Im really anxious , i feel like i have an attraction towards a cousin relative of mine , an i know ill never act on it but im freaking out . I try to jus forget it but whenever it pops up i feel disgusting like im so anxious , to make matters worse i have a partner and its giving me urges to tell my partner , an im freaking out. I dont like this , is there anything i can do to fix this or sooth my nerves
Remind yourself that intrusive thoughts are the exact opposite of your beliefs, and ocd attacks your fears and morals. You know you have no intention of acting on the thought, you know it gives you anxiety and disgust, which means it does not identify with you. It’s not you, it’s your brain, intrusive thoughts are completely out of your hands. Give yourself grace and understanding, this disorder is a real struggle.
@KaeC Hi! I was looking up posts in this category because I’m currently struggling with something very similar. It came out of nowhere, and I have a fiancé. This thought is bringing me extreme distress because I feel like I betrayed my fiancé with possibly having a crush on my cousin even though we like never speak and I don’t really care about them at all? I had a crush on them sort of as a kid and we spoke very recently and I had the thought and don’t know if it’s real. What’s stressing me out is I don’t know if I would be disgusted if I didn’t have a fiancé. My primary distress is feeling like I’m betraying her. If I were single I would probably think this thought was funny and a little weird
I also get uncomfortable sexual/relationship related intrusive thoughts and honestly the best thing for me to combat them is to label them. it sounds silly but when ever the thought pops up i just remind myself “this is an intrusive thought, I am happy, secure and this is an uncontrollable intrusive thought” I repeat this anytime i have ANY intrusive thoughts and while it doesn’t make them go away it makes me feel less anxious bc i am understanding it.
hey, i'm really sorry you're feeling this way. it sounds incredibly tough to deal with those thoughts, especially when they're causing you so much anxiety and distress. remember, having intrusive thoughts doesn't define you or your values. 💔 by the way, have you heard about this new AI-powered OCD therapy tool called "unstuck?" when i was in a similar spot, feeling overwhelmed by intrusive thoughts, this free AI OCD therapy tool (unstuckmyocd.com/try) that my NOCD therapist recommended really made a difference for me. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it's designed to provide personalized, step-by-step support when OCD thoughts get too loud, kind of like having an OCD therapist in your pocket. it might help you navigate these feelings without acting on the compulsion to confess or getting stuck in a cycle of anxiety. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! <3
I really hate when the sexual thoughts is about family members (mom,sister) I feel disgusted of my self and scared I mean what if someone know what is inside my mind or what if I said it out loud,my family loves me and here I am with these thoughts I would do anything to get rid of them, even sometimes i feel there is someone else in my head, the most fu*ked up part is when I get arousal by these thoughts Any one relate to this so i can know that I’m not crazy..
How do I stop the thoughts of false attraction towards a family member like my dad it won’t stop and I feel like such a bad and manipulative person
I KNOW I AM NOT ATTRACTED. I just met that person in the middle of my So - ocd flare up and it has messed me up badly, they caught my attention because they were VERY weird and acted weirdly too. I was talking to them and out of nowhere a thought popped: "What if you just met your soulmate?" that immediately made me feel sick and disgusted, because I didn't even want to be friends with them. It's been so hard since that happened and bow everything triggers an intrusive thought about that person, I genuinely don't want to do anything to that person, not even approach them ever again. I must say this has happened with more people, not just with this specific person, but I can assure this one has been the one that has affected me the most. I need help, what do I do? I feel so bad and disgusted, I love my boyfriend with my whole heart and I feel like I'm betraying him. I feel very, very guilty.
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