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My therapist doesn’t specialize in ERP, but she’s been wonderful for me otherwise as I also deal with trauma and a dissociative disorder. She has worked with a number of people with OCD though but I believe more through
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Greetings! I’m new to the app and this is my first comment on another’s post. I, too, deal with ROCD in addition to Cheating OCD (I fear that I cheated on my partner and don’t recall it). ERP and ACT are really where it’s at. Obsessing and ruminating obviously leads nowhere, so the key is living with the doubts and fears. Easier said than done, I know, but I figure if we all remind each other of these simple truths, the better off we’ll be. It’s not up to us to determine what’s real and what’s not. I think you’ll be able to determine that it’s OCD because it will have all the classic hallmarks (relentless doubt, need for reassurance, etc.). I think you’ll be able to determine if it’s a real relationship problem should it arise. I hope I was able to help some. Good luck.
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Have u seen a clinician who specializes in ERP?
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She should help u do ERP
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@RalCHARide that was really good advice. It seems like you know OCD pretty well. Would love to see some more posts from you about living with OCD and recovery advice
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Hi BlackSwan, I have Relationship OCD as well (obsessive jealousy - I fear my boyfriend is constantly cheating on me and need to check on him/interrogate him). I struggle with not “knowing” if something that has happened is a sign that he’s cheating or there’s a problem in the relationship. My therapist helped me realized that I also need to accept the uncertainty that I may not know if something is a “real problem” or not. Much, much easier said than done. For example, you can tell yourself “I may never know if xyz is a problem, I will accept the uncertainty and move on”. It’s hard but it gets easier with time. I haven’t conquered it by any means, and it’s super important to have a supportive boyfriend/girlfriend that is empathic, calm and understanding and doesn’t engage with you in your rituals. The person you find that supports you in that journey is the right person for you. I think it’s particularly hard for us Relationship OCD folks with regards to relationships, but I’m sure all of us experience and can relate to the extreme stress it puts on the relationship. Just don’t blame yourself and keep pressing and you’ll find the right person who is willing to support you and make you feel loved as you’re going through this. Much love...
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I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
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I’m new to the app and wanting to know who else experiences this form of ocd. Some background I was a therapist for over 10 years now I am out of the clinical space. So I have background knowledge of ocd but never knew much about relationship ocd. I realized over the last several years with my now fiancé, that I have a hard time just letting go in general, whether that’s an argument or statement or feeling. I want to be able to just accept things at face value and move on (and talk later if my partner is ready as needed). But when conflict arises I can’t disengage till there is a clear resolution. It’s causing serious strife as he can feel trapped and it escalates the argument. I am reading more and this sounds like relationship OCD. Anyone else experience this? Curious on what others have done to work on this for themselves. I do have a therapist but we are not doing work in this area yet as I am realizing this is an actual concern.
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Does anyone have any advice for how to know the difference between ocd and real feelings/thoughts? Sometimes an intrusive thought will come in and I immediately know it’s ridiculous and I can just leave it alone and it won’t bother me but other times I really really don’t know. It’s when ocd hijacks and twists my real feelings and thoughts and tries to manipulate me into believing they’re something they’re not or something that doesn’t align with my true morals or intentions. But since it’s twisting and mixing with real feelings I get so confused and scared. Everything gets jumbled and I feel like I can’t trust myself or my own mind. Yet other times and other topics I can laugh off and push away just fine. Make it make sense. And then I start to think well maybe I don’t have ocd at all and I’m just in denial because I don’t want to accept that these scary/concerning things are true about myself. Or maybe that’s just the ocd talking.
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