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Did you have a figure in your life that got angry over small details? My mom likes the explain that anger is a spectrum and you can't treat it the same. There's 1(someone just slightly wanted u to do something that they preferred) to 10(never wants to speak to you again) Most every day acts, even fights with a s.o, never go past a 5 or 6 đ€·ââïž idk if that helps you but it brought some relief to me since I'm always perceiving frustration at me as a 10 when it's usually just a 2 or 3 at worst.
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Thank you! That's a great way of putting it!
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Thatâs me too. I overthink literally everything.
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Thereâs something called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, I would encourage you to look it up! I experience it. Apparently itâs common in people with ADD/ADHDâ Iâve never been diagnosed with that (although I think I have ADHD, but never want to diagnose myself) anyway, itâs the severe emotional even physical pain from the slightest hint of criticism or rejection like a professor pointing out one mistake you made on a paper, a friend saying they donât want to hang out today but maybe another time, etc. it can definitely feel like youâre just being âover dramaticâ but itâs definitely not your fault you feel that way. And definitely something worth looking into! I hope that was helpful in any way. But know youâre not alone.
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I've only just seen this, but it describes me exactly! That's so refreshing to hear - thank you!
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I've been having a really tough time lately with a recent workplace interaction that occurrd today, and my mind just keeps replaying the events over and over. It feels like an endless loop, and I'm finding it incredibly hard to let go. I'm trying to figure out if this intense replaying is more about my OCD, or if it's a typical reaction to a stressful situation that's being amplified by my OCD tendencies. The specific details of the incident involve a colleague engaging in a racially insensitive discussion that I tried to disengage from. Despite my attempts to steer the conversation away and remove myself, the situation escalated with direct confrontation and accusations. This led to significant emotional distress for me. Later in the day, the same colleague misunderstood another conversation, making baseless accusations and publicly confronting me in a very aggressive way. I kept quiet throughout, just a bit of muttering. The emotional toll of these interactions has been immense. Now, my mind is stuck. I can't seem to stop dwelling on every word, every gesture, and every imagined alternative outcome. Hoping I'm not viewed as the "angry black woman" which is such an affair narrative why can't I state grievances of racism, without this narrative. * how do you manage the relentless replaying of stressful workplace interactions? What are your go-to coping mechanisms when your mind gets "stuck" on these loops? * Have you found any specific strategies helpful for navigating interpersonal conflicts at work when your OCD makes it difficult to process and move past them? * When you're feeling emotionally vulnerable due to work stress, what helps you prevent these situations from turning into prolonged rumination cycles? Any advice or shared experiences would be incredibly helpful. I'll be so grateful for any assistance. I just feel like I'm not good at life.
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Iâve been spiraling since a workplace incident last Thursday. I had an uncomfortable and tense interaction with a colleague, and it triggered a lot of obsessive rumination. I spent the whole weekend crying, panicking, and replaying everything that happened. Today, I went back to work â and it was really hard. Everyone acted like nothing happened. They joke with him, treat him normally, even though he bullied me and Iâm just⊠sitting there. I didnât greet him, and he didnât greet me. I kept to myself, answered questions when I had to, but didnât socialize. Now I feel scared. Like Iâm walking on eggshells. I keep thinking: âWhat if I say something wrong?â âWhat if I make a mistake and they say, âYou see? Sheâs the problemâ? Acting holier than thou & she's a bigot too!" I know this is partly my OCD and trauma talking, but it feels so real. Like Iâm one wrong move away from being blamed or alienated. Iâve even started eating lunch in my car to feel safe. Iâm trying so hard to hold boundaries, stay professional, and protect my peace. But Iâm exhausted. I feel like a shell of myself and Iâm scared Iâll break. I was already a little on eggshells cause most of my colleagues say or do something bigoted every now & then...my bigotry ocd is always scared that when I don't confront them. I'm condoning it & becoming them. I'm exhausted. I want to work remotely so I can stay isolated from people. I don't think I'll ever heal from this. I feel like this incident is one of those that permanently changes you. Like when my parents & siblings says I'm not the same anymore. I'm more panicked etc.
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(Please donât be rude to me if you do reply. I know I couldâve handled it better) So my sister and I recently got into an argument, and I havenât been able to stop obsessing over it. I still donât know if I should apologize or just let it go. The argument started over me needing to wash some clothes. She told me they were already clean, but I explained they werenât. Theyâre my clothes, and I know when they need to be washed. She pushed back and said I didnât need to, and when I asked how it affected her, she said doing laundry costs her money. That was the first time I heard laundry being a problem. I offered to send her money for it, but she said no and told me I couldnât wash my clothes at her house anymore and that Iâd have to wait until I get to college. For context, I donât have a car, Iâm 18, and Iâm temporarily staying with her because of a difficult home situation. Which gives me nowhere else to wash my clothes. I got frustrated because this wasnât the first time sheâs changed her mind after saying yes to something. I know she has every right to set boundaries in her home, but I just wish she had said something earlier instead of switching up at the last minute. It felt sudden and harsh. Part of the frustration comes from our dynamic. My sister can be very controlling. She likes things done her way, and sometimes it feels like she says no just because she can. For example A little while ago, my sister offered to pay me to complete three tasks after I quit my job. I agreed and started on them, but midway through she changed her mind and said sheâd only pay me for one. I get that she mightâve had her own reasons, but it still affected me, especially since I was relying on that money. For that reason in the moment, I felt like I had to stand up for myself. But now Iâm looking back and realizing she really didnât owe me anything, even if I didnât agree with how it was handled. Later on, my brother told me, âThey donât owe you an explanation. Itâs their house.â And while I know thatâs technically true, hearing that really stung. I grew up in an environment where I was constantly told âdonât ask questionsâ or âyou donât need to know,â so now when people say things like that, it hits hard. It brings back that feeling of being shut out or disregarded. I also found out after the argument from someone else that my sister and her husband had been annoyed about how often I was doing laundry and thought it mightâve been OCD-related. Itâs not. I just donât have many clothes here, so I wash when I run out. They never told me directly. They only mentioned it to my mom and brother, so I had no idea it was even a problem. If Iâd known, I wouldâve figured something else out with my clothesâŠbut instead my sister blew up on me causing a drawn out argument where I genuinely thought she was being her usual controlling bossy self just because she can. Iâm not trying to be entitled. I know Iâm staying here for free, and I genuinely appreciate it. I just wish people understood that communication isnât about owing someone anything. Itâs about respect. If someone expects something, and you say yes multiple times, and then suddenly say no at the last minute, itâs hard not to feel hurt or caught off guard. Iâve been replaying this whole thing in my head nonstop. I donât want to keep obsessing over situations like this. Ik that no one is right in a misunderstanding itâs just about perspectiveâŠbut as I continue to replay it in my head I just sound so entitled. I was just frustrated because my sister always finds something to push me around about I misread the situation and escalated it. In reality I was racking up the bills and in reality they didnât need to tell me that (which they didnât) I was just supposed to walk away and accept the no. I just hate being the âbad guyâ in situations. My sister told my brother in law and Iâm pretty sure theyâre both annoyed with me being here. (Iâm not trying to be a victim thatâs just the vibe Iâm getting) I want to learn how to let things go without letting them take over my mind. If anyone relates or has advice, Iâd appreciate it.
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