Beachgirl2024
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PreenaPreena
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Hi! I'm so sorry you're going through this- hocd is the worst. I find the only way is too accept uncertainty- you might be a lesbian, you may not be, both will be okay and you will figure that out when you're older- you do not need to now! I know that's super hard to hear- because OCD makes us believe being a lesbian is the worst thing in the world and also that we are one, but if you accept uncertainty it will go away. OCD looks for evidence, or 'signs' to convince we are gay even if we are not. Also looking up YouTube vidoes on this type of OCD really helped me. Feel free to message me about anything, I know you got this!
Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
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@Preena I know it’s just very hard because I don’t want to be!
PreenaPreena
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@Beachgirl2024 That's exactly why OCD is attacking it :( I'm so sorry you're going through this. I think accepting the uncertainty and being okay with being a lesbian is the way through here :)
Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
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@Preena Okay I will try that! Thank you so much :))
PreenaPreena
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@Beachgirl2024 No worries! Feel free to message me anytime ❤️
AnonymousAnonymous
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Hi! I’m a lesbian with ocd and I sometimes struggle with internalized homophobia. Whenever I feel upset about it I remember all the beautiful things about being a lesbian as well as that there are cons to every sexual orientation. A woman will love you in a way no man ever could and a man could never love you the way a woman could. You’re missing out on something whether you’re gay or straight. In my experience though, being a lesbian is great. Being in a same sex relationship means being with someone who understands struggles unique to being a woman and that makes the bond just so much closer. I said I was bisexual for a while just to get used to it and that would be ok too. If you’re worried about religion, God loves you know matter what. Highly recommend talking to a therapist that can help you learn to love who you are. It’s also ok not to know! My roomate doesn’t like labels and she just says I like who I like when I like it and I think that’s a great mindset.
star1232star1232
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Unfortunately me too
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Anonymous123
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I'm so convinced it's just denial
I feel sick to my stomach, a few days ago I knew I was straight and could picture my life with my bf again. The anxiety has really lessend and Im more depressed now. I'm 100% convinced I am lesbian even tho I have never had sexual attraction to women, found them pretty but never wanted to be with them. My mind is only picturing me being with women now and it feels like a pit in my stomach. I don't feel emotion now, I'm also on my period. I don't want to be lesbian. I want to be with my boyfriend and have the life I pictured with him. My memory is so dissorted right now. I don't think there's anything wrong with being lesbian, it's just not for me and now that makes me feel like I'm homophobic.
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Masc4lesb
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LESBIAN DEALING WITH SO OCD
I am a 18 year old masc lesbian with a loving girlfriend for 1 year, and I have been lesbian for almost my whole life and I have never been attracted to men in any way. flash to my past, My ex girlfriend who used to identify as a lesbian had cheated on me with a man. Recently I saw this tiktok of this masc lesbian turn straight and my friends and girlfriend made jokes I am going to turn straight for my male best friend. My male best friend came over and he’s a great guy but I do not want him in any way. when him and i were hanging out my mind threw in a thought it was “What if i like him”, i came back home and i had the worst panic attack and i felt so sick, i cried and i cried. ever since that day I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts, i don’t want a man in any way, and i feel comfortable as a lesbian but these thoughts won’t stop and they become worse when i see people say being lesbian is a phase or that i haven’t met the right guy or i’ll change in the future. i just want these thoughts to stop, i don’t want to stop being a lesbian ever, i love women so much and i just want all of this to be over with. i do not want a man in any way and im tired of my thoughts doubting myself and i hate the “what ifs”, I just want to be my old self, I want to be happy with my girlfriend.
Masc4lesb
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LESBIAN WITH SO-OCD
hi i’m a lesbian! and i have known im a lesbian for a really long time and i have a sweet girlfriend of 1 year. it all started when i saw this masc lesbian come out as straight, after that i had my guy friend over and he’s a sweet guy and he was flirting with me (he didn’t know i was gay) im not sure but i panicked and my brain froze and i was like “do i like him”, ever since my brain has been over worked 24/7 for 2 months now and it’s spiralling constantly. im trying to control it but all these thoughts are so disgusting and my brain tries to put him and i in scenarios that make me uncomfortable and i feel panic and i hate it. i have always been comfortable being a lesbian and i still am comfortable as a lesbian, but i dislike these thoughts i have about him and men and i want it to be over. i do not want to experiment with men even tho my brain is telling me i do, i find it disgusting and i dread it, i have a sweet girlfriend and i want to be with her forever, i do not imagine anything with any men and i hate these thoughts. im scared of becoming bisexual/straight one day and i hate hearing sexuality is fluid. its a whole mix of comphet and so-ocd
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