I feel like me and my best friend and ending for many reasons but when I talk to her about it she says it’s really all in my head and she doesn’t feel it at all. What is going on??
You are experiencing OCD. What really should have confirmed it for you was that your friend said, "no I don't feel our friendship is ending" and then you went "but what if she's wrong?" This is relationship OCD where the relationship is a friend.
@Anonymous Thank you. This is really helpful. I am not diagnosed with ocd but I have done so much research and I really feel like I have it but I feel like I can’t talk to professionals and get help. So thank you for helping me
Basically that’s the ocd cycle. You have a doubt. Your spend hours doing compulsions trying to figure out the real answer (including reassurance seeking from your friend for confirmation that you’re okay), and even if you temporarily feel reassured, the doubt returns and it repeats. Continuing to try to answer this with 100% certainty will only keep this cycle going and each time make you MORE uncertain ultimately. Not less. The reassurance will lose its effectiveness and you’ll need more and more. Break the cycle! Answer this doubting with “maybe it’s going to end, but maybe not. I don’t need to know with any more certainty than I already have.”
@pureolife Thank you. I have noticed that. I do everything in my power to make people give me the reassurence I want when it’s not humanly possible to completely make me feel okay about it.
@Alice_3 Yup! No ones answers, no matter how many times they repeat them, will ever stop the doubt. You have to stop the cycle.
@pureolife Okay thank you I will try to break the cycle !
I’m confused. I think I’ve gotten progressively more boy crazy and more of a hopeless romantic, but I’ve completely manipulated myself into thinking that boys just don’t like me and I think it’s a fact. In the past, I was confused and lost on what my sexuality was so I would be in a lot of “flirty” friendships thinking that I genuinely liked my female friends I had these friendships with but that was far from the truth. I can’t imagine myself being with a woman but for some reason it’s just easier for me to talk and flirt with them. I have trauma involving why I brainwashed myself into thinking that I’m a magnet that repels boys from me and I still think that and it’s ruining my brain. (I have a crush on this guy and texted him for the first time, he never replied!!!) which honestly proves my point even more. Am I right or is just all in my head? Some advice please!!
I’ve been struggling with relationship OCD and differentiating between what is an intrusive thought and what is a real doubt. I was really happy with my partner then I got one aggressive thought that I didn’t love him and this spiralled into noticing all his flaws. I struggle being around him because I feel a huge sense of guilt that these thoughts even come into my head and I cannot figure out if this is my brain lying to me or this is how I feel. It’s really impacting a relationship that is so important to me.
That’s kinda my question. All my thoughts feel so realistic and so now I doubt if they are ocd and if I just can’t make my mind up about something and I’m using ocd as an excuse or something idc I feel like this post is word vomit.
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