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in my experiences, when i am very symptomatic my sex drive is almost gone. anytime i am getting symptom relief or meet a person that can distract me from obsessions my sex drive is normal to high. so yes over the years it comes back unless you have “flares”.
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Thank you. It helps to learn from other's experiences.
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It's crazy huh? I have learned that in HOCD the fear is not only becoming gay, but also loosing attraction to the sex you've always felt attracted to. So i think a good approach would be to treat it as any other fear of ocd: to accept that there's the chance you might not like them anymore, but still act like you would normally: keep meeting people, flirting or whatever it is that you enjoyed doing. Maybe your brain will learn that there's nothing to fear then. That's what I hope. I'll try harder. I have to stop avoiding girls.
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Can you tell me where did you learn HOCD is the fear of losing the sex you've always felt attracted to?
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It effects your sexual activity and makes it hard to have an orgasm also but it can still works like you can still have sex
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Hi Larry. What type of ocd do you have? HOCD?
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My aesthetic attraction to opposite sex has gone. That's why I still have HOCD.
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For how long have you had it? I've had it for 11 years. I regained my attraction quick although sex was a bit challenging, I was "too aware" and nervous. But since my relapse it's even worse. I have a girlfriend and she's paying the price too. It hurts so much...
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@TonyOCD 18 months since the loss of attraction, after the fear of becoming gay disappear
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No, sorry, sorry, I explained myself wrong. Everyone develops their specific fears even when they share a theme (HOCD, Harm OCD, etc.). In my experience, as soon as I experienced the fear of being gay, I "lost my attraction" to girls. But It's not only that, I also avoided contact with them, in fear that my thoughts would made me feel I'm not attracted to them anymore. And in that sense, the fear of becoming gay also has a fear of loosing your attractions to girls. At least for me, there's a fear that I'll never get to enjoy a normal sexual life and that maybe i won't love my girlfriend again. So i need to expose myself to those fears and try to continue my life.
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My ocd is bad when I got to check my pulse constantly for no reason, why I think it’s gonna change anything, gotta get it out of my head
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This is the one topic I don’t find much discussion about online, and I’m wondering how many of you have experienced this. Have any of you been prevented from engaging in intimate acts by your OCD? Has your OCD affected intimacy between you and your partner/s? I’m discovering that this is very much the case for me, and I know it’s probably the same for lots of folks out there!
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What irritates me the most is that during intimacy with my husband, it happens that OCD puts an image and scene in my head, my sister or someone for whom my OCD is attached and it's literally as if that intimacy is happening with that person, and it seems real that I can and it's exciting! I'm working on ERP during that, but it's still hard to digest... I don't know if it's the same for you?
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I’m struggling with something I’m afraid to even admit out loud. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with someone I love deeply. He’s kind, safe, and emotionally close to me — and we’ve built a life together. But I keep obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction anymore. Or maybe… I never truly did? At the beginning, I felt butterflies, excitement, connection — and I assumed that meant I was also attracted to him physically. But now, after reading so much and reflecting more deeply, I’m starting to wonder if I ever truly felt sexual desire in the way I was “supposed to.” Maybe my feelings were more about emotional longing, comfort, and romantic closeness — but not sexual chemistry. And now I don’t know what that means. OCD makes it so much worse. It constantly tells me: – “If you really loved him, you’d want him.” – “You’re leading him on.” – “What if you’re lying to yourself?” – “If you try to fix this and fail, you’ll have to leave.” I feel stuck between wanting to fight for this relationship — and being terrified that trying will just prove it’s hopeless. Has anyone experienced something like this? Can OCD really make you question something so deeply personal? And how do you move forward when even trying feels terrifying? Any thoughts or support would mean the world right now.
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