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Username: shazey_k

Date posted: 48w ago

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Is my father's skepticism about my mental health worth sacrificing my well-being?

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So my biological father had a talk with me a couple hours ago. I’ve been trying to process it and honestly it’s not affecting me as much as I thought it would. Anyway so here’s what happened: he told me that I should be careful what I claim. (For context I told my bio parents that I had ocd and possibly schizophrenia due to some signs I’ve noticed) he thinks I’m making this up, to quote this bastard; “I don’t know what game you’re playing…” and he also said that I might’ve been influenced by social media and im attention seeking. In the car he also said that if word got out that I do have a mental illness then no one is going to want to work for me or want me on the road (now I’m not learning how to drive anytime soon, I’m 16 and was supposed to learn this summer because next year I’m going to college) but that’s not the worst of it. It’s the fact that he said I’m causing THEM problems by having mental problems and asking for help. Help that I really need because I have tried to take my life and cut myself a few times now. I’ve also resorted to drinking to numb the pain. But now I’m going to have to tell them that I am in fact fine and have no mental illness because even though I need help, I value my freedom to get away from them than I do getting help. He has told me to go to hell and that he doesn’t care about me multiple times and every time I knew he wasn’t lying when he said he wished this would happen but now there’s no denying it. He never cared and will never care. My bio mother lets this happen and tries to convince he he’s a good guy who does these things because he cares. Someone who cares about me wouldn’t do this. Both of them can go fuck themselves. Thank you for listening to my rant talk 😻🫶‼️

Username: amc1234amc1234

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 48w ago

Sorry you have to go through this. Unfortunately parents are failable at times. Both my parents abandoned me times and were sorta abusive as well. You’re young so I wish I could have gave this advice to myself years ago. But they’re probably doing the best that they know- which isn’t always right. And that their reactions or actions don’t need to determine your future. You are at an age where you’re coming to know yourself and trust me there’s so much more to know. It’s hard not having support. I hope you can find someone you can talk to that you trust about your ocd and get the treatment you need. Mental disorders are not something we wish for or want. It’s unfortunate so many ppl think that it’s easy for us to just change it or to stop it. But you seem strong to post something like this so hang in there ❤️

Username: shazey_kshazey_k

Date posted: 48w ago

@amc1234 Thank you so much for your kind words, they made me cry my ass off. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, some parents don’t deserve children. I hope you’re doing better and are healing/healed 🫶

Username: Lost-Lost-

Date posted: 48w ago

Please just ignore that pathetic and awful behaviour, I’m sorry that you were made to feel less than because you have your own struggles. People that think that others are worth less because of their battles, are used to seeing others as a tool for their own interest or happiness. They are selfish and often have problems they can’t deal with or refuse to deal with themselves and make it look like other people’s fault. And just for the record, all of my co-workers watched me slowly become unable to work and half of them knew it was because of mental health, half of them didn’t, and both my bosses, their bosses and the majority of my coworkers were completely understanding. I acknowledge I am really lucky to be around people like that but I also share that to prove to you the world isn’t built up of heartless people who cast you aside for having struggles. The only people you should want to be around are the ones that recognise we are all subject to suffering and hardship and we are all equally deserving of support. I hope you can learn to have an amicable relationship but never ever emotionally take on his un-empathetic bullshit again.

Username: shazey_kshazey_k

Date posted: 48w ago

@Lost- Thank you so much. You are so right. They are assholes and I won’t pay any mind to them. I’m sorry you had to go through that. I really hope you’re doing better! 🫶🫶

Username: Wolfram Wolfram

Date posted: 48w ago

I'm sorry you've got that to deal with. He's being a dick head. I've seen this repeatedly with people, including my best friend. Just sucks that the people that bring you into the world sometimes won't support you on the way you need. As for any kind of schizophrenia if you have it, my mates got it and doing fine with work and I was willing to teach him to drive too

Username: crazymjccrazymjc

Date posted: 48w ago

i’m sorry, that’s a horrible response from your father. the fact that he says you “cause problems” shows how little he cares. you deserve better

Username: shazey_kshazey_k

Date posted: 48w ago

@crazymjc Thank you. Yep, he truly is a horrible person.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 48w ago

I'm sorry. My dad isn't good either. I don't even tell him I have OCD. I'm sorry, parents are supposed to be there for there children. And I'm sorry you're going through that; life is hard, I know. If you need to talk, I'll listen. :)

