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Ic never hurt anyone ever. I can’t even fight lol. I love animals I’m a kind person. Yet I think about harming people. If I think about all that. Then I’ll think but anything could happen. N it would keep going from there. Then I’ll b freaking out. Your better off to trying your best to have the thoughts and try not to react. Don’t do compulsions. And face your fear. Like I had fear of knifes. I pick them up now. I leave them on the counter. Eventually I forget it’s there. And I’m scared around my kids. I do more things with them. That it’s how your going to get better. Thinking isn’t going to help you.
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- 5y ago
My therapist told me to do this, too. I told her I didn’t think that would be a good idea for me because reassurance is one of my main compulsions. She talked to the OCD Center in Dallas (I think) about it and they said that people with OCD shouldn’t do fact checks or reality checks and should instead learn to live with the uncertainty.
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Lots of therapists who don’t specialize in OCD suggest this because it works for people with anxiety who don’t have OCD. If the reality check involves an actual, objective fact (like that you’re way less likely to die in a plane crash than a car crash), I think it can be okay to bring that in. You still may or may not die in a plane crash, so you’re still treating the OCD with uncertainty, you’re just being realistic about the odds. But if you’re looking to your sensations/urges or looking into your past or anything else that can be subjective or skewed by OCD, it’s not useful. You can find/not find all kinds of evidence in sensations and memories.
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@lisa I didn't really understand him I think it was like I don't have that track record of hurting people so there's that.. but it's def flirting with reassurance. He's trying to make me realize how irrational the thoughts are. I think that's only good in small doses because part of me already knows that. Although I guess him reminding me I'm "good" in the moment is a good exposure for me.
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Yea. You have to try your best to focus on the moment. Keep busy and b focused. Like listen to the sounds around you. Or whatever your doing. Like the shower I found That was wen my brain would spin. So now I just try to focus on the water and whatever. And it actually works
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Yeah I was thinking that too. I'm thinking in small amounts it might ok, coupled with "idk", like, "probably this based on the facts but idk". Then move on.
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Ok I think I get it, thanks. The plane one is actually what my therapist and I talked about for a second. I understood it then but not in other scenarios after. Like the thought i'm not going to hurt anyone because I haven't hurt people in the past, doesn't seem healthy.
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So your therapist wants you to think about why wouldn’t hurt anyone. Is that what there saying. That sounds like reassurance to me. You should give you thoughts any attention at all. Just a. Ok whatever n move on.
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Yea. But you thinking about that your good. Like saying I’m fine I’m a good person I wouldn’t do that is a compulsion. My dr told me the other day to stop wasting my time of these thoughts cause that all I’m doing. I should just carry on with my normal things as best I can. Let the thoughts come and go. Don’t add anything to them and they will pass. Honestly. The best for me was pushing myself to do my everyday things. Just acting like the thoughts were normal . Fake it till you make it.
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Yeah im going to clarify what he meant by that next time I see him. And possibly make adjustments in conversation. But, yeah I see what you're saying for sure and agree.
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Its bitter sweet when he says this moment right now is good, it's when you go in the past or the future you become anxious.
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The past and the future is ruminating. And that is the worst. Wen I stoped doing that I felt so much better. Like wen you start just cut it right off.
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I get that with showers too. Thanks for the advice.
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Showers and cooking dinner. Is wen my brain starts.
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Yeah, when im by myself doing repetitive things.
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my therapist suggested that some of my less bad rocd intrusive thoughts are actually mine, and not intrusive. She ended up taking it back when she saw the alarm on my face and saw how panicked I got. I feel really freaking anxious. We were only talking about it because I mentioned a lot of doubt surrounding those less bad ones, but it only filled me with more doubt. I don’t want those thoughts to be mine. I really don’t. I feel scared and so discouraged after this session. I feel scared about the worst thoughts, what if those aren’t intrusive. I feel so much doubt.
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