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I’m not a therapist, but speaking from personal experience, I definitely relate with that. I think the OCD is partially the way we cope with being insecure. Personally, a lot of my insecurity stems from a harsh father and older brother who were both very unaffirming and even mocking at times. Therapy has helped heal some of that for me as well as my dad having quite a transformation of heart and being able to get healing in that area. My family life was overall very normal and good, but it didn’t come without some moderate trauma—no ones does. Definitely encourage you to see a therapist if you haven’t already. And it’s good your here—that shows strength in itself! Best, Michael
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Thank you for your response.My childhood and adolescence were filled with verbal abuse by my parents, mainly my father.I was told I was ugly and stupid all the time.Maybe that's why I got Ocd?I don't know.
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U have to remember OCD is genetic we were all predisposed to it
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However is this certain?I believe it is genetic too,but I don't think scientists are sure.My therapist didn't sound sure,either,she had told me it was a combination of genetics and abuse.
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Abuse may be the precursor that initiates the genetics. It has to be genetic if it runs in families
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The current model of how I d develops is called "diathesis-stress". Diathesis means predisposition- that's the genetic part. Some people are born with predispositions that make them more likely to develop OCD. Stress refers to life experience. Abuse and trauma is part of this, but it isn't the only environmental factor that is relevant. There are many different pathways to developing OCD, which we are still in the early stages of understanding. One consistent finding is that the earlier OCD starts, the more it appears to be genetic and the less it is related to adverse life experience
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