- Username
- shafo
- Date posted
- 12w ago
do you guys tell your partner you have ocd?
if so, at what point? and how much do you explain? are there sources you like to use that might explain to them what it actually is?
- Username
- Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 12w ago
I told my current partner, that I suffer from OCD and depression, before we got together. My long-term partner before him complained about not knowing, that I always suffer from OCD, even when there are no triggers around. So I wanted to be upfront this time. That being said, I told him about some themes, but not about the sexual ones. He knows, that children and animals trigger me, but not why. I have made some bad experiences regarding telling people, that I suffer from POCD, so I only talk about it with therapist specialized in OCD and other OCD sufferers.
- Username
- shafoshafo
- Date posted
- 12w ago
@Zoë_84 thats definitely a concern, im not sure i could explain POCD or ZOCD in a way that could make anyone without the disorder understand. my ex seemed to try understanding but this new relationship is so much healthier i dont want to mess things up.
- Username
- Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 12w ago
@shafo It's the same for me, I'm not sure, but a bit after I told my ex that I suffer from POCD our relationship started to slowly go down hill. He told me it has nothing to do with me suffering from POCD, but as he hadn't been honest about quite a few things, I never believed him. I know, that my current partner wants to know more, but I told him before we got together, that there are parts of my OCD, I'll not talk to him about. So I stand by it.
- Username
- AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 12w ago
I guess it depends on how serious the relationship is. If it's something you see long term is probably worth sharing a good bit. I wasn't diagnosed until 5 years into my marriage. Not knowing what the heck was going on for those years was SO hard on my marriage. Now things are well, but dang it was rough. My husband now knows so much, and is truly the reason I'm better in many ways.
- Username
- shafoshafo
- Date posted
- 12w ago
@Anonymous weve been dating for a month but i really do see us being long term. i just get worried theres no good time to tell them, or that telling them might seem like a bid for attention. like, i know they have depression and anxiety and stuff but its not like they go out of their way to confess their specific diagnoses, it feels unnatural but i suppose thats the overthinking haha
- Username
- Steven55!Steven55!
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 12w ago
Yes, once you feel you can trust this person and feel comfortable disclosing it, revealing your OCD can be helpful and cathartic. If you decide to do it, go on YouTube and check out the NOCD videos designed to explain to loved ones what you're going through. Share one with your partner and then explain your OCD journey. I know it was cathartic and a big relief to disclose it to my wife. Hope this helps.
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