Trying my best to word this without asking for reassurance- I am really struggling with the thought that I may have lied about something to my husband 2 years ago and that it was something important. I don’t remember feeling like I was lying at the time. I believe I probably left out certain information because I did not think it was relevant to his question, but now my mind is trying to tell me that I thought I was lying at the time and/or he would think it’s a lie. I am trying to remind myself that this is a very gray situation, and that someone can say something is a lie, and someone else can say it’s not a lie, and that’s it’s a matter of opinion. My main compulsion is confession and I’m really sitting through the urge right now because I know if I confess this something will just take it’s place. Any feedback on dealing with obsessions around lying?

That makes perfect sense. That is exactly what I experience. And then I wonder did I lie by leaving something out? Was that vital information to the question being asked? But you are so right. It makes me feel extremely guilty by the reality is sometimes we just leave things out kind on auto-response or how we think it applies to the conversation in the moment or whatever. It’s pretty difficult to answer everything with 100% honesty all facts and details included all of the time, especially if you are anxious or uncomfortable, which I was. I guess all I can say is I did the best I knew to do at the time and that’s all that really matters anyway. Thanks for your insight and support with this.

@Maybe,MaybeNot Of course! I hope I helped a little because you have helped me so much lately! Honestly, lying in conversation would probably my biggest concern if I wasn’t so freaked out about sexual stuff so I have a lot of compassion about this topic that your struggling with.

@Have a sunflower🌻 Thanks friend. It helps to know I’m not alone. And I know you worry about the sexual stuff- sometimes I worry I’m not sexual ENOUGH so it’s funny how people can see things so differently.

@Maybe,MaybeNot Oh goodness I never thought about it from that perspective. That’s definitely not something I’ve ever been concerned about but I am confident that you can at least tell yourself that you are more sexual than me if that makes you feel better haha.

@Have a sunflower🌻 Lol 😂 good point

@Maybe,MaybeNot I can actually relate to both of you, sometimes I feel like I'm too sexual and I disgust myself, other times I feel like I'm not sexual enough in certain moments and I worry about it. There's a lot more to it than that for me though, I'm explaining it very vaguely, but I think it goes to show just how differently we all look at things in our mind, we all perceive things in life in so many different ways than the people around us are. I think that's why this app is so helpful, it helps us to see things in a whole new light that we would've never thought to look at it in on our own. We often get stuck in a rut in our minds because we keep replaying the same thoughts we're having about something over and over again until someone helps us break that cycle, so that's why it's so good to talk with others about how we're feeling, which I guess is also where therapy comes in to play too. I hope you're both having a good morning Maybe,MaybeNot and Have a sunflower! Let's do our best to show our OCD who's boss today! :)

@Drew777 Yes we got thissss 💪🏻

Thank you, yes the memory deffinitely gets more confusing. I guess it’s impossible to solve so we may as well let it go and just move on.

This is great feedback thank you!!!