Is it just me that when someone gets mad at me, it's like my relationship with them starts from square one? I overthink them being mad so much that I can't move past it, and I look for the tiniest little signs that they're still mad at me deep down. For example, my boss got MILDLY annoyed with me because I didn't see a message she sent this morning, but my brain is treating it like she's been on the edge of firing me (she literally just asked why I didn't respond, and reminded me that I needed to be online for 9AM, then we MOVED PAST IT). When this happens, it would literally take the other person to come up to me like 'I'm sorry for getting mad - you don't need to worry about it. I didn't mean to get annoyed' for me to move past it. It takes me MONTHS to get over the tiniest little spat. So so done.

Did you have a figure in your life that got angry over small details? My mom likes the explain that anger is a spectrum and you can't treat it the same. There's 1(someone just slightly wanted u to do something that they preferred) to 10(never wants to speak to you again) Most every day acts, even fights with a s.o, never go past a 5 or 6 🤷‍♀️ idk if that helps you but it brought some relief to me since I'm always perceiving frustration at me as a 10 when it's usually just a 2 or 3 at worst.

That’s me too. I overthink literally everything.

There’s something called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, I would encourage you to look it up! I experience it. Apparently it’s common in people with ADD/ADHD— I’ve never been diagnosed with that (although I think I have ADHD, but never want to diagnose myself) anyway, it’s the severe emotional even physical pain from the slightest hint of criticism or rejection like a professor pointing out one mistake you made on a paper, a friend saying they don’t want to hang out today but maybe another time, etc. it can definitely feel like you’re just being “over dramatic” but it’s definitely not your fault you feel that way. And definitely something worth looking into! I hope that was helpful in any way. But know you’re not alone.