Username: shazey_kshazey_k

Date posted: 48w ago

@Anonymous thank you so much 🫶

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 48w ago

That’s so fucked. I’m sorry

Username: JenniesOCDBrainJenniesOCDBrain

Date posted: 48w ago

hey, i'm really sorry you had to go through that with your bio dad. it sounds incredibly tough, especially when you're already dealing with so much. you're strong for sharing your story here, and we're all here to listen. 🫂 i've been there, and what really helped me was this free AI OCD therapy tool called "unstuck" (unstuckmyocd.com/try) that my OCD therapist gave me. it'll be especially helpful for you because it provides personalized step-by-step support when OCD gets tough, just like an OCD therapist, and it can be a discreet way to get help without escalating tensions at home. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! <3

Username: shazey_kshazey_k

Date posted: 48w ago

@JenniesOCDBrain Thank you 🫶

Username: Mars

Date posted: 5y ago

I’m angry. Irritated. Whatever. I’m in a day program and yesterday they’re freaking out because I was open about my harm ocd. The dr I saw yesterday in the afternoon that wasn’t my actual doctor talked to me and told them it’s just ocd. Today my actual doctor told me to TELL MY FATHER THE THOUGHTS I GET OF STABBING HIM AND MY MOM IN THEIR SLEEP. Because “I don’t think he’d understand if he heard it from me” ME EITHER. Why the HELL would you give meaning to my thought?! Why would you make me tell him?! There’s no purpose, he’s an idiot! He was like “so you get thoughts of murdering us in our sleep” and said “should I be ready”. And then my dumb self mentioned my pocd while trying to explain ocd to him. ?‍♀️ He’s “trying” to be better then he used to be but he still pisses me off. I miss my best friend, I used to trust her with this stuff. I hate talking about my dad to anyone else.

Harm OCD

Username: Bryan

Date posted: 3y ago

I have a lot to say to my parents, I am 35 mine started young but hit hard at 16. Why didn’t they get me the help with this I needed growing up?? I could have been cured of this mess this disorder I didn’t have to suffer for 22 years. I feel like a fool like a idiot for suffering all these years I feel like a fool for my past for me trying to “figure myself out” it didn’t have to be like this or like it is for me right now my life could have been so much better and full of love. I am angry both my parents were drug addicts my mom had OCD she didn’t deserve to have kids when my symptoms got severe I turned suicidal my mom decided she wanted a divorce and abandoned us took my bro and sis and left me with her ex. I watched my dad tumble thru the divorce threatens suicide on me 3 times and I watched him put a shotgun in his mouth. All this is coming back up I am 35 now. I can’t stop thinking about the things I saw and the things that happened to me growing up. All this is on the surface now I am dealing with it. It’s all horrible I have been holding all this in for 22 years. I just want to be free and happy 😊. I feel Horrible

Username: realeventwit...

Date posted: 1y ago

Well it’s over

I’m nearly out of options, my parents are absolute dickheads and assholes, they’ve been helping me with my OCD for 5 months and have just told me they’ve given up and don’t want to help me anymore, they, I quote, ”don’t want to suffer with me”, their suffering being just closing the door behind me because I’m scared I will close it on my cats by accident or occasionally move solething to a safer spot in case it light fall on my cats like knifes, forks etc. And buying me disposable paper plates and forks to eat with and they call that suffering witb me... When I spent the past 5 months constantly being anxious about my cats’ safety, spending sleepless nights crying my eyes out wishing I was normal and doing upwards to hours of compulsions daily to make sure my cats’ envioremenement was safe and taking care of them, not to mention all the days wasted preventing myself frol having fun doing things I enjoy to punish myself from my actions and intrusive thoughts, that’s my suffering, I don’t want to be a selfish prick, but I think I’m justiified in saying my suffering outweights theirs a thousandfold. My dad yelled at me, saying I’m not doing anything to get better?! Like, is he stupid? Does he think I’m the one delaying my appointement with my psychiatrist? My psychiatrist is the one who was supposed to see me last month but told me he couldn’t at the very last minute because he had a meeting to attend to... And no other psychiatrist are available for now and have an even bigger waiting list. He told me I wouldn’t see a doctor to get some medication when I already have medication, I’ll see the doctor when I’ll see I’m running out, I’m not refusing to see one. He said I should find a job when I’m already at uni and don’t have the physical and mental strenght to do that yet. He yelled at me to stop with my OCD immediatly or he’ll kick me out of the house knowing I have nowhere to go.

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