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S*x and rocd
My partner and I have not been having much s*x lately, and when it seems like something is about to happen I start to feel uncomfortable and nervous instead of excited. Is this normal?
My partner and I have not been having much s*x lately, and when it seems like something is about to happen I start to feel uncomfortable and nervous instead of excited. Is this normal?
When your mind is constantly ruminating it’s very hard to get in touch to intimacy feelings, I’ve been through this and it does get better ! Try to force yourself to feel in the moment even just for a few seconds, it’ll make you feel better in the end
@ocdsufferer101 Thank you for the advice ❤️❤️ I’ll try this next time
I tend to get intrusive thoughts during intimacy I just let them pass even though I do feel bad but I know deep down inside they mean nothing and not true.
@Rissa94 Thank you for the advice. I’m sorry to hear you deal with this too ❤️
this has been happening to me too. i’m scared to do anything because what if i have an intrusive thought when it happens? and i also deal with confession ocd so then i will have to tell him and then it would just ruin the whole moment. i don’t want to damage our relationship by always avoiding it but it’s also a terrible feeling to feel nervous now with someone i’ve been with for so so long just because of my OCD thoughts.
@Anonymous I feel the same exact way! It feels like rocd is completely ruining my relationship. You arent alone. I hope things get better ❤️
I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
Good morning. Anyone struggle with ROCD? When I think about what I have done in the past, I feel immense guilty (I feel the tightness in my chest) and have the urge to tell my partner about it, even if my partner says she doesn’t need to know if it is going to hurt her and that I need to talk to my therapist about it first. Any suggestions on how to manage the urge/urgency? Thanks!
I know that anxiety and OCD can affect you in a lot of ways and I know it can affect your sex life. I was having sex with this chick about 4 days ago and everything about was amazing. it was a random hookup. But I got tired quick and got so worried about meeting certain expectations during intercourse I lost my erection part way through and couldn't match her pace and that felt honestly embarrassing and debilitating. Like there is no way I should be not keep it up with this chick. But I am aware anxiety can destroy performance in intercourse and I look at porn and notice other guys maintain erections forever without constant stimulation. A few seconds with stimulation and I lose mine. But I am been like that pretty much forever. Do I have misconception about how that works or is something wrong with me cause the doubt sucks. The girl even said that it was weird how I got soft after not that long. But she tried to be supportive for the most part but it felt terrible. If i am not flexing by pelvic muscles it feels like I can't maintain it.
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