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- 1y
Guilt from sexual behavior in childhood
Anyone else suffering from guilt and shame from sexual things they did as a kid when they didn’t know any better. And if so how do you cope with it I really need help thx
Anyone else suffering from guilt and shame from sexual things they did as a kid when they didn’t know any better. And if so how do you cope with it I really need help thx
By learning a lot of it is normal and you shouldn’t blame yourself because you were a kid who didn’t know better. I was shocked to hear people I consider to be really evolved and kind tell me they had experiences like this and had to work on forgiving themselves for not knowing better too. My goal is not only to forgive but break the cycle
Yea. At first I didn’t even realize that it could be related to OCD. Mind you I am undiagnosed but I’ve had a fairly consistent pattern of OCD behaviours. And I deal with this theme on and off and every time it comes back it is so debilitating. It feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Realizing that a lot of it is common behaviour helped a bit. It still comes and goes but knowing that other people struggle too makes me feel not alone.
This thread alone is enough to show how common it is. You’re okay. Your brain wasn’t developed, you didn’t know and it is the past. Let it be there and be in the today.
Regardless of nature, you to learn to understand that you were just a kid, and kids know nothing, and have extremely underdeveloped brains. For example consider that There’s a reason legal systems don’t punish kids and adults the same for the same crime. Kids are dumb.
Same
Real events OCD is so hard :( Self love/compassion practice can be helpful. ❤️ learning to forgive yourself is so important. I am also currently struggling
Hi everyone, I'm struggling with what I think are intrusive thoughts, possibly related to OCD, and I'm hoping someone here might relate. When I was younger, in my early teens, I went through a period where I had a strong interest in pornography. During that time, I encountered hentai involving male characters, related to an anime I enjoyed. One of the characters was someone I even looked up to. I feel incredibly uncomfortable admitting this, but I believe I engaged in sexual activity related to it. Years later, I'm plagued by intrusive thoughts about this. I feel intense self-disgust and shame. It's like this memory has "tainted" my ability to enjoy that anime, and sometimes other things. I'm constantly replaying the situation in my mind, questioning my past actions, and worrying about what it means about me. The anxiety is significantly impacting my life. Does anyone else experience intrusive thoughts focused on past events, particularly those that cause feelings of shame or disgust? How do you cope with the constant replaying and questioning? I'm looking for support and understanding. Thank you for listening.
I know I shouldn’t and I’m trying not to ask for reassurance but how do I deal with this when I made real event mistakes in childhood? I’ve opened up to my cousin about this who’s an adult and believes that kids can be influenced at a young age and mimic things that they see and friends and my therapist. They all see the good in me and my stupid childhood mistakes but the guilt is very strong and even though I’ve opened up It’s telling me to open up more and more and I don’t know what else it wants from me.
i need some kind words or maybe some advice? basically i went through trauma as a kid including sexual, and acted out in disturbing ways. I’ve done things i regret. even as an early teenager i did also. the only weird things ive done recently were compulsions and weird ocd driven stuff… but besides that ive found it easy to forgive myself for a lot of stuff because i know myself and my intentions and also talking to people helps. but one thing that’s hard is when im intimate with others or in a relationship. i feel so gross and undeserving like if they knew everything ive done in my life they would hate me. I don’t tell everyone everything, i think i only did that with therapists and like one family member. I feel like if I don’t tell someone everything I’ve done that I regret and see if they forgive me for it, then that means im “hiding” something about me and being malicious. anything helps :(
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