- Username
- Harleyboi
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Did you have a figure in your life that got angry over small details? My mom likes the explain that anger is a spectrum and you can't treat it the same. There's 1(someone just slightly wanted u to do something that they preferred) to 10(never wants to speak to you again) Most every day acts, even fights with a s.o, never go past a 5 or 6 🤷‍♀️ idk if that helps you but it brought some relief to me since I'm always perceiving frustration at me as a 10 when it's usually just a 2 or 3 at worst.
Thank you! That's a great way of putting it!
That’s me too. I overthink literally everything.
There’s something called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, I would encourage you to look it up! I experience it. Apparently it’s common in people with ADD/ADHD— I’ve never been diagnosed with that (although I think I have ADHD, but never want to diagnose myself) anyway, it’s the severe emotional even physical pain from the slightest hint of criticism or rejection like a professor pointing out one mistake you made on a paper, a friend saying they don’t want to hang out today but maybe another time, etc. it can definitely feel like you’re just being “over dramatic” but it’s definitely not your fault you feel that way. And definitely something worth looking into! I hope that was helpful in any way. But know you’re not alone.
I've only just seen this, but it describes me exactly! That's so refreshing to hear - thank you!
Does anyone deal with OCD in relationships where you’re constantly ritualizing making sure people aren’t mad at you? I constantly ask “are you mad at me?” or I’ll go back and over-clarify things I said and people are always like “dude I didn’t even notice you said something wrong” or “i didn’t even think about it that way”. It’s relieving but I feel like it’s just the OCD getting what it wants out of the ritual. I will say that recently, I’ve been able to let the obsession go in one ear and out the other more than ever before, but I still obsess over what people think of me. Would love to hear some shared experiences or advice.
How do you deal with your coworker(s) disliking you/giving you the cold shoulder after a misunderstanding? I care about my reputation and what ppl think of me (even after I stop working with them). I wouldn't care as much but I work with them and I can't stand walking on egg shells around ppl for 8-10 hrs a day! My anxiety kicks in and my mind starts to spiral and create scenarios and reasons as to why this person is treating me this way. I would say something but I I'm not confrontational.
Does anyone else just feel like their mere fucking existence is bothersome to any living or breathing creature. The amount of times I say sorry for absolutely butt fuck nothing is insane. The amount of times I need someone to double check that what I’m doing is right or tell me that the text I’m sending is okay or that whatever situation I just experienced is okay and that I did nothing wrong. And then I actually become more bothersome by trying to not be bothersome cuz I burden the fuck out of the poor people in my life by asking them if every single thing I part take in is OKAY!?!?!!?? Ugh. I’m so sick of this how do I stop.
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