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Reassurance
I don’t want to voice my OCD because I feel like I am reassurance seeking! But not voicing it makes you feel so alone! Any tips?
I don’t want to voice my OCD because I feel like I am reassurance seeking! But not voicing it makes you feel so alone! Any tips?
I know what you mean, this is so hard I look at being willing to have this feeling (knowing it’s another attempt of our lovely brains to motivate us to do compulsions or really it’s our brain’s misguided attempt to keep us safe😀). So, I will often say to my husband, I’m struggling, but I won’t get specific as to the content. That way I get support without reassurance. Please know, though, there are many of us here who totally get it and are rooting you on!
I think a big part is recognizing when you are trying get the reassurance for OCD or just trying to seek out those who have the same understanding as to who debilitating this can be. It’s important to share and connect with others who have a similar condition because connecting with someone who doesn’t have it is hard and rare in some cases. I think the thing to remember is your intention when posting something or saying something when it comes to OCD. For me, I am pretty aware when I am reassurance seeking vs when I am just trying to connect with others who struggle too.
I feel you on this. It feels so lonely to not be able to talk to anyone. If you have a spouse or a friend to confide in it’s helpful to coach them to be able to listen, and express empathy, without reassuring you that everything will be alright. Because, it might not be alright. Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. Stay strong friend.
So true! I value all the responses here. Ditto.
I’ve heard it’s not good to seek reassurance or give it because it lowers your tolerance to uncertainty. But how do I avoid seeking reassurance when my thoughts and doubts are so bad, I genuinely just don’t know anymore if I’m a bad person or if it’s just OCD? I know I’m supposed to sit with the uncertainty, but how can I do that when the uncertainty has me unable to trust my own brain? Especially when the OCD is real event and POCD? How can I not seek reassurance when I feel so alone and so abnormal and just don’t wanna feel that way anymore? In turn, I see so many people on here struggling so bad and my heart breaks for them. How can I give advice to towers without giving them reassurance and hurting them in the long run?
My ocd them has gotten worse and I’m trying my hardest to not look for reassurance. Why does my mind play these tricks on me that I’m saying my thoughts out loud????? I’m trying my hardest to ignore it but it’s making me depressed. When I’m ignoring it my brain will go to “everybody will talk about you” “you said something bad” “you said it out loud and when you’ll live a terrible life”. I don’t know what to do anymore
I'm trying to not seek reassurance today. I'm not going to. I'm not going to. I'm NOT going to!! Ugh. Why OCD why?
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