Question for fellow Christian’s.

Any Christians can you please reply. Me and my partner have recently discovered a like for Role playing, we have always dirty talked etc, but have been finding an interest in doing something new (role play) as much as I enjoy doing this with my partner, and he does too, I’m worried what if God resents me for these acts? Surely just because you’re religious, doesn’t mean you can’t have kinks right? I believe god may think that sex is a private matter between the couple & as long as this act is shared with my person I will spend the rest of my life with, I don’t think it is bad necessarily? I know god may not think everything said or done in intimate times is “holy” or something, but I don’t want to stop doing things I love with my partner, and neither does he, but we are both religious. Just wondering if there’s any Christian’s who may give me a bit of perspective. (When me and my partner are “role playing” we are not pretending we are other people, we are still ourself, not pretending to “be someone else” just acting out different scenarios) some insight would be good, from someone who is religious themself?

FearAndLoathing

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

I think you should ask if it’s God or OCD telling you that you need to be worried about this. Personally, I would not worry about it, but can see why OCD might make you concerned. Martin Luther’s “sin boldly but believe bolder still” and Ecclesiastes 7:16–17 both come to mind.

Danny1

Date posted: 1y ago

Take this with a grain of salt, but every Christian has a different view for sexual activity with their partners - especially if one is diagnosed with OCD. I've been single for 10 years, but I just started rekindling my relationship with Christ to have SOME information about these things. In Christianity, different denominations and individuals may have varying beliefs about the appropriateness of certain sexual activities. Many Christian teachings emphasize the importance of love, mutual respect, and faithfulness within the context of marriage. As long as your activities promote a healthy, consensual, and loving relationship with your partner, many Christians would argue that such intimate moments can be seen as an expression of the deep connection between spouses. I'm not so sure if role playing goes against Christian values, but I say pray about it, ask pastors for advice, and talk to other Christian couples for their input. You'd be surprised that there's more people asking the same questions.

Danny1

Date posted: 1y ago

Hopefully this doesn't discourage you from being a Christian! I know these topics scare people away because they don't get the answer they want, or that they feel too overwhelmed by someone else's experience.

Anonymous help

Date posted: 1y ago

Im not gonna lie, this is why im not apart of that religion anymore. Dirty talking and doing scenarios with your partner is natural, it’s built within us. Don’t worry about it. My friend who is Christian says if its not harming someone else go for it

SadUnicorn3 🦄

Date posted: 1y ago

I will never not believe in jesus and follow him, so it doesn’t discourage me. When i spoke to my mum she said there’s nothing wrong with having kinks and stuff, as long as you’re doing it with the person you love and will be with them forever, then I don’t really think it’s an issue as sex is a personal thing and different for everyone, some things you would do with your partner in the bedroom stay in the bedroom and you wouldn’t say those things out loud or give anyone insight into your personal choices with your partner, if that makes sense… as much as my heart is with jesus, I believe he shouldn’t hold it against me, my partner or anyone what they do with their sex life unless it’s actually harming someone , then why is it a problem?

Danny1

Date posted: 1y ago

Exactly! If it's kept within you two, then I say it's not a problem. Just as long as you have your heart focused on Christ, then I say you're fine. Cheers!

SadUnicorn3 🦄

Date posted: 1y ago

@Danny1 My heart is with Christ. Same with my partner. Just because we have certain things we enjoy doing together , it doesn’t draw us away from Jesus as in we still follow him, sex life has nothing to do with Jesus I don’t think

Danny1

Date posted: 1y ago

@SadUnicorn3 - Then you're on the right path of life!

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Date posted: 25w ago

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Date posted: 14w ago

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andrea_sam730

Date posted: 9w ago

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I’m really struggling with something related to me ocd, and I would appreciate kind and supportive advice. If you can’t relate or don’t think anything you have to say would be helpful, I kindly ask pls refrain from commenting this is a really sensitive topic for me. Recently, I’ve noticed a pattern that feels something extremely new and distressing. The first time it happened I remember telling myself before self pleasuring that I am in control no matter what thought comes into my mind because I wanted to prove to myself that these thoughts are just from OCD and I know who I am and an intrusive that came out of no where, and i suddenly felt an intense fear that I was acting on it. In the moment I genuinely felt like I did. And afterword, I panicked and started questioning myself. This SAME FEELING has happened three times in a row each time, the intrusive thought was unwanted and random, and completely against my morals most recently it involved pocd and it feels even worse because it generally felt like I acted on it the thought in the moment while I was self pleasuring the panic doesn’t hit until afterwards when I stop :/ I start thinking that maybe I generally made a mistake and I’m now just realizing that it’s wrong because it generally feels like that :( but when I actually think about it again goes against my morals and values doesn’t make sense it feels incredibly real, and I can’t seem to shake this feeling off that I may have acted on it I’m terrified because I never wanted these thoughts in the first place. And I definitely didn’t choose them. If I had known, I would’ve had these intrusive thoughts I wouldn’t have self pleasured in the first place but it’s extremely hard to convince myself that this may be OCD because I feel like I have no other reason to believe that I didn’t act on it :/

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