- Username
- Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 4y ago
What kind of stuff mate ?
It tells me that “ you want to be gay or bisexual”
Trys to tell me i dont like women. It makes me so depressed
I really dont know my own brain 😞
It’s happening to me too. Your not alone
Yeah it does
What does mate ?
It tells I mean. That's what OCD does. Some worry. Just avoid looking for answers and compulsions.
I think it makes me comment on my thoughts aswel
you answer them, yeah? Like trying to show that you are not gay, or you like women.
When i think of women its says no you like men now 🤷♂️
Let it then. Just comment like: "yeah maybe i dont like woman. Maybe I'm gay."
I cant do it tho. It fucking really upsets me. I just droped my boy of at school and i cried basically all the way back 😞. Im so tired of this
Just find therapist. If you cant. Do the thing i say. It really helps. I understand you man, dont worry it will all pass one day
@agriculturalindustries Can you guys please help me with my posts please? I’m getting false attractions and butterfly in the stomach type feelings for one of my friends and I don’t like it.
@SOOCD As I said. Find a therapist immediately. If you can't, just avoid compulsions. Don't look for answers. Don't look for certainty. Just live. Don't give any answers to thoughts.
@agriculturalindustries But these are false attractions man. And they feel genuine please help me
@SOOCD what do you mean by false attractions?
@agriculturalindustries Butterfly in the stomach type feelings and stomachaches.
@SOOCD Are these attractions? Man, you just overthinking. Ignore them, they mean nothing.
@agriculturalindustries I honestly hope so. I can’t take it anymore
My mind is just on men and everthing to do with them. Ive had enough
Can you help with my post man? I greatly need it
i would say its probably your mind playing tricks on you mate. As soon as i say i love women i get a feeling in my neck chest and stomach
But why does my HOCD keep producing butterflies in the stomach around my friend? And stomachaches after? I can’t fucking take this
@SOOCD Guys, I have battled HOCD and some others for years. I have worked with the top psychologist in the state, studied for years, and now use faith and medicine to add to my ocd toolbox. I could write and talk for days on what you/we go through on a daily basis in the mind. Some days, it’s full out war. Am I right? The thing that’s hard to recognize with the way our brains are built is the what thoughts are rational and which we should ignore. It is a physical (chemical) imbalance at the core of the problem. There are many things to do to stop the pattern little by little. From erp, meditation, faith etc. Medication is something I was sort of against in the beginning of my journey with ocd, but now I have changed my mindset. By putting in the work to get to know my ocd from the start, it built me a strong base to now add medication to that strong base of therapy. OCD is a monster that will try to steal joy out of every moment in life. I think what helps me the most is realizing that the content of ocd is irrelevant. If we look at the reasearch, you’re not alone! Many others struggle with same and even many different tough ocd themes to manage. Heck, I remember I went a full year worrying every moment about my own nipples😂 I laugh now because that was a theme for me in my past and now ocd morphed. So try to be positive as much as possible, take the focus off yourself, and know that you will overcome and be able to handle anything that ocd brings your way. Don’t fight it. We have a gifted mind, just have to learn how to use it💪🏼💯 have faith and keep workin hard on your values
Not sure mate but i get the same
Cbt and exposure for therapy ?
What medication did you use im on 40mg of prozac. Been back on it for 2 half months no real change ?
I also use them. But they only help for getting rid of anxiety, they don't just destroy all the obsessions. But it gives you to stop looking answers. Sometimes accepting that you are gay helps too. Because just saying that I'm gay don't make people gay. But it makes obsessions less important
@agriculturalindustries Very great point and mindset my dude 🙏👏
What dosage are you on ?
40 I guess
So i can look at women and still see that i like them. I get a feeling in my chest and stomach when i see an attractive guy. Feels more like fear i dunno ?
I use 40 of fluoxetine
How long have you been on the 40 ?
Sorry man, just seeing this. I currently started adding meds to my ocd toolbox this past August 2020. I just starting experimenting with 40 every other day. I’ll be honest anytime you up a dosage or try something new, your brain/ocd will sort of feel the effects and symptoms may increase. But I’ll be honest with you man and my close loved ones who are aware of my struggle have told me what I difference they have seen once I let it settle in a couple weeks. I am looking for similar effects with this change to 40, maybe even better! So give it a chance to work in you, have faith and continue to live and love through ocd.
No worries i just started 60mg of flouxetine on sunday today i was breaking down and emotional 😞. I suppose going up in dosage can only be a good thing
Yeah man, it will be okay just give it a chance. I was nervous too but I’m telling you it has definitely changed me and helped me. Don’t fear, have faith and know that there are bright days ahead. Continue some staged or real life erp when you feel up for it and keep working on becoming a better you. Remember, we all struggle with something. It’s how people handle their struggles that changes from person to person and shows true character. Remember, themes are irrelevant. They will change through time and life circumstances. So attack ocd at its core.
Ive only ever had this theme 😞
I have two questions for you, feel free to answer 1, both or neither. Have you ever had help from a psychologist? Are you into faith? These two things really helped me when I was in the trap that is ocd. I still have to work on a daily basis, I am not going to fully rid of my ocd, it’s the way our mind is built. But these two things, along with some light meds I believe is the key to making giant leaps in your mental health.
I havent seen a psychologist. But i am on medication 60mg of flouxetine back on it for nearly 3 months still feel rubbish
HOCDers: do any of you ever go through moments that feel like realisation or discovery of being gay (I hate this so much because I know I’m not) Also does your ocd ever make you feel funny about being straight when you know you are? Sometimes if I say to myself ‘I’m straight’ I get a sensation that isn’t quite anxiety, I don’t know if it’s a longing/missing just knowing?
Can anyone relate to having HOCD thlughts (or any form of sexual orientation OCD) and getting aroused by them? I don't mean a groinal response (tingles, twinges, etc.) or arousal-non concordance (when you're groing get's aroused but your mind doesn't), or confusing stress with arousal... I literally mean getting aroused (both mentally and physiologically) by unwanted thoughts in repeated occasions (frequently) when you test yourself? Basically like if it was a sexual fantasy, with the exception that it's a torture that you have found through compulsions. I never wanted to think any of this and I still hate and wouldn't do any of the content of my thoughts. But this happens to me and makes me feel SOOOOO in denial and anxious even though I've never had sex, interest, attraction or desires for a man (or a transexual, which is my other HOCD topic).
Hey guys. i’m a 14 year old female and i think i may be struggling from HOCD. My reason for this is because i really struggle setting aside thoughts about my sexual orientation. Growing up i always wanted to marry a man and have kids but up untill now there’s something in my head telling me that i don’t want to do that and i’m making it up. i have all kinds of intrusive thoughts about s€xual intercourse with girls and even just being in a relationship with a girl and they have become that common it’s like in my head that i’ve accepted it and my head is tricking me into the fact i like it, when in reality i don’t! there’s so much more to this but all i want to know is is this HOCD and i’m not in denial? pls it’s causing me so much distress, i’d appreciate any help! <3
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