- Username
- Ocdgirlie03
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Guilt
Does anyone have experience with cheating but from the standpoint of the cheater? How do you deal with guilt?
Does anyone have experience with cheating but from the standpoint of the cheater? How do you deal with guilt?
As someone who has been cheated on, I hope you hear me when I say you're worth forgiving yourself and it is the only way to move on! We all make mistakes in this life, how we learn and grow and do better from them is what shows our character even more I think!
ive cheated and its all been forgiven even though we aren't together anymore. i sometimes feel guilt because its against my values but the main way i understand it is how much i was hurting and hated myself when i did it... i wouldn't have done it if i was healthy at the time. its more a reminder now to be kind to myself and take care of my mental health. guilt is useless unless it's functional and causes you to reflect and change :)
I have cheated at a very bad part of my life, and the guilt never goes away. Every time I look at my wife I feel it
@casperjeremy I hope you learn to forgive yourself also, if you’re with your wife it sounds like either she doesn’t know or she has forgiven you and you can find peace in either of those.
@Ocdgirlie03 She knows and she has forgiven but never forgotten
Would you remember cheating drunk? If you remember so many details..
I got really drunk the other night and cheated. I’ve been needing to get out of this relationship because I haven’t felt respected. That does not mean my actions were okay. I just don’t know how to live with myself. I’ll need to break up with him. The person I cheated with was holding me and making me feel loved and I realized that what I need. My boyfriend and I need to find healthy love. Where we both feel valued and respected. I hope the guilt goes away but most importantly I hope the pain i caused will heal. This is a nightmare. And the internet just says I’m a horrible person and all I’ve wanted in life is to been a good person. I don’t know what to do. I talked to the crisis hotline last night and that helped a bit. I’m trying not to be selfish with this situation.
I tell people my situation, they say it's nothing big or it's fine, I was a teenager. I still feel awful, magically thinking that the persons going to change their mind and expose me to the world that I'm an awful person even though they said I had no affect on them whatsoever. I feel guilty to admit I've shared it with numerous people, whether a little older or the same age, never younger because I feel uncomfortable talking to younger people. Still, everyone says I did nothing wrong and there's nothing to worry about, but I'm more concerned about the fact I feel like I truly did something horrible, I feel like what if someone's enabling my actions, even though they say they're being honest. I feel awful, and I know I have to sit with discomfort and all that bad stuff, but truly I feel disgusting. I've isolated myself for weeks, and I just don't want to hurt the other person, it's made me question my own intentions too. Does anyone else feel this way? I just feel like my mistakes are worse than anyone else on this app or in the world.
Does anyone have any coping mechanisms for helping to relieve guilt from things I have done in my past that I don’t like that I did?
Does anyone know how to deal with guilt for something you did as a kid that you feel is disgusting and worry that it could have hurt someone you loved.
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