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I’m not a therapist, but speaking from personal experience, I definitely relate with that. I think the OCD is partially the way we cope with being insecure. Personally, a lot of my insecurity stems from a harsh father and older brother who were both very unaffirming and even mocking at times. Therapy has helped heal some of that for me as well as my dad having quite a transformation of heart and being able to get healing in that area. My family life was overall very normal and good, but it didn’t come without some moderate trauma—no ones does. Definitely encourage you to see a therapist if you haven’t already. And it’s good your here—that shows strength in itself! Best, Michael
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Thank you for your response.My childhood and adolescence were filled with verbal abuse by my parents, mainly my father.I was told I was ugly and stupid all the time.Maybe that's why I got Ocd?I don't know.
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U have to remember OCD is genetic we were all predisposed to it
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However is this certain?I believe it is genetic too,but I don't think scientists are sure.My therapist didn't sound sure,either,she had told me it was a combination of genetics and abuse.
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Abuse may be the precursor that initiates the genetics. It has to be genetic if it runs in families
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The current model of how I d develops is called "diathesis-stress". Diathesis means predisposition- that's the genetic part. Some people are born with predispositions that make them more likely to develop OCD. Stress refers to life experience. Abuse and trauma is part of this, but it isn't the only environmental factor that is relevant. There are many different pathways to developing OCD, which we are still in the early stages of understanding. One consistent finding is that the earlier OCD starts, the more it appears to be genetic and the less it is related to adverse life experience
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So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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im seeing everyone getting accepted by their colleges and im having a really hard time not comparing myself. I feel like my pure ocd has taken up my life and I wish my mind let me believe that I could work hard enough for these universities that I wanted to apply to. I feel so much embarrassment and shame in myself for having to stay in my hometown while everyone goes away to college. I can’t blame everything on my ocd, im still having a hard time accepting that I have it, I just wish I was better
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Does anyone struggle with feeling like their ocd issues are not ocd enough compared to other peoples ocd? Is this an ocd thought itself lol
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