Ocdgirlie03
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Guilt
Does anyone have experience with cheating but from the standpoint of the cheater? How do you deal with guilt?
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y
As someone who has been cheated on, I hope you hear me when I say you're worth forgiving yourself and it is the only way to move on! We all make mistakes in this life, how we learn and grow and do better from them is what shows our character even more I think!
scarecrowman571scarecrowman571
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
ive cheated and its all been forgiven even though we aren't together anymore. i sometimes feel guilt because its against my values but the main way i understand it is how much i was hurting and hated myself when i did it... i wouldn't have done it if i was healthy at the time. its more a reminder now to be kind to myself and take care of my mental health. guilt is useless unless it's functional and causes you to reflect and change :)
casperjeremycasperjeremy
- Date posted
- 1y
I have cheated at a very bad part of my life, and the guilt never goes away. Every time I look at my wife I feel it
Ocdgirlie03Ocdgirlie03
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- Date posted
- 1y
@casperjeremy I hope you learn to forgive yourself also, if you’re with your wife it sounds like either she doesn’t know or she has forgiven you and you can find peace in either of those.
casperjeremycasperjeremy
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- 1y
@Ocdgirlie03 She knows and she has forgiven but never forgotten
Mayla123Mayla123
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- 1y
Would you remember cheating drunk? If you remember so many details..
happybirthddaygrimacehappybirthdd...
- Date posted
- 1y
I got really drunk the other night and cheated. I’ve been needing to get out of this relationship because I haven’t felt respected. That does not mean my actions were okay. I just don’t know how to live with myself. I’ll need to break up with him. The person I cheated with was holding me and making me feel loved and I realized that what I need. My boyfriend and I need to find healthy love. Where we both feel valued and respected. I hope the guilt goes away but most importantly I hope the pain i caused will heal. This is a nightmare. And the internet just says I’m a horrible person and all I’ve wanted in life is to been a good person. I don’t know what to do. I talked to the crisis hotline last night and that helped a bit. I’m trying not to be selfish with this situation.
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