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I’m not a therapist, but speaking from personal experience, I definitely relate with that. I think the OCD is partially the way we cope with being insecure. Personally, a lot of my insecurity stems from a harsh father and older brother who were both very unaffirming and even mocking at times. Therapy has helped heal some of that for me as well as my dad having quite a transformation of heart and being able to get healing in that area. My family life was overall very normal and good, but it didn’t come without some moderate trauma—no ones does. Definitely encourage you to see a therapist if you haven’t already. And it’s good your here—that shows strength in itself! Best, Michael
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Thank you for your response.My childhood and adolescence were filled with verbal abuse by my parents, mainly my father.I was told I was ugly and stupid all the time.Maybe that's why I got Ocd?I don't know.
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U have to remember OCD is genetic we were all predisposed to it
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However is this certain?I believe it is genetic too,but I don't think scientists are sure.My therapist didn't sound sure,either,she had told me it was a combination of genetics and abuse.
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Abuse may be the precursor that initiates the genetics. It has to be genetic if it runs in families
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The current model of how I d develops is called "diathesis-stress". Diathesis means predisposition- that's the genetic part. Some people are born with predispositions that make them more likely to develop OCD. Stress refers to life experience. Abuse and trauma is part of this, but it isn't the only environmental factor that is relevant. There are many different pathways to developing OCD, which we are still in the early stages of understanding. One consistent finding is that the earlier OCD starts, the more it appears to be genetic and the less it is related to adverse life experience
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I am struggling to feel like I deserve any of the confidence I used to have. I’ve done a lot of pretty cool stuff in my life, and I used to think it was impressive. I was so proud, and I would light up when others gave me compliments. Now, it feels like all a lie, and I can’t stop thinking everyone would hate me if they knew the terrible things I’ve thought or said or done. I make art, for example, and I’ve had a lot of success with it. But now, I feel like others would troll me or destroy my work, and then tell everyone that anything I touch is trash. Basically, I fear being bullied for the mistakes of my past — or even just for my thoughts. My therapist keeps telling me I’m completely normal and I’m the only one beating myself up, but my OCD says, “No, she’s wrong — you should stop pursuing your dreams and push away anyone who likes you, because they’ll all hate you eventually.” I know it’s ridiculous, but it feels so real. Anyone have advice for rebuilding confidence in the face of OCD?
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Does anyone have OCD regarding always feeling like you are not good enough at your job? I'm 58 years old now I've had OCD since childhood. Every job I've been at I never felt as good as my colleagues. I am a nurse but I worked at that for 15 years I had a breakdown of sorts in 2017 and went on disability. I now work part time as a a swim instructor for kids. I always was afraid of killing someone when I was a nurse. Then I tried dog grooming but I was afraid I would do it wrong and hurt the dogs. At least now the stakes are lower. But my OCD is the same. I work with colleagues who are about 40 years younger than I am . I am afraid of teaching certain classes bc I feel like I wouldn't do as good a job as someone else. I know I can do it but it's like I have a fear of not giving them their money's worth. I've been at my current job for 2 years . I've gotten very positive comments from my managers but I can't seem to believe them. I feel a lot of shame bc I lost a lot of my life to OCD and I am at an age where people are starting to retire after long and successful careers and here I am working at an entry level job. I'm planning on trying to get out of my comfort zone and teaching some of the classes I'm afraid of .it's really hard. I'm always scared what if I lose my benefits and had to work again as a nurse how would I do it.
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