I feel like me and my best friend and ending for many reasons but when I talk to her about it she says it’s really all in my head and she doesn’t feel it at all. What is going on??
You are experiencing OCD. What really should have confirmed it for you was that your friend said, "no I don't feel our friendship is ending" and then you went "but what if she's wrong?" This is relationship OCD where the relationship is a friend.
@Anonymous Thank you. This is really helpful. I am not diagnosed with ocd but I have done so much research and I really feel like I have it but I feel like I can’t talk to professionals and get help. So thank you for helping me
Basically that’s the ocd cycle. You have a doubt. Your spend hours doing compulsions trying to figure out the real answer (including reassurance seeking from your friend for confirmation that you’re okay), and even if you temporarily feel reassured, the doubt returns and it repeats. Continuing to try to answer this with 100% certainty will only keep this cycle going and each time make you MORE uncertain ultimately. Not less. The reassurance will lose its effectiveness and you’ll need more and more. Break the cycle! Answer this doubting with “maybe it’s going to end, but maybe not. I don’t need to know with any more certainty than I already have.”
@pureolife Thank you. I have noticed that. I do everything in my power to make people give me the reassurence I want when it’s not humanly possible to completely make me feel okay about it.
@Alice_3 Yup! No ones answers, no matter how many times they repeat them, will ever stop the doubt. You have to stop the cycle.
@pureolife Okay thank you I will try to break the cycle !
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