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Even if you see a guy who looks attractive..... it isn’t the same as what u feel or see in your boyfriend. Think about how humans react as a whole ..... we all look at attractive people, things , cars ...ect.....That’s what we all do. If that was not a part of being human , we would all have to wear BLINDERS ......it’s just a thought.....(that is normal for all humans ) usually theses thoughts just filter through as normal thoughts (which they are)...So, you are normal .......... Odc will catch a normal passing thought and throw it back , always in the worst possible scenario ..Recognize the operating system of ocd ....practice and learn .... OCD DESERVES NO CREDIT AND IT IS NOTHING.....YOU ARE EVERTHING .... no guilt for being human like everyone of us ....
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I’m sorry, just try to work it out......... but in a relationship you both need to focus on positive things ......please , keep working on your OCD ...... Fear = false evidence appearing real =FEAR
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Thank you so much for commenting and helping!
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dont do that. evey loyal GF is like this. looking at people is nothing
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This is so true. I used to feel think what you said to other people when they would post about it but when it happened to me I felt like it was different and I confess so much I felt like I needed to confess. However, that’s true, usually it’s something that would just pass but my OCD is making me think it’s a serious problem that needs to be confessed to him
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So you know why it feels different ( because of your OCD ) .........soooo what if it is uncomfortable for a while .... it does not need to be confessed ....maybe write it down and throw it away, ....... but of all the things, people, everything communicated in the whole .... I would not listen to OCD ..... guaranteed 100% to lie to you ..... I know this is easier said than done ✅ but u can start now ..... There are a lot of attractive people in this world..... but your boyfriend is obviously not only attractive but a million other assets. Too .....
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I ended up confessing and he’s so mad at me that I looked at someone else and now won’t talk to me. My fear was real.
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I’ve been feeling the compulsion of confession again. I hate confessing things to my boyfriend I don’t want him to carry the burden. I’d rather hurt than him hurt. But I feel I did something wrong and he needs to know. Like I need to be punished or something. I may be over reacting to it but I just feel guilty and I had a panic attack when I woke up yesterday. I would never cheat on him. Just making guys laugh I feel like I am doing him wrong or flirting. And then when I notice it I just feel awful. I just want to be liked and noticed not romantically but just as a human. I don’t know why I act like this and feel the need to tell him as if I slept with someone. I think it’s attacking my biggest fear which is losing him. Does anyone have experience with this?
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I can't stop confessing! I have this urge to dump on him every thought and wrong doing I've ever had and its destroying me! Im worried it'll destroy us too. When we started dating I stole a story from a friend to make myself look cool which was pathetic. But its the only time I remember doing anything like this.
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I was at a house party a month ago and everyone was taking photos of silly moments. I took two photos that had an attractive person in them. I deleted the photos a few days later because I felt guilty and anxious that I had taken them. I keep ruminating and thinking about my intentions. I do believe I took them because they had an attractive person in them. I worry that this makes it count as cheating. I am very very open with my partner and I tend to constantly confess things like this to him. I have confessed so many things to him, and he always holds the same stance: he believes that fantasizing and crushing is okay. He said he has had his own crushes and he said “fantasizing is nice as long as it stays a fantasy.” I agreed. I told him about my crush and how anxious I was about it and how I was afraid that it was emotional cheating. He told me that it really doesn’t matter and that it’s only wrong if it’s physical cheating. I should note that I have taken VERY VERY good care to never even attempt to become friends with this person. I’ve seen them a handful of times at group gatherings but I never ever message them on my own, I ignore all their messages in a group chat because I don’t want to give them special attention, I never even speak to them in person unless they speak to me first. We are barely even friends. He said he doesn’t need to know what goes on in my head and as long as an action seems innocent to an outsider, it’s not cheating and he doesn’t need to know about it. One time I confessed an action where I also felt like my intentions were wrong, and he told me “Who cares about intentions? It’s outcome that matters.” My therapist also told me not to worry about these actions. He said that if I keep ruminating on whether an action is right or wrong, I should just try to sit with the discomfort and not confess. He told me that if an action were really wrong, I would KNOW it intuitively and “my body would push me to confess.” I’m just so worried sick about this. Do I confess or not?
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