- Username
- KevinL
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Reassurance
I don’t want to voice my OCD because I feel like I am reassurance seeking! But not voicing it makes you feel so alone! Any tips?
I don’t want to voice my OCD because I feel like I am reassurance seeking! But not voicing it makes you feel so alone! Any tips?
I know what you mean, this is so hard I look at being willing to have this feeling (knowing it’s another attempt of our lovely brains to motivate us to do compulsions or really it’s our brain’s misguided attempt to keep us safe😀). So, I will often say to my husband, I’m struggling, but I won’t get specific as to the content. That way I get support without reassurance. Please know, though, there are many of us here who totally get it and are rooting you on!
I think a big part is recognizing when you are trying get the reassurance for OCD or just trying to seek out those who have the same understanding as to who debilitating this can be. It’s important to share and connect with others who have a similar condition because connecting with someone who doesn’t have it is hard and rare in some cases. I think the thing to remember is your intention when posting something or saying something when it comes to OCD. For me, I am pretty aware when I am reassurance seeking vs when I am just trying to connect with others who struggle too.
I feel you on this. It feels so lonely to not be able to talk to anyone. If you have a spouse or a friend to confide in it’s helpful to coach them to be able to listen, and express empathy, without reassuring you that everything will be alright. Because, it might not be alright. Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. Stay strong friend.
So true! I value all the responses here. Ditto.
Hi ask in in the middle of an argument with a friend. And I'm having a major urge to seek reassurance. Like chest pain amount is anxiety level. I have failed my ERP today by trying to get reassurance but both people are aware of my OCD and rightly answered may or may not. Anyone have tips on how to get through this? I thought I was on the other side of this but OCD is raring up.
Sometimes I am triggered so badly that if I don’t receive automatic reassurance or consolation it feels like the OCD attack will linger until I ultimately seek out the compulsion (typically confessing to my mother or a therapist.) How do you go about your day when something so huge is nagging you? I need to go on a drive and visit my father but what I really want right now is for someone (usually an authority figure) to tell me that it is all OK.
I don’t want to give in to my compulsions of reassurance seeking for my real event OCD, but I’m feeling super alone and am really struggling. My mom really understands me and I could use some comfort over what I’m specifically anxious about, which I think would be better than seeking it from anyone else. I know that she would tell me what I already know, which is that it’s okay and I’m not a bad person, I just really need to hear it and know that I’m not alone.
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