Not ocd related but..

I feel so awful. Getting off the bus today the bus driver told me I have to press the stop button or she wouldn't know to stop. Which is fair but every other day I've been on it nobody has pressed the button at my stop and she still stopped. I just wanna cry, I don't know if I'm just really sensitive (rejection sensitive?) but one small thing like that made me want to bawl. It's just put a downer on my whole day. I just feel like I didn't really do anything wrong given the circumstances? I don't even know how to feel better. I just feel like I've been scolded and it hurts.

Username: Dee CDee C

Date posted: 1y ago

This is just a suggestion. Rather than taking it as a personal critique, perhaps you could look at it as a learning experience. People say & do things that annoy but not necessarily to annoy us.

Username: JillianjohnJillianjohn

Date posted: 1y ago

I totally know how you feel!! I was at Costco the other day and this girl was loading peanut butter into my cart at the check out that I didn’t recognize so I told her it wasn’t ours. My husband came over and said he had put it there and the girl gave me a very mean look and just stared at me like I was crazy. Anyway, I felt really embarrassed and apologized and thought about how I was a failure and all the things that Came up. Once I felt all The feelings I started to Say to myself “maybe she hates me, maybe she doesn’t” and for some reason it gave me a chuckle because I helped me see that the view of who I am through her eyes is so minimal compared to my view of myself. I know I’m kind and sensitive and that’s okay. We all make mistakes and sometimes people may think we are a certain way and that’s their own choice. I Hope you find some peace with this, you are human and that’s a beautiful thing.

Username: squirrelobsessedsquirrelobse...

Date posted: 1y ago

Thank you so much. Sometimes I hate being so sensitive because it really does ruin the rest of my day. But it's also a good thing because it means I care.

Username: HobbitHobbit

Date posted: 1y ago

I'm right there with you. When things like that happen to me, I tend to feel waves of emotion and mentally spiral/ruminate (I have strong OCD around perfectionism and being judged from others). Along with ERP, I'm currently using self-compassion techniques to help myself through the emotions (not to get rid of the emotions, but just to hold myself gently while I experience the negative emotions). For example, telling myself "This is hard. And it's okay that it's difficult. I'm not alone. Every human on earth faces struggles. Let's be gentle with myself while I experience this." Kimberley Quinlan's "Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD" book has been very helpful with this. Her podcast "Your Anxiety Toolkit" is also amazing.

Username: EstridEstrid

Date posted: 1y ago

Yes! Yes! Yes!!

Username: ivrecivrec

Date posted: 1y ago

One thing that helped me is to know that unkind remarks are a reflection on the person who said them not on you. We never know what kind of day they are having before they spoke. Being sensitive is good because we are compassionate. We just have to learn how not take everything personal.

Username: squirrelobsessedsquirrelobse...

Date posted: 1y ago

Hi yeah I agree totally with this. I know it wasn't anything personal but my brain seems to think differently of it. I'm even worried about going on the bus tomorrow :( I hate how I've reacted so strongly to this..

Username: Michie545

Date posted: 24w ago

Advice on feeling like a “bad” person

Feeling like a bad person has always been one of my reoccurring struggles with OCD. I’m working through trauma therapy at the moment and recognizing a lot of stuck points, and connecting a lot dots in relation to my OCD. But I feel like even if I make a small mistake or mess up, I can’t give myself grace - and I assume I’m an awful person. Obviously, my realistic self reassures me I would never intentionally hurt someone or have malicious intentions in situations. But sometimes I go round and round, and even think the only reason I think or want to be a good person is because I’m scared of being a bad person? I know that doesn’t make sense but it fucks with me and I’m sure only this group would understand. Anyway, today for example: I got sorta mad at my bf because he was trying to smack my butt and accidentally hit my back. And I said “ouch, stop - you got my back.” - in literally the least menacing way. And we laughed it off and he felt bad. And then I just couldn’t help myself from apologizing to him because I felt like I overreacted somehow. He seemed very confused and was so sweet about it. But I just felt like I overreacted, and I told him that I felt gross - I was trying to prepare food and it caught me off guard. And he was like “no yeah, that makes total sense - you literally don’t have to explain yourself or apologize at all!”. But I just got into this weird mood now, where I’m convincing myself I’m a bad person and a bad partner. And he should be with someone who is truly the sweetest person ever and beautiful to add on to the obsession. Sometimes I just don’t know what’s wrong with me. I know I’m not a bad person but sometimes the OCD itself is very annoying. I feel like this wave has passed, and I’ve worked a lot on grounding myself and bringing myself to reality. Which is great! But I would really love to know if anyone else struggles with this kind of thing and what helps them in these times?

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 21w ago

Rejection from others

How do you guys deal with rejection from other people or them pulling away when you talk about your OCD and intrusive thoughts? I've been dealing with that a little bit lately and it hurts a lot. I don't know how to deal with it.

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 19w ago

Just got ran into…

Today I got ran into after not doing my compulsion to have safe driving that morning. Now my obsessions are telling me that it’s my fault and that it is just going to keep happening. I have harm ocd regarding driving and thinking I am going to kill someone. Ugh it’s so annoying that I’m triggered again just wanted to rant

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