KevinL
- Date posted
- 1y
Reassurance
I don’t want to voice my OCD because I feel like I am reassurance seeking! But not voicing it makes you feel so alone! Any tips?
VGHVGH
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
I know what you mean, this is so hard I look at being willing to have this feeling (knowing it’s another attempt of our lovely brains to motivate us to do compulsions or really it’s our brain’s misguided attempt to keep us safe😀). So, I will often say to my husband, I’m struggling, but I won’t get specific as to the content. That way I get support without reassurance. Please know, though, there are many of us here who totally get it and are rooting you on!
Coop16Coop16
- Date posted
- 1y
I think a big part is recognizing when you are trying get the reassurance for OCD or just trying to seek out those who have the same understanding as to who debilitating this can be. It’s important to share and connect with others who have a similar condition because connecting with someone who doesn’t have it is hard and rare in some cases. I think the thing to remember is your intention when posting something or saying something when it comes to OCD. For me, I am pretty aware when I am reassurance seeking vs when I am just trying to connect with others who struggle too.
jonnyfivejonnyfive
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
I feel you on this. It feels so lonely to not be able to talk to anyone. If you have a spouse or a friend to confide in it’s helpful to coach them to be able to listen, and express empathy, without reassuring you that everything will be alright. Because, it might not be alright. Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. Stay strong friend.
Ranger_867Ranger_867
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
So true! I value all the responses here. Ditto.
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- Date posted
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- Date posted
- 15w
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