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- TonyOCD
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- 5y ago
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- JG.and.OSDDJG.and.OSDD
- Date posted
- 5y ago
in my experiences, when i am very symptomatic my sex drive is almost gone. anytime i am getting symptom relief or meet a person that can distract me from obsessions my sex drive is normal to high. so yes over the years it comes back unless you have “flares”.
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- TonyOCDTonyOCD
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- 5y ago
Thank you. It helps to learn from other's experiences.
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- TonyOCDTonyOCD
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- 5y ago
It's crazy huh? I have learned that in HOCD the fear is not only becoming gay, but also loosing attraction to the sex you've always felt attracted to. So i think a good approach would be to treat it as any other fear of ocd: to accept that there's the chance you might not like them anymore, but still act like you would normally: keep meeting people, flirting or whatever it is that you enjoyed doing. Maybe your brain will learn that there's nothing to fear then. That's what I hope. I'll try harder. I have to stop avoiding girls.
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- AruphabetoAruphabeto
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- 5y ago
Can you tell me where did you learn HOCD is the fear of losing the sex you've always felt attracted to?
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- larry larry
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- 5y ago
It effects your sexual activity and makes it hard to have an orgasm also but it can still works like you can still have sex
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- TonyOCDTonyOCD
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- 5y ago
Hi Larry. What type of ocd do you have? HOCD?
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- AruphabetoAruphabeto
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- 5y ago
My aesthetic attraction to opposite sex has gone. That's why I still have HOCD.
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- TonyOCDTonyOCD
- Date posted
- 5y ago
For how long have you had it? I've had it for 11 years. I regained my attraction quick although sex was a bit challenging, I was "too aware" and nervous. But since my relapse it's even worse. I have a girlfriend and she's paying the price too. It hurts so much...
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- AruphabetoAruphabeto
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- 5y ago
@TonyOCD 18 months since the loss of attraction, after the fear of becoming gay disappear
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- TonyOCDTonyOCD
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- 5y ago
No, sorry, sorry, I explained myself wrong. Everyone develops their specific fears even when they share a theme (HOCD, Harm OCD, etc.). In my experience, as soon as I experienced the fear of being gay, I "lost my attraction" to girls. But It's not only that, I also avoided contact with them, in fear that my thoughts would made me feel I'm not attracted to them anymore. And in that sense, the fear of becoming gay also has a fear of loosing your attractions to girls. At least for me, there's a fear that I'll never get to enjoy a normal sexual life and that maybe i won't love my girlfriend again. So i need to expose myself to those fears and try to continue my life.
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- larry larry
- Date posted
- 5y ago
My ocd is bad when I got to check my pulse constantly for no reason, why I think it’s gonna change anything, gotta get it out of my head
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