Why do people with ocd have no self-confidence?Is it everyone or just me?I have felt useless and incompetent all my life.I have two master's degrees and all I can think about is ways people could make fun of me.I am anxious about anything that people could say that could embarrass me.I used to feel worthless when I had no relationship and when I got in a relationship,I thought everything would change,but no I still felt worthless and even more than before.Why??Is lack of self confidence associated with ocd?

Username: m.preszm.presz

Date posted: 4y ago

I’m not a therapist, but speaking from personal experience, I definitely relate with that. I think the OCD is partially the way we cope with being insecure. Personally, a lot of my insecurity stems from a harsh father and older brother who were both very unaffirming and even mocking at times. Therapy has helped heal some of that for me as well as my dad having quite a transformation of heart and being able to get healing in that area. My family life was overall very normal and good, but it didn’t come without some moderate trauma—no ones does. Definitely encourage you to see a therapist if you haven’t already. And it’s good your here—that shows strength in itself! Best, Michael

Username: StressedStressed

Date posted: 4y ago

Thank you for your response.My childhood and adolescence were filled with verbal abuse by my parents, mainly my father.I was told I was ugly and stupid all the time.Maybe that's why I got Ocd?I don't know.

Username: js94js94

Date posted: 4y ago

U have to remember OCD is genetic we were all predisposed to it

Username: StressedStressed

Date posted: 4y ago

However is this certain?I believe it is genetic too,but I don't think scientists are sure.My therapist didn't sound sure,either,she had told me it was a combination of genetics and abuse.

Username: js94js94

Date posted: 4y ago

Abuse may be the precursor that initiates the genetics. It has to be genetic if it runs in families

Username: ocdillustratedocdillustrated

Date posted: 4y ago

The current model of how I d develops is called "diathesis-stress". Diathesis means predisposition- that's the genetic part. Some people are born with predispositions that make them more likely to develop OCD. Stress refers to life experience. Abuse and trauma is part of this, but it isn't the only environmental factor that is relevant. There are many different pathways to developing OCD, which we are still in the early stages of understanding. One consistent finding is that the earlier OCD starts, the more it appears to be genetic and the less it is related to adverse life experience

Username: bodhisattava

Date posted: 3y ago

I have question for y’all, not really sure if this is ocd but it is definitely obsessive, I have always had a problem with my self esteem but lately it has seem obsessive and I’ve been try to fix it but I feel like I’m making it worse! Seem familiar to anyone? If so any tips?

Username: tomphilly

Date posted: 1y ago

Can anyone relate?

I’m 25 years old. Never have been in a relationship with a female. When I think about it, it makes me very sad. I have an extremely low self esteem. It was brought to my attention by a couple of OCD specialists about the correlation between OCD and my fear of rejection. For example, if I get rejected, it would mean that that person is confirming that I am indeed worthless and should go kill myself, etc. This sick all or nothing thinking is probably a big reason why I haven’t been in a relationship. My therapist at the moment from NOCD is pushing me to interact with more women by initiating conversation but I am nervous about this. I keep telling myself I’m going to say something to someone but I always freeze up and make excuses.

Username: Joe87

Date posted: 1y ago

Does anyone else feel unworthy of being happy?

Or feel like if they allow themselves to recover from OCD then bad things will happen? Any answers or feedback will be greatly apprecaited So I ask this question as I have struggled really bad with OCD for almost 4 years now. So bad that I haven't worked in that time and I have spent all of my savings as I have had to live off it. I am 36 now and up until 4 years ago I had always worked and had a nice amount of money saved for a house deposit. The really frustrating thing is that I feel that I know exactly what it is I need to start doing in order to get a grip of my mental health and this horrific OCD but because I don't feel worthy of being happy and free of ocd and because I've told myself that if I do then something really bad will happen it stops me from allowing myself to get better. I've had over 150 hours of councelling in the past few years aswell as some ERP but because but because off these feelings I can't seem to get better

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