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Compulsions
How can i reassure myself (comfort) if i am angry and upset about having compulsed when i am not supposed to either compulse or reassure myself?
How can i reassure myself (comfort) if i am angry and upset about having compulsed when i am not supposed to either compulse or reassure myself?
You kinda have just keep going and try again to not do the compulsions. It takes hard work to stop doing compulsions it will not happen over night. Let it go if you miss up and just try again. With ocd you can be hard on yourself and get mad if you are not make progress fast enough. But just keep trying and you will slowly improve. With ocd you want to fix things right now but sometimes things take time and patience and you have just wait and keep working on it.
I'm not a therapist, but I've questioned myself about this before as well. What made me feel more comforted was simply accepting the fact that I have compulsed. It was me realising that this is the reality and no amount of self-blame and insults will help. When i realised that it's okay to feel angry and upset about it, I felt better and more at peace. Another thing that comforted me (especially with the anxiety that came with performing conpulsions or having obsessions) was accepting uncertainty. Telling myself "maybe so, maybe not. It's okay to be uncertain" helped me :) We're in this together :D💞💞
@cherie/hachi Thank you
@jgumucio No problem! And remember, thoughts are not morals :) You aren't crazy either
@cherie/hachi Needed that; thanks.
I am not looking for reassurance; I am looking for legit answers.
My biggest is ruminating, i talk and talk and over share with myself and others Like what are some exposures?
I’ve had physical compulsions on and off throughout my life. And rumination while not physical comes right along with it. Recently my brain has latched on to reassurance seeking. And it makes work horrible. I constantly feel the need to seek reassurance or validation from my boss or my coworkers or friends. I feel constantly judged and hyper analyze everything someone says to me or every interaction I have. I go home after work and run over all the times I spoke to or interacted with someone that day and I’m critical of how I presented myself, how I was perceived, what I said or didn’t say. I then go back the next day not only wanting to seek reassurance but also thinking I need to over explain myself to prevent any kind of damaging misunderstanding or miscommunication that would make them think poorly of me. Is this a common thing? It’s been the worst thing to go through as of late, my checking and things has gone down but this mental stuff is a whole new beast. How do you guys handle this kind of thing at work or at school?
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