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in my experiences, when i am very symptomatic my sex drive is almost gone. anytime i am getting symptom relief or meet a person that can distract me from obsessions my sex drive is normal to high. so yes over the years it comes back unless you have “flares”.
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Thank you. It helps to learn from other's experiences.
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It's crazy huh? I have learned that in HOCD the fear is not only becoming gay, but also loosing attraction to the sex you've always felt attracted to. So i think a good approach would be to treat it as any other fear of ocd: to accept that there's the chance you might not like them anymore, but still act like you would normally: keep meeting people, flirting or whatever it is that you enjoyed doing. Maybe your brain will learn that there's nothing to fear then. That's what I hope. I'll try harder. I have to stop avoiding girls.
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Can you tell me where did you learn HOCD is the fear of losing the sex you've always felt attracted to?
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It effects your sexual activity and makes it hard to have an orgasm also but it can still works like you can still have sex
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Hi Larry. What type of ocd do you have? HOCD?
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My aesthetic attraction to opposite sex has gone. That's why I still have HOCD.
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For how long have you had it? I've had it for 11 years. I regained my attraction quick although sex was a bit challenging, I was "too aware" and nervous. But since my relapse it's even worse. I have a girlfriend and she's paying the price too. It hurts so much...
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@TonyOCD 18 months since the loss of attraction, after the fear of becoming gay disappear
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No, sorry, sorry, I explained myself wrong. Everyone develops their specific fears even when they share a theme (HOCD, Harm OCD, etc.). In my experience, as soon as I experienced the fear of being gay, I "lost my attraction" to girls. But It's not only that, I also avoided contact with them, in fear that my thoughts would made me feel I'm not attracted to them anymore. And in that sense, the fear of becoming gay also has a fear of loosing your attractions to girls. At least for me, there's a fear that I'll never get to enjoy a normal sexual life and that maybe i won't love my girlfriend again. So i need to expose myself to those fears and try to continue my life.
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My ocd is bad when I got to check my pulse constantly for no reason, why I think it’s gonna change anything, gotta get it out of my head
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I suffer since 10 - 15 yrs from specific fears. It was years that my OCD constantly wanted to be checked if I have HIV or not. I had a lot of sex and I thought this is normal. But I ruminated in my backhead about and was testing like 5 - 10 times a year. After the test I felt everytime so relieved. In Corona I was addicted to porn and even I lost control and was watching pretty hard stuff. I was chatting with a girl and we fantasized about really disturbing things. I never wanna meet her and for me was sure it's just kinda onlinestuff. I was in a relationship 3 years now. And I lost fear of HIV. But then came Morality OCD, Real Event (this chat) and after some times POCD. This combination was knocking me out, I felt like the badest person on earth. I did everything wrong and searched for relief and reassurance. It put me to the point of suicidal. I never ever hurting somebody, but my brain was making me a monster. I had to quit the relationship because I just couldn't give her what she deserved. I was in a clinic for 3 months. And we tested medication with ERP (before I took escitalopram for years). Anafranil was working first, then too many side-effects. I tried even without meds, but was so depressed. Now on sertralin for 5 weeks, but only 2 weeks on therapeutic dose 200mg. And wow, now I really feel so confused in the brain. I feel like how big my OCD became. The specific thoughts are not anymore, BUT it sticks on EVERYTHING atm. It's delusional how it feels in the brain. I really hope so deep my brain makes finally a reset and I need to wait it out. I could live with OCD for a long time but the last 1-2 yrs it took absolutely everything. I remark that POCD doesn't stick anymore like before but my brain is now constructing a very bad future because of past mistakes (that I all discussed with family, friends for relief over and over and over again). So it's like my OCD is now Real Event (The sexchat) again. Anyone was on the same point in life?
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