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I’m talking to this girl and I really like her but my ocd is telling me she is lying about her age (18)
I’m talking to this girl and I really like her but my ocd is telling me she is lying about her age (18)
That sucks😭 im assuming you’ve asked her yourself? How did you met? are you going to college? (You don’t have to answer this im asking because if you’re both going to college then you both should be around college age and nothing to worry about)
@ughhhh Nah we both are taking gap years. We met over the phone. and I did ask myself she said she graduated high school and said she is 18
@notrich I see, im assuming your around the same age and this is like a long distance thing. I say trust her but also be cautious like any internet interaction should be. If you’ve known each other for awhile maybe send selfies! Exchange social media if you trust each other enough to maybe calm yourself. Ik ocd goes after things/ppl we care about so i think this might be one of those situations.
If someone seems borderline legal age I feel it is good to go a extra step or two to make sure they are legal age to avoid any possible misunderstandings.
Do you know any of her friends? I met my partner on Discord (can you believe it!) and my OCD went full HAYWIRE. OCD had me convinced he was a killer, a kidnapper, a serial cheater, a catfish, you name it! What did help me fight these fears, however, was knowing his friends who could verify for his identity. Turns out he was just as lovely and amazing as the man I met online! ☺️
when I was 15 soon to turn 16, I met this girl in a IG group chat made by our mutual friends. We started talking and eventually we started flirting and talking sexual towards each other, though eventually we stopped talking because she was being really weird. A couple months later In July of 2024 my friend found out that she was actually 13 and that she lied to me about her age. It's been 10 months since l've found out and I still feel so disgusted in myself. I had my suspicions at the time but I let them go since she said she was 16 turning 17. I was completely oblivious trusting someone I only knew online especially since i've never seen their face either. i'm struggling on what to do since i've been suffering with POCD since I was 15. Till this day I still feel weird and disgusted in myself because of that. But it feels ironic since i'm sexualizing someone that's 2 years younger than me and I waited to confirm she was around my age range to sexualize her. I feel so weird and guilty about it idk what to do
I have no idea anymore. I guess this all started with me worrying about whether I was gay, then whether I was a P, then worried about being just attracted to teenagers. After that I started freaking out about not feeling “grown up” enough. Like “I’m an adult wtf is wrong with me for seeing someone who is probably younger and thinking they’re physically attractive. Then I started overthinking not finding older adults (like 30 or 40) very attractive. Like ofc I’m probably not gonna find them attractive, they’re not anywhere close my age. Maybe the desires are half real. Maybe as a 21 yr old young adult I do find older teenagers (16+) somewhat physically attractive. I still think it’d be weird to date one. Maybe that’s the normal reaction I’m supposed to have. If not, please let me know. I just don’t wanna do anything illegal one day and I’m super scared I will. I can’t tell if the fear is my just being afraid of the law though, in which case I might actually just be a bad person. I hate that my brain is just rationalizing thoughts now. I feel like I can’t do the ERP thing of “just accept that the thoughts are there but don’t engage.” Like what? How can I just think a thought that might be so integral to my identity and just ignore it? If it’s all true and I don’t like people my age anymore then I have to know and plan around that, that could change my entire life. I’m rambling, my b.
So I recently met this girl and honestly she is amazing. She’s beautiful and her personality is perfect. She lives only 15 min away from me and I feel blessed to have a chance to get to know her, we both feel the same. But here comes OCD to ruin it. My OCD has latched onto a friend of mine. He’s a pretty close friend and we talk often. He’s never really one to let out a laugh so I always like to hear him laugh and just be able to have a good time. Partially it’s because I just don’t want to think I’m annoying and unfunny, I’m pretty self concious about myself. OCD is turning this into some sort of scary what if I like him question. I don’t have romantic feelings for my friend and I don’t actually want to be with a man. I am a straight male and getting to know this girl has been a blessing. OCD makes me feel in denial and as if I’m lying to myself. I hate this. It feels awful, when I haven’t felt this way about a girl in a long time
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