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- 6y
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- 6y
I feel like u handled it well considering u live with ocd. Maybe a break will help , I know u said u have me or u don’t. But maybe it’s good for u to clear u head and maybe u have a chance later. However if not that’s , that’s cool too. I feel like u handled it well so be proud of that. Break ups are tough , ocd or not
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- 6y
I think its up to you to help communicate what happened. He thought that you loved another friend. Have you cleared that up? All I see is misunderstandings and just MORE communication! ? if you want to be with him, go back to him and clear things up. You need to make it up to him. I don’t think his reason was BS. If he thought that you loved another guy and felt distant for a long time, that makes pretty much sense! Imagine being in his shoes. Tell him how you feel. Love is a choice. What you did wasn’t ok. Talk about ur feelings and why he felt distant. Put more effort to fixing things, instead of placing an ultimatum. Good luck!
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- 6y
Sounds like there have been some miscommunication about what OCD is all about. Talk to him about the difference between egodystonic and egosyntonic thoughts and desires. It sounds like he interpreted you as acting on egosyntonic thoughts and desires, which isn't OCD (crudely put). If he's still hurt then it is his loss. Both you and he have duties in your relationship if one or both have OCD, your partner have either inform himself or get information from you/your therapist about OCD, and you have to really try not to compulse, especially if it is ruining your relationship. Information is, to use an expression we use in Sweden, A and O (very, very important).
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- 6y
Thank you guys
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- 17w
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- 16w
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