregnant. I think for me at least, the value is being free and not having to be responsible for another human. I fear my life will be taken away from me and I will never get to accomplish or do everything I want in life. The thought of having a child that is mine scares me because of that. I value my freedom and not having to worry about raising another human. I value wanting to be by myself. OCD about this makes me wash my hands all the time because I am always afraid I have sperm on them and if I touch something or someone it will get inside them somehow. I am afraid of anything sexual and I get so stressed out that someone I know will get pregnant somehow and I question if I did something or not with them even if I know I didn’t. I just get crazy images and thoughts in my head that I did something.
@nick7 I can totally relate to this 💕💛
@nick7 I know this comment is somewhat old but I feel you! Except mine is the opposite. I’m afraid I will come in contact with sperm and I will get pregnant. Bathrooms, Public places, home etc. I can not leave my house because of it. I can’t sit down on chairs in public because I’m afraid there’s sperm on the chair and I’ll get pregnant
This is very common for sure in OCD. I think it is important to recognize that underneath the themes or flavors of OCD, there are core fears- those typically hit at what we value. For you, it could be so many things, like the idea of wanting to be ready when you become a parent, but also think about what OCD demands- certainty- control- what could seem more out of control then an unplanned pregnancy or one that you accidentally got via sperm somehow, that's how OCD works- it wants to insert this nagging doubt, what of this or what if that. The key here is learning to accept that in life there will be uncertainty, and things that happen that are out of our control- that is where the fear really is at. Hope this helps.
@NOCD Therapist - Stacy Q. Thankyou 🥰
I also have this intense anxiety and thoughts about getting pregnant accidentily, and I know it is technically impossible, but I misremeber experiences, and start doubting what happened and then ask for reassurance from other people on what happened and it just makes me feel like they think I am losing my mind. Requiring the constant validation that I did not come into contact with sperm and did not become pregnant is not great at reassuring me.
@Stressed22 I get the same exact way it sucks. I need constant reassurance
@Stressed22 💕💕
I’m so sorry to hear that OCD has latched onto fears of getting pregnant. You are not alone, I have also dealt with this fear and I know many others have as well. Treating this obsession like any other obsession is key here! Try to use some non-engagement responses to combat these intrusive thoughts. “Maybe, maybe not” or even agreeing with statements can be helpful to stop the rumination process. You got this!
@EmilyCruce Thankyou 💛🥰
I’m really struggling with something related to me ocd, and I would appreciate kind and supportive advice. If you can’t relate or don’t think anything you have to say would be helpful, I kindly ask pls refrain from commenting this is a really sensitive topic for me. Recently, I’ve noticed a pattern that feels something extremely new and distressing. The first time it happened I remember telling myself before self pleasuring that I am in control no matter what thought comes into my mind because I wanted to prove to myself that these thoughts are just from OCD and I know who I am and an intrusive that came out of no where, and i suddenly felt an intense fear that I was acting on it. In the moment I genuinely felt like I did. And afterword, I panicked and started questioning myself. This SAME FEELING has happened three times in a row each time, the intrusive thought was unwanted and random, and completely against my morals most recently it involved pocd and it feels even worse because it generally felt like I acted on it the thought in the moment while I was self pleasuring the panic doesn’t hit until afterwards when I stop :/ I start thinking that maybe I generally made a mistake and I’m now just realizing that it’s wrong because it generally feels like that :( but when I actually think about it again goes against my morals and values doesn’t make sense it feels incredibly real, and I can’t seem to shake this feeling off that I may have acted on it I’m terrified because I never wanted these thoughts in the first place. And I definitely didn’t choose them. If I had known, I would’ve had these intrusive thoughts I wouldn’t have self pleasured in the first place but it’s extremely hard to convince myself that this may be OCD because I feel like I have no other reason to believe that I didn’t act on it :/
I’ve been feeling the urge to avoid intimacy or purposefully engage (for reassurance that I won’t give into a compulsion) because of intrusive thoughts and fear that I’ll “check/test” my reactions. My OCD is making me so scared that I’ll purposefully think of a child and try to see if I like it. It’s so complicated but I guess I’m mentally checking if I would mentally check during intimacy. I’ve even envisioned myself checking and it’s making me so nauseous. I know it’s a compulsion like any other but the sound of “touching yourself to the thought of a child” sounds atrocious and vile. I’m terrified I’ll automatically start checking next time I am being intimate. I truly feel so worried. If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d appreciate hearing your experience. Or if anyone has any advice?
Trying not to seek reassurance, but rather connect the dots on my OCD and possible reasons as to why I am the way I am. I have severe OCD (or at least I hope I do) mainly surrounding POCD. I've had symptoms of OCD the majority of my life but this theme has come up more recently. When I was a kid, and i'm talking 6-7, I was first exposed to some really gross adult content online. It was introduced to me by a friend of mine around the same age of me. I saw some really disgusting things that a 6-7 year old should definitely not see. This was not a one time occurrence, as I had been exposed to taboo topics online years to come after that, such as the same friend introducing me to Omegle... And i'm sure you can imagine how that went, theres a lot of genuinely disgusting human beings on there. Coming back to the reason for making this post; is it possible to early exposure to this content could be one of the reasons I struggle with POCD? It genuinely scares me to death because you hear that real p*dos dealt with simular situations when they were kids, so thats kind of making me feel that this could be more than OCD, and I could be a genuinely bad person. My POCD feels so real, that at times i'm fully convinced its not OCD. Sometimes I can't even distinguish the feelings of attraction between a younger person and an older person, except for the feeling of anxiety and fear. Its really hard to explain without going into detail, but it just feels so real. Some feedback on this would be great, thank you all.
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