Is it just an excuse for people who rightfully feel guilty for wrongdoing? My therapists and loved ones have assured me that nothing I did was abusive or traumatic to anyone, but it's hard to listen. Is it time to forgive ourselves if we've received this type of assurance? I know reassurance seeking is bad in OCD, but you have to have at least some idea of how others view you I think if you're going to move on.
For me, real event is my biggest struggle. OCD gets so bad it's impossible for me to even grasp the past event in a way that might allow me to heal and move on. I'll be so stuck I lose the ability to experience healthy emotions that are necessary. It's normal to feel bad about doing something wrong, etc. That's there to show us we were wrong. To allow us to apologize, ask forgiveness, receive forgiveness, and move on. OCD keeps us trapped in the toilet bowl. So, apply response tools to get you back on solid ground, then you'll do what needs to be done to move forward. :-)
I have it too. It fucking suckssss. I can’t give you reassurance, but just know, you aren’t alone. I feel like the worst human being mis of the time
Not all instances of real event ocd are about something you did, though. Mine is about something someone did to me.
You don’t have to have an idea of how others view you. Sit with the uncertainty of not knowing.
hey there, i really feel for you. the struggle with those intrusive thoughts and the constant questioning can be so draining, especially when you're dealing with themes like guilt and past actions. i've got my own tangle with pure o, and even though our obsessions might be different, that relentless doubt and the need for reassurance? yeah, i totally get that. just wanted to say i'm here to listen anytime you need to vent or share. so, my therapist told me about this free ai ocd tool called "unstuck" (www.AIOCDtool.com), and honestly, it might be a good fit for what you're dealing with. it's like having a mini-therapist in your pocket that helps you work through those overwhelming ocd moments. you type in what's bugging you and it guides you with steps an actual ocd therapist would suggest. i know app promotions can be annoying, but i'm just sharing this because it's been a lifesaver for me, and i hope it can offer you some relief too. not being pushy, just think it could be worth a shot for your situation. happy to chat if you've got questions about it. 🙌💙
Hi there! Does anyone else experience real event OCD? My days lately are filled with (sometimes) crippling guilt and shame over real things that have happened in the past. These are all things that are relatively minor in the grand scheme of things. I’ve talked to friends/family/therapists about them and I’m reassured they aren’t “that bad” but my mind can’t seem to let them go. Anyone else dealing with this? Any tips for forward progress? Much love to you all. ❤️
How can you tell if you're experiencing real event ocd or you are feeling justified guilt for doing something bad. What I did is something that everyone would consider very bad. Is it still OCD? This is making me miserable.
Am I supposed to feel guilt and shame over my past experiences to this extent? Someone else posted abt real event ocd and how they feel guilt and shame and someone responded “it’s okay to feel guilt and shame, and some mistakes are really bad” and now I’m thinking that my guilt and shame is how I should be feeling over the past. Like how do I know if my OCD has blown up real events or if these real events are something to dismiss.
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