- Username
- Harleyboi
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Did you have a figure in your life that got angry over small details? My mom likes the explain that anger is a spectrum and you can't treat it the same. There's 1(someone just slightly wanted u to do something that they preferred) to 10(never wants to speak to you again) Most every day acts, even fights with a s.o, never go past a 5 or 6 đ€·ââïž idk if that helps you but it brought some relief to me since I'm always perceiving frustration at me as a 10 when it's usually just a 2 or 3 at worst.
Thank you! That's a great way of putting it!
Thatâs me too. I overthink literally everything.
Thereâs something called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, I would encourage you to look it up! I experience it. Apparently itâs common in people with ADD/ADHDâ Iâve never been diagnosed with that (although I think I have ADHD, but never want to diagnose myself) anyway, itâs the severe emotional even physical pain from the slightest hint of criticism or rejection like a professor pointing out one mistake you made on a paper, a friend saying they donât want to hang out today but maybe another time, etc. it can definitely feel like youâre just being âover dramaticâ but itâs definitely not your fault you feel that way. And definitely something worth looking into! I hope that was helpful in any way. But know youâre not alone.
I've only just seen this, but it describes me exactly! That's so refreshing to hear - thank you!
Does anyone deal with OCD in relationships where youâre constantly ritualizing making sure people arenât mad at you? I constantly ask âare you mad at me?â or Iâll go back and over-clarify things I said and people are always like âdude I didnât even notice you said something wrongâ or âi didnât even think about it that wayâ. Itâs relieving but I feel like itâs just the OCD getting what it wants out of the ritual. I will say that recently, Iâve been able to let the obsession go in one ear and out the other more than ever before, but I still obsess over what people think of me. Would love to hear some shared experiences or advice.
How do you deal with your coworker(s) disliking you/giving you the cold shoulder after a misunderstanding? I care about my reputation and what ppl think of me (even after I stop working with them). I wouldn't care as much but I work with them and I can't stand walking on egg shells around ppl for 8-10 hrs a day! My anxiety kicks in and my mind starts to spiral and create scenarios and reasons as to why this person is treating me this way. I would say something but I I'm not confrontational.
I started a new job a month ago. Keep in mind I have severe relationship OCD so before I went in I was afraid I was going to have a weird thought about someone if they were good looking. Literally my first day I saw someone good looking and did a friendly smile because I was new and I just smiled at everyone to be nice- I did it again Iâd say like 3 more times to that person in the days after and then I suddenly stopped because I was like what if he thinks I fudging fancy him so now every time I pass him I canât look him in the eyes I look down or rush past looking annoyed so he doesnât think I think heâs good looking. Iâm really enjoying this job but this little thing every single day when I go in now is constantly at the back of my mind every morning I wake up itâs the first thing I think of, every intimate and loving moment with my boyfriend I picture this person (because my OCD imagines things that are bothering me in the best moments so I donât enjoy them) And I am so afraid that one day someone in my team will be like oh yeah you need to get him to train you in on this because I will actually cry because Iâve built this up so much in my head now that I canât enjoy my life my work everything because itâs really awkward (or in my mind it is) when I pass this person because Iâve made it seem like this huge deal and it makes me feel sick because Iâve already confessed this once to my boyfriend but it is so STUCK in my head now and of course you can never ask for help on this shit (my fellow ocd friends will know of course and by friends i mean everyone in this community) because people in my work would be like ooooo you fancy him or something not understanding that this is something i really struggle with. And I just donât know at all how to move past it
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