My trans intrusive obsession has gotten to the point where I look at other people and go “they’re trans.” without reason. Like I’ll be looking at a man for example and be like “he secretly wants to be a woman” and then I’ll push the thought out of my brain and my brain just goes “oh do you already have a gaydar??” HELP

Thanks! I really hate these thoughts and feelings and I hope they go away. I hope everyone on this app will get through this

I totally understand you. I’m pretty sure this is OCD and I hope it is. Whenever I try to calm myself down and reassure myself, my brain goes “oh you’re lying to yourself” and “you’re having fake compulsions just because you’re in denial” and it feels so real, like I’m actually thinking this and it’s not ocd or anything. I really want a therapist but no idea how to explain this to my parents. I hope this goes away! Good luck to you, both of us can get through this

Im this way with my hocd. I look at someone and be like theyre gay or bi and I look bi. How does one look bi lol? Ocd is stupid sometimes and a lot of our assumptions our based off stereotypes.

i hate trans ocd , i feel 'dysphoric' i genuinely imagine myself male and i want it to stop - either im trans and im done with these thoughts or im cis and im done with them.

im pretty sure my tocd comes from ocd mixed with insecurity , before i was a normal tomboy- girl and one day i just got hit with this bs

Same, i was a big tomboy and then this bitch hit me like a train, which makes me really anxious because being a tomboy is considered one of the signs of being trans. I’ve always wondered what it’d be like to be a dude and that’s one of the main things that messes with me because this ocd is trying to prove its true

Yeah same, and I would kinda jokingly say that I was a boy, and now it’s all piling up on me as “proof” that I’m trans

id rather be trans and for sure now that i am , not cis with ocd

I remember having these thoughts as a kid, thinking I was maybe born hermaphrodite gave me horrible anxiety. Then, somehow, I came to the conclusion that, I really just thought the opposite sex was amazing, and it didnt have anything to do with sexuality. I still have HOCD though, to some extent. I imagine it would be different if it hit me now, all this was before identity and gender became so pevasive and important. But anyway, maybe it’s worth thinking about whether it has to do with fear of sexuality or just a question of identity. Hope it helps, sorry if I triggered anyone.

Thanks! I’m still trying to figure myself out and I’m pretty sure it’s ocd.

If you want to figure out if you have OCD, then perhaps consider if you’ve had similar symptoms that you’re experiencing now, to other things in life. Or just similar kinds of anxiety, not necessarily accompanied by compulsions. When I first experienced HOCD I had no idea it was linked to me trying to get things ”just right”.

same!!!

Glad I’m not the only one

id also always pick male characters in games , imagine myself as a dude thats weeeeird

But being trans is no disease. There are no signs. There are a lot of girls that have a strong will, are feisty and believe in themselves with great confidence. Just because these are traditionally male traits it doesnt make you a man? Everyone imagines themselves as the opposite sex sometimes, and people have always done so in history. Shakespeare wrote a famous play about, Twelfth night.

I’m not trying yo reassure you, I’m trying to aid your way of looking at it.

you have a good point but if my brain wouldnt have ocd i would understand it. no matter how much facts or proof there is , we wont be satisfied. Hell, if there was a test thats 100% reliable and would tell you your true gender i would STILL doubt it.

I know. But sometimes trying to think your way through it rationally helps seeing things differently. I’m just infuriated that theres so much misinformation. I’m sure it doesnt help people with OCD.