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- 6y
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- 6y
I feel like u handled it well considering u live with ocd. Maybe a break will help , I know u said u have me or u don’t. But maybe it’s good for u to clear u head and maybe u have a chance later. However if not that’s , that’s cool too. I feel like u handled it well so be proud of that. Break ups are tough , ocd or not
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- 6y
I think its up to you to help communicate what happened. He thought that you loved another friend. Have you cleared that up? All I see is misunderstandings and just MORE communication! ? if you want to be with him, go back to him and clear things up. You need to make it up to him. I don’t think his reason was BS. If he thought that you loved another guy and felt distant for a long time, that makes pretty much sense! Imagine being in his shoes. Tell him how you feel. Love is a choice. What you did wasn’t ok. Talk about ur feelings and why he felt distant. Put more effort to fixing things, instead of placing an ultimatum. Good luck!
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- 6y
Sounds like there have been some miscommunication about what OCD is all about. Talk to him about the difference between egodystonic and egosyntonic thoughts and desires. It sounds like he interpreted you as acting on egosyntonic thoughts and desires, which isn't OCD (crudely put). If he's still hurt then it is his loss. Both you and he have duties in your relationship if one or both have OCD, your partner have either inform himself or get information from you/your therapist about OCD, and you have to really try not to compulse, especially if it is ruining your relationship. Information is, to use an expression we use in Sweden, A and O (very, very important).
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- 6y
Thank you guys
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- 25w
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- 17w
I broke up with my boyfriend today because of how bad my anxiety had gotten I couldn’t tell what was my heart and what was my head. I’m heartbroken because I feel like I lost my best friend and I truly do have love for him and want him in my future. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. We broke up because I’m not on medication for my anxiety and have a doctor’s appointment coming up on Wednesday to see about getting some. I still feel anxious after our breaks but I feel guilty to admit that I do feel better. I’m still just anxious in general a little and I don’t know why. We had decided to stay in touch but not on a daily or even weekly basis, just because there is no hate in our relationship just pure love. I’m just so scared and sad that I really will lose him and be all alone.
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- Date posted
- 15w
Recently me and my ex partner broke up. We met recently and when he asked me how I was I told him I was suicidal and broke down crying. I told him instantly that obviously the break up hasn’t made me suicidal but the ocd that’s come with it has. I felt so bad that a few days ago I messaged him to say sorry for how much I’ve contacted him and for being such a mess. I asked him if he still wanted to be friends and he said we would but now I can’t stop thinking that maybe he’s just saying that because he knows I’ve been suicidal. I just want this all to stop, I don’t know how to stop thinking about all I did wrong and how much harder I’ve made this break up
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