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yeah it sounds like ur mom is trying to control ur sexuality or try to figure out what ur body looks like or is curious how puberty has changed u which is so so so weird for anyone let alone a mother to do. please stay away from her whenever u can. there are assault hotlines that can help u with this stuff. and therapists. u can try to stay over at a friend’s house if possible. i’m sorry i don’t know what else to say and i can’t rlly help but that is so invasive and i’m so sorry
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Thank you so much for your comment 🙏🏻
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It is ok to feel the way you're feeling. Regardless of who it is, even your mother, should respect your boundaries, period. If all else fails, '6 ft mom, you could have the 'rona" lolol all kidding aside, it sounds like there are other underlying issues with Mom, and talking to ur therapist about hidden factors could explain why her actions manifest into unwanted touching. Sounds like mom needs to speak with a therapist too. Best of luck friend, hang in there!
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Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Thank you for telling your story. Boundaries are important "I don't like when you touch me inappropriately" "do not touch my butt, or my breasts" You also have the right to push someone's hands off you. Stay affirmative. Make it clear. I'm very sorry you're experiencing this. I'm not sure what her intent is. You could try to ask "what are your intentions when you're trying to touch me like that? I've made it clear I don't like that."
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One day you'll be able to have your own place and feel secure and safe. Don't give up. Stay in school push for a career save up, get your license and continue to stride for independence.
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While you don't have to identify this way, there are free support group/ group therapies for sexual assaults/ child abuse. Some of the feelings you're feeling are universal in those categories and so the groups can help you (virtual ones too) even if you don't personally classify it as sexual abuse.
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- 24w
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- 19w
Early this morning, my mom and I had a really, really long discussion. We talked about a lot, but it eventually led to me. She said that because of her past relationships, which she feels like involved some sort of power struggle, sometimes if I hug her too often, she gets uncomfortable/anxious. For context, before my parents (mom or dad) go anywhere, I'll say goodbye, I love you, and give them a quick hug or two. Even if I'm just going upstairs or walking away from a conversation! I've done this since I was little. It might've been a compulsion back then, but it's just habit now. But a couple of months ago, when I was in a really dark place due to OCD, I'd give my mom really long hugs because I just wanted comfort during that point in time. Unfortunately, it ended up stressing my mom out, and she pushed me away once and said it was weird or uncomfortable when I hugged her because it didn't feel genuine. That really hurt to be rejected like that, and then later, my sister told me my mom complained about me in the car about how it felt like I was draining the energy from her and annoying. Which... That hurt, too. But I mainly felt guilt because that wasn't my intention at all, and I've since tried my best not to hug her as often. So when she brought it up again today, she said she feels like she's experiencing a power struggle with me and that when I was younger, she said she felt like everything had to be on my terms. The context behind that is due to me being a really anxious child (and baby). I'd wake her up because I'd get really bad anxiety at night and panic, and she said it was really exhausting and that she's never known what to do with me. Then she went on to tell me really private details about my father and hers marriage (they've been divorced since I was little), and how that's affected her, and I just felt really uncomfortable. Like I want to be respect her boundaries, and I don't want to make her uncomfortable, but... I don't know what to do with all of this...? I didn't need to know those details about her and my father, and I feel really disgusting inside. And also guilty because my dad doesn't know that I know any of these things now, and I'm overwhelmed. I talked to my dad and his girlfriend about it, and I just started crying. I just feel so... Ugh :( They both comforted me, and my dad said that my mom's always struggled with physical affection and that I shouldn't take it personally. But it hurts to be rejected by a parent like that. I've tried the best I can to be understanding and supportive with her, but it just felt like she's seen me as a burden or something unfixable. If you read this far, thank you so much. I'm just really struggling to process this. I felt better after talking with my dad, but once he went to bed and I went back to my room, I just broke down.
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- 14w
I got diagnosed with OCD (variant POCD) about 3/4 yeats ago. Lately I've been really confused and makes me uncomfortable this ideas that I've had dreams in my sleep where I have romantic/sexual interactions with my older sibling— I know it's disgusting, and I don't know what to do. Recently I got a boyfriend after years of being without a partner, and he makes me so happy along my friends, but sometimes at random points of the day I have this episodes with minors or my sibling, and the ones with him start to go heavier when I'm at home or alone. The first thing that comes to mind for me to do is always how much I don't wanna live, harm myself or what is my purpose at this point (22fem) having this problems. I feel weirded out when I pass them over, and suddendly think about not giving them the atention because how important they are in a negativa way. I'm just anxious writing this, I need help. Is someone living the same? How do you work on it? I will always be like this from now? — thanks in avance and sorry for mistakes, english isn't my first language
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