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My therapist doesn’t specialize in ERP, but she’s been wonderful for me otherwise as I also deal with trauma and a dissociative disorder. She has worked with a number of people with OCD though but I believe more through
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Greetings! I’m new to the app and this is my first comment on another’s post. I, too, deal with ROCD in addition to Cheating OCD (I fear that I cheated on my partner and don’t recall it). ERP and ACT are really where it’s at. Obsessing and ruminating obviously leads nowhere, so the key is living with the doubts and fears. Easier said than done, I know, but I figure if we all remind each other of these simple truths, the better off we’ll be. It’s not up to us to determine what’s real and what’s not. I think you’ll be able to determine that it’s OCD because it will have all the classic hallmarks (relentless doubt, need for reassurance, etc.). I think you’ll be able to determine if it’s a real relationship problem should it arise. I hope I was able to help some. Good luck.
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Have u seen a clinician who specializes in ERP?
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She should help u do ERP
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@RalCHARide that was really good advice. It seems like you know OCD pretty well. Would love to see some more posts from you about living with OCD and recovery advice
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Hi BlackSwan, I have Relationship OCD as well (obsessive jealousy - I fear my boyfriend is constantly cheating on me and need to check on him/interrogate him). I struggle with not “knowing” if something that has happened is a sign that he’s cheating or there’s a problem in the relationship. My therapist helped me realized that I also need to accept the uncertainty that I may not know if something is a “real problem” or not. Much, much easier said than done. For example, you can tell yourself “I may never know if xyz is a problem, I will accept the uncertainty and move on”. It’s hard but it gets easier with time. I haven’t conquered it by any means, and it’s super important to have a supportive boyfriend/girlfriend that is empathic, calm and understanding and doesn’t engage with you in your rituals. The person you find that supports you in that journey is the right person for you. I think it’s particularly hard for us Relationship OCD folks with regards to relationships, but I’m sure all of us experience and can relate to the extreme stress it puts on the relationship. Just don’t blame yourself and keep pressing and you’ll find the right person who is willing to support you and make you feel loved as you’re going through this. Much love...
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Does anyone know how can you determine ROCD compulsive thoughts vs actual relationship issues necessary to bring up? I’ve been in multiple abusive relationships in the past and I don’t want to go through that again. I’ve been with my partner for 3 years, we’re both mentally ill and we’ve hurt each other a lot over the years. I have some trauma due to their alcoholism, but I want to still be there for her. However my head is constantly telling me that whenever they’re gone I’m worried they’re drinking and cheating, trying to harm themself, planning on harming me or they’re gonna die if im not basically with them 24/7. Even when I want time to myself I force myself to be with them sometimes out of fear. I see them do/say something that might suggest these things (following a new girl, ignoring my texts while they’re out, raising their voice at me etc.) and I’m even more convinced and I don’t know how to stop. I don’t know what is a suspicion I SHOULD bring up to them, and what is just a compulsive thought. :( How do I determine that?
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Can ROCD make your thoughts and feelings feel 100% true or real???? Like I can have a thought or feeling and in that moment it feels real or should it not feel real until the ocd latches onto it?
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Hi everyone, I recently had a chat with a coach on Instagram about my relationship anxiety, and they said I probably don’t have ROCD — because what I’m experiencing sounds more like real doubts, not intrusive thoughts. In her opinion I have signs of real doubts: – There are understandable reasons, like lack of sexual desire – The thoughts show up in specific situations – Talking about the issue or seeing changes in the relationship brings relief They also asked: “Would you still have these doubts if you knew for sure that your relationship was healthy?” And now I’m just stuck. And now I’m wondering: am I just in denial? Or is this still OCD? Have any of you been through something similar — where someone told you your doubts are real, and it made things worse? Thanks for reading. I’d really appreciate hearing how others have navigated this.
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