Adulting is stressful

I’m a young adult, second year in college and I rented my first apartment this year. I’m moving in exactly 1 week, and god this whole process is beyond stressful. I’m excited to live separate of my parents and have my own place, but can’t stop stressing about the “what ifs”. What if my neighbors suck, what if my landlord sucks, what if me and my roommate don’t get along, what if I can’t function on my own, what if I mess up my rent, what if I develop debt, all the what ifs of adulting are weighing me down. I should be excited right now, I should be hopeful for the future but ocd once again ruins everything for me. I wish I could appreciate this new start instead of worrying so much about it. Anyone else go through something like this?

Username: asullyasully

Date posted: 1y ago

I can so relate. Change and transition was always anxiety inducing for me. You’re not alone!

Username: Kelseywendt2022!Kelseywendt2...

Date posted: 1y ago

Yes! Actually my fiancé and I and his mom, sister just moved literally yesterday and my and my fiancé have to do it again in 6 months lol. MOVING IS NOT FUN!! I GET IT!!!

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

I’m in my late 20s but I remember that stage and just want to validate how stressful it is. I feel like society can be judgmental or non sympathetic towards emerging adults, but it’s a stage where you are juggling SO much at once and stepping into new situations all the time and the costs of mistakes can feel really high. I found it helpful to just take it day by day. You don’t need to have everything figured out at once. If you have supportive parents that’s great and if not, I hope maybe you can find a mentor like figure who’s been through it to help navigate these years as well. I believe ERP messages can also be helpful here: “I’ll go into debt or maybe I won’t” for example. I really felt for you when I read your post! On the flip side, there are also so many wonderful things about being in college and I hope youre able to enjoy them too—learning new things all the time, building community and a life separate from parents, and more :)

Username: maddiesue13maddiesue13

Date posted: 1y ago

Hi! Also entering my second year in college and currently moved into my first apartment with random roommates whom I didn’t know. for the past entire month I had been stressing that they would be bad roommates and would violate my boundaries and invade my space, steal my things, contaminate my cups with their germs, or be really loud and obnoxious, or even worse not like me. But I am here to tell you that none of that happened even though my OCD wanted to make me think it would. My roommates are really nice and when I talked with them about my weirder than “normal” boundaries they were very chill and accepting of me. I love college and yet the thought of returning well not having strong friendships and living with random people made me paranoid all summer, I’m taking it step-by-step and it’s turning out better than I expected! Still working on the clothes friendships but OCD has been wrong so far, so I believe that you can also get through this transition, and if you need someone to talk and relate to I’m here!

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

@maddiesue13 This makes me feel so much better, it’s awesome that they were understanding of your boundaries. thank you sm for sharing! :,))

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 5y ago

Hello fellow OCD sufferers. I signed the lease for a mid-century 2 bedroom, 1.5 bath, attached garage flat today. It’s in an artsy part of the city and they’re newer so there has always been high demand. I originally applied in 2012, was put on the waiting list, and was finalllly chosen last week. It’s supposed to be an exciting time for me, but I am beyond stressed and scared. I am the absolute worst when it comes to uncertainty, which I understand is a common theme for many OCD folks. I am wondering, how do you think a person living with (mostly) Just Right OCD can better control the stress and anxiety brought on by overwhelming worry about things they don’t know for certain and cannot control? Do you know of any books, blogs, podcasts, etc. that would help me out? Thank you for your help! s

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Username: ocdtrying

Date posted: 3y ago

I’m moving to college for the first time tomorrow and I’m really nervous, and I think the stress of that is making my mind spiral and look for anything else to worry about - my obsessions. Has anyone else dealt w this and if so any tips? :(

Username: emma18

Date posted: 3y ago

Hello everyone. This fall I plan to move out of my parents house and live on my own. I’m extremely nervous about this. I feel like when I’m alone my thoughts and obsessions and anxiety get worse, and also a lot of the times I’m in such a bad place I can’t drive myself anywhere or feel safe anywhere, so I rely on my parents and my friends to drive me places or I won’t get out at all. Is it a bad idea to move out of my childhood home if I can barely do anything without extreme anxiety? I just don’t know what to do. I know I can live here forever and I have to move out eventually, but I feel like I’ll never really be ready.

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