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Hey dear, you are not alone and you don’t have to go alone trough this okey? We are all here to support each other! Don‘t feel bad about feeling like that, because you are HUMAN and that’s absolutely NORMAL! ✨ Hocd is pure hell, I think we all can agree with that. And do you know what? HOCD is an illness. An mental illness. And illnesses have symptoms and signs. And such thoughts are symptoms. What helps me is reminding myself: „these thoughts are okey, because they are part of my mental illness called OCD.“ Don‘t be hard with yourself. I know it’s not easy. But you DON‘T have to leave your boyfriend just because of some dumb HOCD thoughts. The way you write about him show pretty much how much you love him. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, remember that. I know you are a strong person, but feeling sometimes weak and bad is okey. You got this girl! ✋?❤️✨
Hello ❤️ please understand that you aren’t alone in this and you never will be. I wish I could take your pain away and help you feel less lost , but sadly it’s a very complicated thing. OCD makes us believe things specifically because they don’t reflect our true selves- we feel afraid and repulsed by these thoughts and even more afraid that we like them. It wouldn’t be OCD if it didn’t feel real , and if we couldn’t look back and point to things that we take as signs confirming our fears , then it wouldn’t be OCD either. You mean a lot to the people here and myself , I wanna do everything I can to help you out !!! Try telling yourself that you’ll never have the answers to these questions , but live your life regardless of the fears. Think of them as bad , mean hearted people who want nothing more then to see you change your life around and stress because of them. Don’t let them have control over you , you may not believe it but you’re stronger than you think ❤️
Honestly reading this made me very sad life fr it’s so bad for someone in a relationship to have rocd or hocd
This is everything I’m going through except mine is tell me I’m a guy
Thank you ! I really appreciate your comment!!! Makes me feel so much better knowing we aren’t alone
I had almost all this thoughts during my relationship with my ex boyfriend but I didn't know it's ocd I just thought I'm a dumbass and I don't know what I want. But I got rid of these thoughts by thinking that I'm super lucky that I got someone who loves me and I talked about these thoughts with my mom and she told me that sometimes people have thoughts like that from stress and actually if you think about something it doesn't mean it's true. For example your friend can think she's fat but she's not .
@advice ^^
Or TOCD
TW: EXPLICIT CONTENT TOWARDS END I can’t stop crying because it feels like I’m truly a lesbian. I read the stupid comp het doc which was obviously something I shouldn’t have done but I gave in. Relationships when I was younger were never a big thing for me because well I was still too young. So when I had crushes it was always more about the fuzzy feeling and just wanting to be close to my guy crushes or thinking about their touch. When I had my first silly 8th grade boyfriend I remember always being scared to hold his hand and kiss him and hug him because I felt self-conscious of myself and everyone watching but I still did enjoy it. Looking back I feel like I might’ve just liked my him because he liked me but I thought that was normal for middle school things, except the first thing happened my freshman year of high school as well with my toxic ex. It wasn’t love and I hate remembering about him because it really was just something dumb and obsessive but when I did like him I did enjoy being held but now I wonder if it was just the attention I liked. I’m now in a relationship with my boyfriend of over a year and I’m terrified that I’m not actually in love with him and only his attention but that just doesn’t feel right because we have such a strong bond. He was a natural flirt so that definitely caught my attention but it was more than that, he just seemed like such an amazing person to me and that has not changed since we started dating. I used to have major rocd over whether or not I actually loved him but I got past that theme but now it might be back. I love him so much, he’s been there through everything and I know I could be happy without him so it’s not like I’m dependent on him, but I choose to be happy with him because he brings me that warm feeling inside my heart. When I’m with him I feel safe and I want to have a genuine future with him. It also doesn’t help that my family is homophobic, my grandma condemns it and I tried explaining to her but she just told me that even if I was I didn’t have to “act on it” which made me break into tears. Not because I am lesbian, but because it would hurt so much to know she wouldn’t support me if I was. Another thing that worries me is that maybe I don’t like intimacy enough with him, but the truth is he’s the first person I’ve been so intimate with and well we’re both still virgins so we haven’t been able to fully explore. Truth be told I didn’t always like giving oral but I thought it was because porn set me into that mind-frame that intimacy was all about the woman being used. The first time we did things was very exciting and fun for me!But I was also very nervous and scared and well my anxiety doesn’t help but there have been times where I do enjoy giving oral, what I don’t like is when it’s all we can do and I also have a terrible habit of comparing myself to other girls and wanting to be perfect at it. I never thought it meant I was a lesbian. I love my partner and I wouldn’t want to be with anyone else or be intimate with anyone else. I still don’t like the idea of being with a girl like that, I have never even fantasized about it before and well it just doesn’t feel like me but now my brain is telling me that it is me, that it’s always been me and all the things I used to perceive as normal actually mean I’m lesbian and I hate it. Someone please give me advice to fight this and how to recover from such a major compulsion , I haven’t ruminated like this in so so long and it feels like I failed myself or like I’m giving in to something I just don’t want.
I feel like my sexual orientation has changed, it truly feels like I’ll never be straight again and I’m heartbroken. I go out in public and I check if I’m attracted to the pretty girls, I start to make new female friends and I worry I like them, I look at them in ways I never did before just to “make sure”. I worry that I’ll enjoy sex and feelings with girls more and that it’ll be greater than what I have with my partner. I worry that my struggle with intimacy with my boyfriend is because I don’t like men as opposed to my insecurities and inexperience and shyness. It feels like I can’t find appeal in men anymore and even though I find no appeal in women either, my mind tells me my lack of attraction means I Need to be attracted to women. I don’t want to. I’ve had two lesbian dreams this week and it felt like I wanted it. I try to imagine myself in same sex scenarios and I get confused , it feels like I want it when at the beginning of this it just didn’t click. It feels like all my close girl friends from my past are secret crushes. It feels like my attraction to men was never real. I’m so scared and so afraid and so lost, I feel like a prisoner. It feels like my sexuality has changed, I Must be attracted to women. Although I know I love my boyfriend deeply, I now worry a women will come and take his place. I hate this. It makes me feel like my bond with my boyfriend isn’t as special , when my bond with him is what I treasure most. Almost All the best days of my life were with him and now I feel like I’ll have to give it up to be with a woman. I feel like I’m living a lie, I feel like I’m going to have to come out and be with women, my grandma will treat me differently. It feels too real, way way too real.
I am a woman in a long term relationship of over 5 years with a man who I genuinely love. I have identified as bisexual my whole adult life but I have only ever dated men (just by chance). For months I've been having obsessive thoughts about whether I am actually a lesbian and have been lying to myself- I keep going through temporary periods where I make peace with the worries but it always seems to come back with a vengance. This week the thoughts have been so constant that any quiet moment my brain immediately starts stressing over the possibility. My partner is aware of the thoughts (has has dealt with OCD as well and understands) but I still feel SO guilty because I am happy in my relationship and I don't know why I can't move past the thoughts. I logically know that I am attracted to men and that I find my partner attractive. But I get worried that maybe down the line that will change and things will only get more painful if we needed to separate. I feel like I'm so obsessed with ways things could end that I'm missing all the good that's actually in front of me and it feels so sad and isolating 💔
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