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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Guilt
Does anyone have experience with cheating but from the standpoint of the cheater? How do you deal with guilt?
Does anyone have experience with cheating but from the standpoint of the cheater? How do you deal with guilt?
As someone who has been cheated on, I hope you hear me when I say you're worth forgiving yourself and it is the only way to move on! We all make mistakes in this life, how we learn and grow and do better from them is what shows our character even more I think!
ive cheated and its all been forgiven even though we aren't together anymore. i sometimes feel guilt because its against my values but the main way i understand it is how much i was hurting and hated myself when i did it... i wouldn't have done it if i was healthy at the time. its more a reminder now to be kind to myself and take care of my mental health. guilt is useless unless it's functional and causes you to reflect and change :)
I have cheated at a very bad part of my life, and the guilt never goes away. Every time I look at my wife I feel it
@casperjeremy I hope you learn to forgive yourself also, if you’re with your wife it sounds like either she doesn’t know or she has forgiven you and you can find peace in either of those.
@Ocdgirlie03 She knows and she has forgiven but never forgotten
Would you remember cheating drunk? If you remember so many details..
I got really drunk the other night and cheated. I’ve been needing to get out of this relationship because I haven’t felt respected. That does not mean my actions were okay. I just don’t know how to live with myself. I’ll need to break up with him. The person I cheated with was holding me and making me feel loved and I realized that what I need. My boyfriend and I need to find healthy love. Where we both feel valued and respected. I hope the guilt goes away but most importantly I hope the pain i caused will heal. This is a nightmare. And the internet just says I’m a horrible person and all I’ve wanted in life is to been a good person. I don’t know what to do. I talked to the crisis hotline last night and that helped a bit. I’m trying not to be selfish with this situation.
I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
I was doing fine today until I asked ChatGPT if i cheated and they said it could count as emotional cheating if you are engaging in intense daydreams and looking someone up on social media to feed a fantasy about them. My partner and I already spoke about me fantasizing about this person and he said it was totally fine since it happened in my head and he has had crushes and fantasies on coworkers too. However I feel absolutely devastated and wrecked with guilt and anxiety and panic right now. I genuinely feel like a horrible horrible horrible cheater. I don’t know what to do. I have therapy scheduled for later this week but I really really need some advice right now!!! I feel like it could count as cheating since it did happen during a few weeks where i felt a bit distant from my partner and I feel like the daydreaming was excessive. I am so so scared. Do I confess? Do I tell him I cheated? He already told me once that cheating is a physical interaction (and I literally have not interacted with this person outside of surface level responses in a group server that my partner is also a part of). Do I have a moral obligation to tell him I cheated? I need to know.
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